Hey. After failing miserably at doing a single approach yesterday, I tried again today. So yesterday I got really anxious at the ammount of people there was, and felt creepy looking for which girl to talk to. So today I changed a few things. I went out in the morning, so I didnt have any time constraint and also felt more energetic and also went to a way less crowded place in the city. Also, instead of simply going for girls, I had this mindset where I was gonna vist X, Y and Z locations in the city, and try to approach girls during those walks. This really helped me not feel like a creep and as if I had a purpose.

During my walk I felt a bit shy and I wasnt gonna go home again without a result, so first thing I did was going up to a guy and asking for directions for certain place, boom felt more energized. Walked a bit more and asked a woman for the same location. All of this reactions were really positive, fun and natural, which makes me realize my biggest issue is approach anxiety and getting over it, once I desensitize myself I think everything is gonna work like a breeze. Anyways, talked to a woman with a big dog, started petting it and had some small talk with her, ended up showing her some pictures of my dog and leaving. This all made me feel much better, since all my interactions were positive its like you stop seeing approaching people randomly as something dangerous.

So I walk the park and I see this girl laying on the grass. Im like, alright shes alone, I guess she looks okay, lets think about this. I sit on a bench, consider what if she isnt good looking, but decide to try anyways, I can always not text her if I dont like her but I DO have to make the approach for myself. So, I take a few deep breaths and go for it. Heart barely rushed this time, I went and told her: Excuse me, I saw you over there and wanted to come say hello. Well, she really wasnt that good looking, so I relaxed even more. I introduced myself, shook her hand, and asked what she was doing, she told me she was actually waiting for her boyfriend so I went: whoops, guess I dont have much to do then, have a nice day then. Then left. I didnt know how I was gonna take rejection when I started this journey but I truly didnt give a fuck, I felt happy about going for it and adding one more approach to the list and the girl being positive about me going to talk to her.

Didnt approach anymore for the day, tried to but kinda failed. Ill go out tomorrow again. I realized what scares me the most isnt the girls reaction, but the feeling of people looking at me as I approach and introduce myself to the girl. So I guess im gonna try to look for girls on their own and in not so crowded places, so that it becomes eassier to do so in any other environment. I also thought about how easy this would become if I did one approach every single day. I guess this is a very common kind of challenge and I can see myself doing it, ill think about it. Right now my objective is to mantain one approach per day, increase if possible and try to have a positive interaction so that I can keep myself motivated.

Also, if anyone read the previous post, first girl I approached the other day ended up ghosting after texting for a while. I counted on ghosting being part of game, but still feels kinda bad to invest some time in having expectations with a woman to have her cutting off communication like that.

I know these field reports are kinda lame compared to whatever you can see online dating coaches do, but im writing them as a journal for myself, hoping to look back on these a few weeks or months from now and see how Ive improved. Im just a normal guy trying to get better at this, taking it step by step. If it helps anyone reading this then youre welcome too.

Update 1: What the actual fuck girl just replied back saying shes been busy, sent an audio telling me she was where we met the other day and that she thought about me. Ill try to text less this time and close up a date, dont really have much expectations but ill push it a bit more.