Hi Seddit. I have been an AFC lurker for a good while now, but recently after graduating decided to try to take more time to take a more active approach. This is an temporary account I made for this subreddit specifically.

Background: There is this Asian HB friend of mine that I have been interested in for years. She has been in a LTR with this loser douche bag boyfriend who is about 7 years older then the two of us and going nowhere with his life. She is generally pissed off at the guy. He cheated on her a while back, but she is still with him. Over the last few years I have tried to grease the wheels and get a foot in the door, but all I got were a couple IOIs and have never been able to seal the deal. Recently she had planned to take a weekend to come drive about 200 miles to come visit me. Her boyfriend finds out that she was planning on visiting me alone. I guess he freaked out and decided to call her friend, which I personally cannot stand and offers her $50 to accompany this girl. The friend agrees. I attempt to play it cool and enjoy my time with her. We all go to a concert the night they come into town. She bought me a ticket as an early birthday present. I luck out a little and I was able to separate her and myself from the friend for a majority of the show. I used a little kino and we were having some laughs at the opening band's expense (the lead singer would look like a female version of the joker if you gave her the proper make up). Nothing significant happens otherwise, but we still have a great time. Eventually the friend says they want to head to another mutual friend's house. One thing leads to another and they end up spending the night there leaving me going home alone. However, the plan was to grab breakfast the next day.

The next morning rolls around. They head over to my place and then we carpool in my car to this really delicious local taco restaurant. On the way, the girl points out that there is a stamp mark on my leather back seat. On my seat is a perfect replica of the stamps that we received when we entered the concert. I instantly remember the friend laying down on my backseat after the concert the night before. I initially start freaking out. I am pretty fond of my car, it was the first thing in the morning, and at the time I was afraid I wouldn't be able to get the stain out. I try to hold it all back, but a negative vibe was created. This allowed the weekend to overall spiral down the drain.

Fast forward to this last week. I drove down to my hometown. I was a little irritated at the girl and her friend. I am invited to a dive bar that some of my good friends frequent and it so happens that she and the friend are there. I start making friends with some people out on the patio and act like I don't notice her and the group she is with. Eventually they call me over. I interact with the table. I crack a few jokes with everyone, as I knew them all. She gives me crap about not letting her know I was coming into town, which I commonly do. I tell her that I posted it on FB a couple days prior and that she could have read it. Eventually we bring up the weekend she came to visit and how she said it was kind of a downer and that she had no interest in really spending much time in the town I am now residing in because I overreacted and made the weekend weird. I got a little flustered and told her. I calm myself and tell her, "That's fine. You don't have to visit. Your loss." I walk away and sit down with some of the people on the patio again and begin to converse.

Next thing I know she runs up behind me hugging me and saying, "I'm sorry! I still love you!" She also says a few other things to that extent in a cute voice. I let her do whatever and continue my conversation with the group I was with slowly trying to draw her into it. At some point I send her to grab me another beer and tell her to buy something for herself while she is at it. The night continues with me for the most part ignoring her. We say goodbye and she departs. So the scenario was: Saturday night I was having a party to celebrate my recent birthday as well as my graduation in my hometown. It was not the best turnout I have ever had for a party, however I decided to still put some damn good effort into it. This girl had told me she was going to show up in a cute dress in a text the night before. Well she was one of the first ones to arrive. I greeted her at her car and she gets out wearing this sexy outfit. It really made her ass look great. So when I hugged her I went and grabbed it. She seemed to react favorably to my kino and flirted a little. She asked if I had anything to eat so before joining the rest of the party I led her to the kitchen, which is separated from the rest of the place. The entire way there we are flirting and kinoing back and forth. I make her an empanada I had helped make a couple days back. While it’s cooking we continue the dance. She begins throw on the IOIs and Kino pretty heavily.

The food is ready so she eats a little while we converse. Then after cleaning up we pick up where we left off. She tells me that she had not had sex in a while and that she was pretty horny. I told her I could fix that. Some kino ensues and she is grinding pretty heavily on me. I start trying to move it onto the next level and she seemed pretty excited at the possibility of sex in the kitchen, but suddenly tells me to stop. We start walking towards the rest of the party and we still pass back a little kino and she throws me some more IOI's. I suggest that we just make the rest of the party wait on us and pick up where we left off in the kitchen. She tells me that she can't, because she was only staying a short period of time before she had to be somewhere else so she wanted to say hi to the rest of the people at the party. We go hang out with everyone, but she follows me around for most of the party.

I start to neg her a little here and there. Eventually she gets a call from a friend she had other plans with. She says goodbye to everyone. I walk her to her car and at this point we get on the subject of the previous night at the bar. She said something to the effect of "The other night you didn't hug me when I left the bar. I got the feeling you were angry with me." I playfully replied, "Only slightly," trying to push her buttons a little. A small amount more kino is traded and she leaves. We also make plans to get together the following day. I, however, suggest that she come back with her friends to rejoin the party later in the night. She tells me she is already too drunk, but said she wishes she could.

Sunday comes around. We traded a few texts regarding plans, but overall communication was poor and the plans fell through. More on her end then mine. I head back to where I live, but let her know I plan to head down in a couple weeks for an holiday celebration, which happens to be the night before her birthday. So I suggest that she join me in celebrating and that we could celebrate her birthday the next day/night as well. So far we left it at that. I plan to set up plans closer to the date.

I feel like I screwed up somewhere or she is still just teasing me. So Seddit, do you have any thoughts, observations, advice, and/or opinions? Where should I go from here?

EDIT: I think I should have controlled the situation better. Maybe convincing her that we could have joined the rest of the party after some fun. Maybe I needed to be a little more forceful.

UPDATE: I briefly established plans with her to go to the beach after the holiday dinner.

TL; DR: Issues with an old friend I am interested in arise. I seem to solve them and peak her interest. She shows lots of positive signs of interest, but I feel something went wrong. I hope to salvage the situation, but not sure what to do now.