So I met this girl on hinge. On our first date we really hit it off, we ended up being all over each other and making out like teenagers. More often than not girls have given me the feedback that I move too fast too soon, so as hard as it was I decided to be patient this time and not invite her back right away. We arranged plans for a second date like 4 days later on a Sunday.

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She picked me up from my place and greeted me with a makeout, we went downtown to play some games at a bar arcade. We walked around the city holding hands, making out more. I play guitar and tell her I wanna show her a new song I'm working on. She agrees and we head back to my place. I play for her a bit, we snuggle on my bed and watch some YouTube videos. We start getting more physical when she stops me and says she is on her period, but she gives me a blow job and wants me to "return the favor" next time. I walk her to her car, we make out more and talk about different favorite sex positions. We agree to meet one week later the following Sunday.

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Come next Sunday she cancels saying she has a migraine and asks if we can reschedule. I say ok and we reschedule for the next Saturday. We agree to a certain and time and I text her "see you then", she responds with a smiley face emoji - Then as if out of nowhere she responds 5 minutes later with this - "So I know the expectation of our last date is that we'll have sex and last time I thought that's what I wanted, but I'm just really not ready to have sex. With anyone, right now - idk if another date is a good idea" - I tried to reassure her that we won't do anything she's not comfortable with but her guard seemed to be up and is staying up. She seemed to reluctantly agree to still meet Saturday and texts me asking what I want to do (clearly meaning what do I want to do that's not sex), I suggest playing pool and maybe watching a movie to which she replies "Sounds good to me". This was Thursday.

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The Saturday we were supposed to meet (yesterday) I text her asking if she can pick me up again. She responds with "So I was thinking, if you are down, I'd really like to cook dinner and maybe watch a movie at my place. What do you think?" A great sign I thought, maybe she changed her mind back again? I agree and head over to her place last night. She greets me with more kisses, and we're spooning standing while we're cooking together and stuff. I made some comment about how I like it how when turning on the garbage disposal it unclogs the sink and makes the water go down, I joke that it aroused me. She looks at me and says "I hope not bc we already had this conversation" (Clearly implying that she is set on us not having sex). I thought her "guard up" text was just her trying not to seem easy, I didn't think she was actually being 100% serious. Anyways, we eat together and then snuggle up on the couch and watch some netflix. We start making out more and I'm trying to push for it a little bit, she stops me and tells me that where she's at right now is that she currently has feelings for another guy in her home state (she just moved here like a moth ago), and that she can't go any further and that she's sorry. It seems very strange bc she never mentioned him the first two dates and wasn't this resistant on our second date. I say ok and we hang out a little more. She sends me home with some desert treats, as I'm at the door on my way out we start making out again - I somewhat aggressively push her back inside and pin her arms against the wall, she's into it... I start pulling down her pants and she doesn't stop me, but when I try to push her back further into her bedroom she stops me again and says she can't. This time I leave for real, I joke that she can text me anytime and that she doesn't always have to wait for me to initiate texting. She says that she's surprised I still want to hang out with her given what she said (It was a huge turnoff hearing this bc it's like she was saying 'yeah there's 0% chance of us having sex'). I didn't know how to respond. I obviously want to respect her boundaries and not make her uncomfortable, but at the same this just seems really silly and I'm getting frustrated with this situation - We are clearly super into each other, it's only natural that we would get more physical - Why is she dead set on being the gate-lord to the bedroom? It's almost as if she's getting off on denying me idk - We didn't text all day today, but finally I get a text from her about an hour ago saying she has an idea that would compliment a recipe I suggested last night - I want to hang out and cook with her again but if she is saying there's not even a little chance we could go further than idk...

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Is she just testing me? What do you guys make of this? Looking for some fresh insight...