[FR] Throwaway's Challenge or The Reality Check

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-09-02T01:52:40+00:00

Well I didn't mean for you to do them all in one night. Do the rest of the sets another night, to let you get some time to think about it inbetween.

And note, I challenged you to use one specific "canned game" opener, a false time constraint and then the stupid old "who lies more" opener. This was to provoke a little anxiety to conquer, by using a played out opener that you'd probably never consider using. But it beats a deliberate blowout.

I don't particularly care what opener you did, but you should try some opener that you can use repeatedly, in almost any circumstance, so that you can learn by repetition. By using the same opener, you can start to judge by the response, how good your calibration was, how good your delivery was, and how much of the response isn't due to your opener but was just due to the girl's mood or whatever. This is also commonly suggested for conversational themes and stories, so with practice you can tell when you flop, whether it's you, or them.

I noticed you did have some AA at first, so that rejection stuff wasn't the answer. You did a warmup set and then continued, great. Just what opener were you using? You got 2 numbers, this is actually possible when you don't try to get rejected LOL.

Finish the 20 sets another night. Then I think I have a good calibration exercise that will help you, if you're up for another modest challenge. Save the direct approaches for later, when you've got better calibration and framing.

frogma · 2011-09-02T04:05:17+00:00

You're probably gonna regress (like tomorrow morning, you might not be too excited to do some day game). Just push past that and keep going. I had to figure out shit on my own in college, and for at least a month or so, I had to constantly get myself back "in state" each time I went out. It wasn't until after I'd had a girlfriend and a couple fuck buddies that my "state" became pretty automatic. And after freshman year I moved far away, where I basically had to force myself to go through it all again. It's still something I deal with all the time, and I think it'll be at least a few years till it's just perfectly normal and not nerve-wracking at all. Basically the longer you spend without approaching, the lower your state's gonna dip, till you start approaching again. Simple solution: just keep approaching. And also work on getting your mindset chiseled to perfection, where you can be "in state" even when you're sitting on the computer. And that's all about being self-validated. All humans have egos, so to become truly self-validated (or close to it at least) basically just takes a lot of experience.

Stefanjd · 2011-09-02T21:51:46+00:00

Ex-PUA friend reporting in. The girl had some disturbing comments about Wolf, something I'll go over with when I see him again. Some seriously fucked up shit though... Kinda made me think she used to be a dude....

What?

bcktth · 2011-09-02T03:45:39+00:00

Kudos on taking constructive criticism, applying it in your game, and reporting back. keep at it Wolf, you're doing great!

Title	[FR] Throwaway's Challenge or The Reality Check
Author	WolfInTheField
Upvotes	6
Comments	13
Date	September 2, 2011 1:38 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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