Backstory: I've been suffering from a few cases of oneitus lately. The latest one has been driving me crazy because she'll hit on me and then treat me like a child the next moment. The problem is we are in a situation where we are forced to live with each other 24/7 in a rural part of the country.

FR: Well I went and travelled with her to one of the bigger cities to bike around and visit some of the touristy places. We had a great time together and flirted a bit and freely talked about our sexual experiences and things like that. But it still felt like she was treating me more like a friend or a brother.

When we got back to our guest house she started to tell me how hot the bartender was and joked around with me about how she's going to flirt with him. I went down there with her to the bar and I struck up a conversation with two girls from the bar. No crazy openers or anything like that just a simple "Hey there, whats your name?" After just a minute or two the girls asked me if I wanted to go to the club with them (fuck yeah!).

I went and asked my friend if she wanted to come with but she decided to stay back. I felt kind of bad for leaving her alone but I knew from being on sereddit for awhile that I needed to let go of her and ultimately I needed to look out for myself and experience other opportunities.

We get to the club and I order a few drinks with the girl that asked me out and then went to a table near the dance floor. Her friends went missing and it was just me and her. I never really memorized any lines or anything like that because I prefer just being natural and confident. I'm feeling kind of nervous and panicking on the inside but I force myself to be cool and confident on the inside by puffing up chest a little bit and just smiling while looking around.

I put my arm around her waist and asked her if this was her first time at a local club in Cambodia and some other statement about how bad the music at these types of clubs. I knew it didn't matter what I was saying as long as I was kinoing and smiling while I was saying it.

Not being experienced enough I have no idea what else to say and wasn't sure what to do. I panicked and told her give me a second while I go use the bathroom. I come back and I see her friends dancing on the floor already while the guy that came with them was being a chump and standing by their drinks. I asked him why he wasn't dancing. He tells me he needs to watch the drinks. I tell him thats bullshit lets go. He tells me in two minutes and I start counting "One two three, one minute, one two three, two minutes, ok thats two minutes lets go." He follows me lead and start dancing with the girls.

I think its funny how I try to act all cocky and funny how I'm forcing this AFC to come dance with the girls with me while I'm panicking myself. I join their circle but I feel like a dweeb dancing with these girls that I've barely talked to. They are dirty dancing with each other while I'm on the outside of the circle trying to figure out what the hell am I supposed to do now. I dance while smiling at them and staring at them and try to lead them to dance with me but I felt like they weren't biting it and it felt awkward. I felt like leaving so bad. I was having anxiety and panic attacks inside my head to just give up and head home and try again another time. But I knew my oneitus girl would be back in my room and how I would like a chump if I came home with nothing and so early.

After awhile of this I go to the bathroom again to clear my head and come out and I can't find them and the club looks likes it emptying out. I go outside and I can't find them. Now I'm feeling at my worst and I feel like they must have left without me. I go back inside just to make sure and I see that they are all dancing again on the empty dance floor with the AFC dancing with them. I say fuck this to myself. If this AFC can dance with them then I can too.

When I go to dance with one of them I grab on of the girls hands and make her do a little twirl and get her to start dancing dirty with me. I get a little high off of this and kind of push her away and do the same with one of her friends, and then again with one of the girls. By the end I was dancing with all of them while the AFC guy is standing on the sidelines wondering what just happened. I'm just like is this it? Is there all there is to it? I found out just by cavemanning it they were all over me. We were then forced out of the club since it was closing down. But I felt like if we were able to just stay there a little bit more then I could have been making out with all of them.

We hang outside a little bit so they can sober up before we head over to get some beers and late night snacks. While we are waiting I start chatting with the more conservative of the girls. During the night she wasn't really dancing or drinking and I can tell she felt weirded out the whole night that some strange guy was hanging out with them. I try to build up some rapport and comfort by asking about what she was doing in the country and everything. I was just asking basic questions and by the end of it I can tell she's much more comfortable now that she knows I'm not just some weird stranger.

I get on the back of the moto with one of the girls and she tells me "Oh I'm sweaty now" I respond back "Yeah I can tell, you stink so bad. Go take a shower you are disgusting right now" or something along those lines. Normally I would have never said anything like that. I would be too afraid of messing it up or hurting her feelings. But she just laughs and says fuck you. I'm getting higher and higher.

We get to the restaurant and its harder to kino and I have no idea how to make the conversations more sexual with all of them there. So I do the stupid interview type questions like ask them what they were studying back home and stuff like that. I do manage to make a few jokes and get them to laugh though and I was leading all of the conversations to what I wanted them to talk about. They ask me for my number but I don't have a phone right now so I gave them facebook details and made some plans to hang out next weekend. We head back to our guesthouse but that was pretty much the end of the night.

I wasn't able k-close or f-close or anything like that but I feel fucking great now. Normally I would have just stayed at the guesthouse hoping my oneitus girl is going to just on my cock without any effort on my part. Now I know if I want something I better have the balls to go get it. And girls love that. Now when I'm going to go to the clubs I'm not going to have any anxiety attacks and just grab them and get them to dance with me instead of hoping they dance with me. If I only knew how easy it was before I would have done this a long time ago.

TLDR: Just fucking man up, grow some balls, and do it.