Hey again Seddit!

This is a follow up FR on this report I wrote about a week ago. You don't have to read it to understand this one, but some might want to.

I had gotten her (HB8) number and a k-close after a night out with some friends, and I wanted to practice some game so I decided that I would ask her out. Three days after the #-close I texted her:

This is directly translated from Swedish, so it might be strangely worded for you English-speakers.

Me: "Hey! I had fun last time, so I thought we could come up with something fun again. You, me, adventure, Wednesday. /StockhomPUA"

HB8: "Hi! So did I! This Wednesday is full for me but maybe another day? And what kind of adventure?"

Me: "Sure, I'm free Thursday or Wednesday next week. What kind of adventure? You'll see when you get there!!"

HB8: "Haha sounds suspicious.. Mysterious.. But what about Wednesday? Works best for me!"

Me: "Next Wednesday it is! We'll hear from eachother then!"

HB8: "Yeah, we will!"

Fast forwards about a week. She added me on facebook and I accepted, but we didn't speak anything until Tuesday before set date when she texts me. I had planned for us to go dancing at a free of charge course for beginners in a jazz/swing club in Stockholm. I had never done any dancing before and I had no prior knowledge if she did. I just thought it sounded like a fun time, so I mailed them and told them I was coming with a friend. She had no knowledge of this.

HB8: "Heey, when do we meet tomorrow and where am I going, or are you planning to keep being mysterious?"

Me: "I see Tutankhamun as a great role model regarding mysticism. One day I hope to be as mystical as he is! But tomorrow you can find me at "X place" at 18.30, bring a comfortable pair of indoor shoes!"

HB8: "Hahaha indoor shoes? Define.. Party, soggy, gymnastic, touristy or old people shoes? But OK, "X place" it is!"

Me: "Either one of those alternatives would work really. Make sure they're comfortable."

The day after is the day we're set. I get off work and go home to take a shower and change to more casual clothing. I reckon dancing in a fancy shirt and a pullover will get hot as hell so I just pick a nice black t-shirt and bring an extra just in case. She lives outside of town so she wouldn't have had time to go home and dress fancy, plus she had no idea where we were going. Looking nice but casual was the best way to go for me. I take the subway to our meeting place and arrive three minutes early. She texts me in the escalator, saying "I seeee you" and I assume she's right behind me. I get off at the top and stop to wait for her.

We say hello and she ask right away where we're going, eyes filled with excitement. She says she has not been in this part of town before but regocnizes the place when we get out onto the street. I don't tell her were we're going yet, instead I ask her where she thinks and she starts mentions how she talked with her friends about it and they all tried to guess.By playing hard to get and not telling her what I was planning, I had sparked interest and she had even shared it with her friends and parents. Noone guessed the right thing, but I keep silent still.

Skipping some small talk and guessing we arrive to the place and I tell her it's a dance club and that we're going on an intro course for jazz/swing dance. She's positively surprised and looks really excited. We hang our coats, change to indoor shoes and walk down to the club. It's a nice place with seats along the walls, a well-lit dance floor with a wooden floor with a small bar next to the DJ platform. We're a bit early for out class so we stand by a pillar next to the dancefloor and talk. Turns out she loves dancing and has danced before, albeit not this kind. Telling her I've never danced before but I'm a real killer in front of the mirror and talking about my wicked air guitar to Billy Idols "Dancing with Myself" gets laughter and sets a cheerful, fun mood. This was great banter, and she didn't know much about me prior to this date, and I was sharing a personal story, hoping to invoke trust.

Up until this there hadn't really been any shit test, as to which I was surprised. All that had been was basically banter and small rapport. Attraction was pretty much established since last time we met and I already looked like an confident guy, being able to invite a girl I didn't really know to something I only wanted to do for fun. Her father had called her as we were walking from the subway, asking if she had met up with me and where we were going. She said everything was OK, etc. I had asked about it and wondered if they were worried. She had replied:

HB8: "I don't know. They seem to think you might be dangerous since I don't know you very well."

Me: "Well I might be, how would you know?

HB8: "I could ask. Are you dangerous?" <--- Shit test

Me: "Sometimes. Maybe. When I want to be, I am."

HB8: "How about now?"

Me: "Right now? No. Right now I'm nice. We'll see how long that lasts. Who knows, I might turn dangerous any minute!"

That is the only shit test I can clearly remember, and I pretty much set it up myself. It was all said in a jokingly manner and I handeled it pretty good in my opinion.

The dancing class went well and we both had fun. It was a pretty big group and after learning some basic steps we paired up to try them. Partners were switched around so we both got to dance with a lot of other people. I made sure to enjoy the time (I thought it was hella fun, really) and quick glances at her told me she was enjoying herself aswell. When the class we were free to stay and dance more if we wanted, and the room quickly filled up with people of all ages coming for the dance night at the club. We danced and laughed. It was a perfect game, really. Kino was required, eye contact was encouraged but not vital, and the most important part was to have fun dancing. And we did have fun. We complimented eachother on how much better we both had gotten from dancing with others and then joked and laughed at how bad we were comparing to the others who came to dance after the class. I pulled her out of comfort zone by suddenly improvising my moves, going outside of what the class taught us. I probably looked like a total fool in doing so, but I showed her that I was confident enough to be myself.

As the night went on we danced and took pauses to catch our breath and talk. I made sure to talk about things that seemed to interest her and she let me know that it was perfectly done by me to have invited her to an adventure, since she loved doing spontaneous stuff. Her body language was pretty obvious at this point: facing towards me, occasionally touching me when we were talking and keeping eye contact. I didn't waste much time and put my arm around her to pull her closer. A few mintues later I leaned in while talking to her, using my arm around her shoulder to turn her head in my direction. From there I just looked at her. I done my part in initiating a kiss, and now it was her time. She did without hesitation.

The rest of the night was dancing and talking basically, most importantly having fun. We eventually headed for the subway and she said:

HB8: "Next time you go on an adventure like this, be sure to tell me!"

2nd date was in the bag. We rode the subway a bit and when it came to my stop I stood up and stretched out my hand, motioning for her to stand. I made a point of not going all the way to a kiss by myself, and thus coming up as needy. I stood up and now she had to stand up aswell if she wanted a hug/kiss. She did just that and after the kiss I hopped off the train and went home.

Reflections

  • Text game/online game was minimal. When she added me on Facebook I felt like I had to accept to avoid coming off as rude. She texted me the day before the date, asking about it out of curiosity. I was planning to text her the information, but she was too curious and asked first. I think this was a huge IOI and gave away her attraction.

  • Attraction was already built and I had to do minimal attraction this time. I focused on rapport and banter so come off as a fun, confident and nice guy. I made regular IOI's by touching her, pulling her slightly towards me and kept a good eye contact when we spoke.

  • The night was fun and a bit romantic. All girls dream about a guy one day coming into their life and drop an atomic love-bomb for them. While this was not a bomb of that scale, it was something she hadn't done before and it was very much appreciated by her. Showing women how good of a time you are is a very important part for me.

  • I think I could've k-closed much earlier. I was hesitant since there was a lot of people around and she might not have wanted to kiss in front of our entire dance class. Maybe I could've done it better.

Well gentlemen, that is the end of my 2nd FR. I enjoy writing these and I hope you enjoy reading them.

Noteworthy: She texted me while I was writing this.

"Hi! Thank you so much for yesterday, I had a super-fun time!"

WOOP

Edit: Highlighting some points, spelling & formatting.