Hey sedditors! I meant to write this up a little while ago, but exams and then summer happened, and I lagged on it. Getting critique and suggestions is a good way to get better, so I think I should put this out there. It might be a long-winded, but I want to leave out as little as I can so I can get better feedback. Let me know if less detail is better.

A little while ago on a Monday I went to one of my regular hangouts on campus, feeling great, and walked in with good energy and a smile on my face. I greeted and made small talk with all the people in there, which was pretty easy because the only people were regulars. Then I noticed that in one of the side rooms there was a girl I didn’t know (HB7) sitting at the table, and she didn’t seem to be really doing anything important. I walked in and greeted her with some lame opener. I don’t even remember exactly what it was, but I think I said I didn’t recognize her and asked her what brought her there. I didn’t worry about it because I didn’t think it really mattered. As I walked in, I took a seat opposite her and just relaxed. I think the correct thing to do would have been to sit right next to her in order to initiate kino, so that might have been a mistake.

In any case, she responded okay, and we made the usual bs small talk for a little bit (what’s your major/year, etc.), but I quickly turned the topic towards relationships. It was lighthearted, of course. I took the opportunity to disqualify her when she asked me what kind of girls I’m into. At some point she got shy to be talking relationships and sex with a near-stranger and we changed the subject. At some point she told me that she and some of her friends were going to a bar on Friday night, and invited me to go with them. I said yes and we exchanged numbers. On Thursday afternoon she and I went to a fast food place to meet some of her friends. They turned out to be pretty cool, and I got along great with them. I concentrated mostly on them and paid little attention to HB7, although her friends and I teased her a little. Eventually the friends left, leaving me with HB7. Somehow I worked in that I had resolved to have no orgasms for a week, which I’ve seen discussed here on reddit several times. So of course she immediately started touching me aggressively, like she was trying to make me have an orgasm right on the spot. I played it like I was resisting, but I was really feeling her up just as much. She got really embarrassed when she grabbed my inner thigh, but it wasn’t a big deal. It was pretty funny because we were doing all but foreplay in this restaurant, and people looked at us like we were crazy. I was surprised, because the minute she viewed me as someone she’s not supposed to have, the escalation skipped several steps, since I hadn’t done anything more than give her a hug up to that point. It was getting kind of overwhelming, so we left and I dropped her off at her apartment.

The next day, on Friday evening, I went over to her apartment to wait for her friends to show up, since one of them was to be the designated driver. I knew that I wanted to start escalating a little, but knew that it would be a mistake to go too far, since her friends were going to be showing up at an unknown point and I didn’t want to be interrupted. We were sitting pretty closely to each other, and a couple minutes into the movie I put my arm around her. She responded a little surprisingly by adjusting herself quickly, getting right up next to me and turning a little, so that her back was touching my chest. I was kind of thrown off because I hadn’t expected her to totally change position, since in the past girls would move closer, but we would still be side to side, making escalation easier. All I could think of doing was touching her arm with my free arm and wrapping it around her belly. It went like that for a while until her friends showed up, and then I backed off until we left.

We went to the bar, which was jam-packed, and met up with even more of her friends. Strangely enough, I wasn’t even thinking about HB7, and was instead more interested in getting a drink before it got too late. One drink turned into 3, and before I knew it HB7 bought some buckets, which I got a strong dose from. I felt pretty unaffected for about 20 minutes, and then it hit me like a hammer to the face, and I was totally shitfaced drunk. I mostly alternated between having a good time with her friends and running to the bathroom to pee. At some point, she and I talked for a minute, but I didn’t know what she was saying at all, either due to the noise or being drunk, and I got bored of it, so I just leaned in and went directly for a kiss. Mind you, I was almost falling down, so it probably looked like I just collapsed on her face. It was pretty random, so she looked pretty surprised and confused. Also, she’s really short. I’m six feet, and she’s not even 5’4”, so that might have contributed to the idea that I was falling. Getting drunk and going for a random kiss after not even seeing her for a half hour is some pretty abysmal technique, but I figured that there was no way to get any isolation going in such a packed house, and it was really loud, so I didn’t know what to do.

After I “kissed” her, I staggered off to a group of her friends, and out of what was left of my peripheral vision I saw one of her girlfriends come up to her and talk. HB7 looked pretty puzzled, but her friend must have explained to her what happened, because HB7 practically jumped into the air and ran and lead me out of an exit I hadn’t even seen and threw me up against the wall and we started making out. At some point we went back in, and she started grinding on me, and I, being too messed up to even do that, just leaned on her and held on.

Eventually we all left and went to a nearby 24-hour diner full of drunks from the bar, so I and about half of HB7’s group fit right in. It was kind of funny, because at that point HB7 was also drunk and was getting kind of pugnacious towards everybody, and I started cussing her out. Meanwhile, the poor waitstaff was trying to act like everything was totally normal and people weren’t making total fools of themselves, which was kind of hard because HB7 wanted to fight them and had to be restrained by one of her friends. After we all ate, the DD dropped HB7 and me off at her apartment, and I crashed immediately on the couch. Next morning I woke up with no hangover, miraculously, and she also cheated the hangover gods.

The time I was there, it was kind of hard to get any escalation going, since this girl has about a million friends and half of them showed up throughout the day, but eventually they all left and she and I cuddled a bit. Then she said she wanted to take it slow and some other things. I got a kiss goodbye and left, even though she wanted me to stay. The next week I went back to her apartment. We started watching another movie, and when I put my arm around her, she did the same thing as before, and moved so that her back was on my chest. Since she’s so short compared to me, I couldn’t reach her for a kiss, except to the top of her head. I played with her hair a little, but that just seemed to annoy her. Not even the annoyance where they react; she just removed my hand from her hair and that was it. At some point, she got up to get us some water, and when she came back, she got some pillows and laid on her side, and I positioned myself in a slouched manner, so I was almost laying down too, with her head to my chest. We made eye contact for a couple seconds, and she was clearly waiting for me to kiss her, so I did. We made out a little, and she said she wasn’t feeling it al all. She escalated and got right on me to make out more aggressively, but she said it wasn’t working and we stopped. I didn’t make anything of it, but at this point I lost all hope and stopping trying to run any game, and instead just decided to have a good time.

We left her apartment and walked over to one of her friends’, and when we got there I ignored her and talked with the friends. At some point I guess she got tired of being ignored and sat on my lap. I put an arm around her, but otherwise continued to just talk to the friends. When we left to go back to her apartment, I yawned and said I was kind of tired, and she suggested we go to her room for a nap. Once inside, I gave kissing her one last shot and she surprisingly went from totally neutral to really horny, and got really into it. After the first kiss, she pushed me onto her bed and I escalated really fast, and ended up closing. One thing I noticed was that when I got to the “incidental vaginal stimulation” part of the escalation ladder, she responded really well and started bucking her hips like she was uncontrollably aroused.

There’s a few things I still can’t figure out. When I put my arm around her and she moved in closer, she positioned herself so that her back was to my chest, so I couldn’t think of how to make any further escalation seem natural. This was her go-to position, so if I got up and then reset she’d do the same thing. How should I proceed from there when girls do this? This is a sticking point.

Also, what happened? She went from totally into me (the bar and the day after), to not even feeling any sort of arousal when we (French) kissed (the next week), to suddenly being good to go (later that day). Was it totally due to the approval of her friends? I got in good with them, so they might have been building me up in her eyes.

TL;DR: Girl oscillated from hot to cold quickly, and I have no idea what was going on.