Hi Seddit,

I am 23, and a girl who is a few years younger (20) just left my place.

So I got a text from a buddy last week saying a friend of his saw me and wanted to meet me. He gave her my number and she started texting me right away. Text game is not my strong suit so I planned a coffee date pretty quickly and went from there. This was my first "blind date" i guess, but not totally blind cause she added me on facebook.

Coffee was nothing too special. I kept the conversation going though there were a few lulls. It definately wasn't my A-game, but my saving grace was that I didn't let it get to me. I stayed confident (or at least passably "faked it").

After about 40 min I was running out of stuff to say so I asked if she wanted to come over and watch a movie or show. She said yes.

We watched one episode of Archer, half way though we started making out (I told her I had an idea, but it was kinda risky. She looked at me sorta like "huh?" and I went for it. I have had success with this before and it seems to be kind of endearing while also kinda ballsy). After the episode I took her hand and led her to my room. No resistance or questions.

I take off my shirt as we are making out on my bed.. when I try and take hers off the LMR starts. She just says "No". I can tell she wants it but she also doesn't want to look easy. I tried escalating ala DiCarlo but only had mild success (I ended up getting her shirt and bra off but thats it).

I tried a few more times (I think one or two too many) but none of it was too overbearing or serious so it wasn't too hard to play off when she kinda tensed up. Then we just lay there for a bit (cuddling or whatever) and I told her she had to go cause I had some family stuff to take care of.

I asked her for drinks later in the week and I'll text her to plan it out later in the week.

Honestly the date wasn't that stellar, but at the important parts (ie. starting the conversation, keeping it going via threading and looking around the room, asking her over, leading her to my room, going for it without reservation until she said stop) I did confidently. I'm realizing confidence is more about having the balls to go for what you want and being unappologetic about it. Fake it til you make it!

Thanks for reading!