So, ive been wanting to up my game. i can pull 8s regularly without much problem, but now i want to be able to do the same with 9s. my sticking point is that i come off as an asshole negging these girls too hard, but i am getting better. yesterday was a great day for it.

Open a girl on the street in shibuya, and we end up talking for a bit. I ask her "what is such a beautiful girl doing by herself on christmas eve?" it sticks and she starts to qualify herself to me.. was just broken up with by her boyfriend. I was really surprised how quickly she opened up to me, but it was good. we went to get some coffee together.. insta-date! In this set, i made a very sincere effort to not neg her, but instead just do some light teasing.. but one slipped out. she said something weird that I couldnt understand and so i asked her "did you just make a pun? that word has a different meaning in english.. not funny" all the while laughing at it like i thought she had made a joke.

NOTE: puns in japan are called oyaji gyagu, and they are not considered funny at all. the name means middle aged man joke.. because middle aged men make them a lot apparently and noone laughs.

it was an accidental neg, but i see why it works. it works because i complimented her english ability but then said her joke wasnt funny at all.. i am starting to get better with negs. 8s or lower here in japan you really dont need to neg like that.. teasing them is fine.. 9s are a different story.

after that, i could feel the attraction spike and soon I was getting the doggy bowl dinner look. i make a mental note of what i said so that i can field test it later and then i tell her I had to go .. (leaving on a high note-and one of my friends is in town visiting.) so i number close.. seems like a solid number.

i meet up with my friends and we go to a birthday party. after that, we head back to "my bar". I never game here, its my social proof spot. I get there and the workers all cheer. there is a small electro party going on.

then I see her-hb hb9, 18 years old, very very very cute girl. The place wasnt crowded at all, so everyone in there saw me make a great entrance.

i ask the manager and the workers if the people at this party are their friends or anything-they said no. at this point, i broke my no-sarging rule at this place. (i do not want to sarge on their friends and fuck up a good thing.. dont shit where you eat type deal)

I go outside with a buddy to smoke a bit, and we hop onto an adjacent building. When we come back, she sees us jumping across this building back into the stairs for the bar we were at. i go first, hold out my hand for my buddy to take. he grabs it instead of the rail and that was a great DHV. fuck DHV stories, that was actual physical demonstration of "leader of men" and "protector of loved ones". With my social proof from my friends working there, i already had "preselected by women" taken care of.

at this point, i smile at her and go inside. since im trying to get 9s without negging too hard, i figure a good way to go about it is to just establish my status as higher than hers before even talking to her.. that way i dont have to lower hers through negs. I proceed to talk to everyone in the bar, all the guys. one of the dudes has his birthday, and i start a happy birthday song for him. the dj cuts out when i start singing, and then cuts back in when the song is finished. i led the whole bar, and even the DJ in this song, making me easily the highest status male in the room. guys! do stuff like this.. be the guy that starts the happy birthday song.. be the guy starting the cheers.. be the guy having the most fun of anyone in the place. you will have to break out of your shell, but once you get it down, you feel like a king.

after all of this, my buddy turns to me and says that i should talk to the hb9, that shes been staring at me the whole night. its on.

I sit down with some of the other djs, who are all eating the birthday cake.. they give me a slice and hb9 comes over to get some. i invite her to sit down and she does. i didnt once need to neg her, she gave extreme compliance to everything and responded really well to kino. we talk for a while, and she tells me she is 18. i make fun of her because she isnt old enough to be in a bar. I am trying to find out logistics for a same night lay, but it isn't going to work that night. more natural conversation flows and you can tell she is totally into me. we were talking about new years plans (when i was blown out by some hb9.9s earlier.. one of the few things that went well in that set was tofutofu asking them about new years plans.. ) my friend invites me to another club where we have free admission. I say that im gonna go with him, its too bad she isnt 20 and cant enter.. she says she really wants to come with me but knows she wont be let in over there. I number close her and she texts me later, "i am so happy to have met you."

What did i learn? for me, negging girls can go a little bit too far. I am currently trying to work around having to neg a girl. i dont want to be an asshole to her because i get blown out set, dont get laid, and they get pissed. its no fun for anyone. I think my approach for 9s is going to be just getting such high social proof and value that I dont need to neg her, because my value is already above hers.