Philadelphia: As I was out surfing the girls tonight, I experienced some AA: The only thing I was anxious about was not having anything to talk about when I approached the girls. I imagined myself walking up, saying something, the girl says something back, and, with nothing further to say, I would then have to walk away. I wasn't afraid of that happening (no shame), I just didn't want to waste my time and hers going through an exercise of futility.

I finally did approach the girls I wanted to talk to after bouncing through a couple of sets, so doing it that way seemed to work out pretty well. When I had first approached them, I just said you look like you could be a tiger, with those stripes, which was pretty lame. She mumbled something and looked away and her friend did also. So, my fear became a reality and so I walked away and opened a group of girls nearby. It was one of them's birthday, so that gave me an easy topic. After the target girls watched me talk with these other girls, they looked at me and seemed like they wanted to be approached again so I did and talked with them for a while. The one that was looking at me asked if I was with those other girls. I said no, they were just giving me food. (Little red Riding hood had a basket of brownies). She said "Then why are you here?" I went the philosophical route and said "Why are YOU here. Why is anyone here." She sat there looking at me. "Stop looking at me like that." (Discussing how a girl is acting or what type of look she is giving you is a really valuable thing to do.)

When I was done, I had opened 3 sets with 6 girls total, which gave me an opportunity to talk with the girls in each set. Ended up with 1 girl from the first set winking at me and a girl from the target set giving me the doggy dinner bowl look, which was actually pretty romantic. But alas she was married, and happily so she said (I asked), so I figured I would practice negging and teasing/threatening to do stuff with her. I told her if she wasn't married, I'd already be kissing her, in fact if I were to kiss you right now, you wouldn't stop me. She agreed, saying: "probably not". I looked her deep in the eyes and said: "You are so bad!" and went back to the other set. The winky girl was a little less my type, but she she was the type who is hot to other women so I was thinking she would make the perfect wing to take with me.

I didn't try to make a connection because this other guy was hitting on her, and I wanted to give him room because I didn't want her for myself, but later on, I was thinking I probably shouldn't have been so polite and should have gotten her number anyway. Maybe I'll drop by and try to catch her another night, but that was a miss- you gotta get their number while they are there. On my way out I saw a bonus girl sitting by herself and just walked up, asked her how she was doing, what she's drinking and how long she's been there tonight. Then I asked what she did, which led to a half-hour conversation and number close.

Anyway, the lesson of the night is to start with someone near you, talk with them and catch someone's eye in the next set, then open the next set, catch someone's eye in the next set, and then open the next set. Each time, you're trading in your social proof to buy another set. After a while, you should have 3-4 open sets to rotate around, and then you just keep walking the rounds, checking in with them. It's really fun because it gives them a chance to miss you and each time you show up it's like a mini reunion. I used to do that at Mardi Gras parties with a female wing a few years back and it's a pretty fun activity. Once you get the hang of it, it's really easy to recruit one of the girls to go set-surfing with you, because they just love it- it's like an addiction for them.

The whole night, I didn't even touch one person, so on my next outing, I need to practice on non-romantic, ordinary kino such as forearm touching, upper arm touching, repositioning girls by grabbing their upper arms to take psychological control the frame, pulling them in close while looking away (is she always like this), and teasing them with push-pull by interrupting stories, rolling off, and pushing them away.

One of the tricks to building attraction is focusing on little things they want (finishing a story, continuing talking/giving attention) and then trolling them by interrupting these things and taking them away, and making them ask or demand that you continue. One childish game you can play is order an extra glass or bottle of water, tell the girl it's for her, and set it out of her reach. When she asks, say "Oh, did you want something from me?" Go in really close, looking deep into her eyes, switching from eye to eye and ask with a concerned voice "What is it that you want from me?". That's a good way to polarize and build tension- she'll either be angry or mesmerized, and you'll be able to tell which result you got from her. And if she pauses her expression, even for a second, that means mesmerized and you can probably go ahead and kiss her, because that's likely what she was thinking about during her pause.

Now that I think about it, that's a great kiss-opener to use anytime you want to kiss a girl: Just go in really close, looking into each eye and say "what is it that you want from me?"

So, what type of AA do you guys have?

Are you thinking the girl is going to get angry with you for hitting on her?

Are you thinking the girl is going to dismiss you?

Or are you like me and just afraid of wasting her time by not having anything to say?