I went out to a uni party recently. I Had a good time talked to some acquaintances and made a new friend from one of my classes. I wasn’t too drunk just properly buzzing. I was flirting with a girl who I let myself get friendzoned with a while back but we hadn’t seen each other in a couple of months. A girl I asked out who initially agreed then flaked and ghosted, comes up to me and starts apologising for ghosting me, and then asks if I want to try again for coffee sometime.

I say yeah and later on in conversation she invites me over with some friends for predrinks before going out. We walk to hers getting all touchy. We get to hers and have a couple of drinks. At this point I haven’t kissed her yet. So I tell her before she heads to the bathroom that I don’t want to go out I’d like to spend the night with her. We make out. This may not have been the best thing to say but it was honestly what I wanted. Then she says she thinks I’m “trouble” which I was kinda taken aback by. She says she still wants to go out so we eventually leave and are still very physical. We get to the clubs and start making out, her friend female is still hanging out trying to talk to her between smooches but I couldn’t hear what they were saying. We eventually go outside and keep making out and I tell her I want to take her home with me. This is probs when things started to go down hill, as she says she thinks I’m just after one thing. I’m not sure at what level I was interested in her but anyway we keep making out. Maybe I was too insistent cos I ask her once or twice more if she wants to come back to mine in a brief span of time never really getting a concrete answer out of her. We keep making out. I don’t really know what happens but I realise I have work tomorrow and have things I need to get done. I tell her I’m gunna go home because I’m tired which is true.

I realise in hindsight this was probs a dumb idea as it might have looked like to her like once she said she didn’t want to have sex tonight I just wanted to go home. But we said we should catchup sometime in the week so I don’t know. I messaged her earlier tonight saying I wanted to meet up for a drink at a place near where we both live. And she says she had a fun time but doesn’t think it will work out and that she got something “complex” with another guy. I’d be lying if I wasn’t a bit bummed out, I actually felt a bit of a connection with this girl and I thought she was into me.

I kinda see where I went wrong with pressing the going back to mine without trying to move from club to club and have more fun with her. Going home early was also probs a bad idea. I think she wanted to sleep with me but I just really didn’t know how to make her feel comfortable with that, and I think I took her words at face value despite her being all over me.

Any improvements and insights people have would be appreciated.