Background: I've posted some field reports in the past, and then I decided to take a little break from them and just focus on studying all the material. I still went out all the time, but now I feel like I'm reaching some sticking points that I'm having trouble getting through. I've been doing this Seduction for about 3 years, and I would say that I've made tremendous progress from where I started, but I'm still not quite at the place I want to be. In general, I'm not afraid to approach anyone anymore, and my Approach Anxiety is a joke, at least in terms of whether or not I do approach. My issues are, leading to a normal conversation and closing which I am having trouble with. I've seen The Blueprint like maybe 10 times by now. I recently took notes on it, and then read over them and an actual online document of The Blueprint word for word... I read it over at least 3-4 times. I also then took notes on Magic Bullets, and am in the process of memorizing everything, so that I can easily pull it out of my subconscious without consciously thinking about what to say... I've read The Power of Now, A New Earth, The Way of The Superior Man, Models, and Psychocybernetics. The last 3 years have been spent on reading, going out and trying new things, seeing a therapist, getting jacked up, experimenting with psychedelics, and doing crazy fucking introspection. I was fucked up for a while.

[Fr] I get out of my house, sober enough. I had smoked 2 hours ago of weed, but I barely even felt the high anymore. I get on the train and start listening to music to pump me up and put me in a good mood. I walk into the bar, feeling really sober. I was trying to implement everything I'd gotten from my notes on The Blueprint while at the same time thinking about my notes in Magic Bullets to make some progress. My goals tonight were simply, to make sure I am having fun no matter what, and that even if I do not get laid, even if everyone blows me off at the bar, that I am going to have fun anyways, and approach any sexy ladies. As I walk into the bar, the performance anxiety, and pressure to fuck, was amazingly not as strong at all as it's been in the past. I wanted to do this Sober, so I didn't drink at all tonight. I felt pretty good about everything. I had been thinking about some other ideas I had remembered.

  • Your first approach of the night, is your 101th approach.

  • It's socializing mood time

  • Just have Fun

  • Who cares if I don't close

  • Treat every success and every failure the same way, meaningless, no big deal...

  • Confidence is a decision. You can pump your own confidence with just some energy and having fun.

  • I Am The Shit.

  • Just chill. Don't react to anything.

  • Don't monitor your state. Be the Searing Hot Coal or the Burning Brush Fire.

I felt a lot of the pressure off my shoulders. I had met with a few members from the Gotham and Lookout Seddit Lairs... I felt like I could just stand around, smile, and just enjoy the presence of people around me. There was always still some minor Approach Anxiety, but I'm so tired of even thinking about it, I now go for all the challenging approaches, every hot girl. And so far at the bars, 90% of the time I get blown off... No biggy. My Bar/night game is the worst. Day Game is so much easier, more successful. I also very much enjoy and succeed at street game. The Bar/Club has so much sexual tension as soon as you walk in, maybe it throws me off...

Most of my approaches tonight, were No-Opener approaches.

I realized that I was doing that, and it wasn't really working on everyone. I would put my hand on their elbow or arm, and try to grab their attention by pulling slightly, or by speaking immediately with, "Hi."

A few times it worked, but most women would just keep on walking away, or their friends would pull them away or some shit like that.

I am relieved to say, that I have gotten so used to the icky feelings of rejection, and so understanding of what it really is, that it hardly bothers me anymore. I am definitely envious of the guys who hardly get it.

I began to realize a few things.

  • I know I'm hot, so it has nothing to do with that

  • This is not a test on my personality, but a test on my game, or how I open them up...

  • I know the No-Opener works, so it's not the words that aren't working...

  • It must be in the way I am saying or something about my body language.

I started to speak with a deeper voice and look them straight in the eye, and to my amazement it did actually improve my sets, but still the majority of them kept just walking by ignoring me... It's as if, they can see the word, "Pussy" written all over my eyes and face.

I was luckily calm enough to also be able to go back into my mind and pull up some stuff from Magic Bullets. I thought that perhaps the No-Opener is just not good for this environment or something.

So I moved to Screening Openers. I started asking, "Are you friendly?". The first 5 times I did that, they all sounded so stupid. I sounded like this little boy whose afraid of a spanking... I tried it a few more times. One girl answered, "Yes, but I have to run to the bathroom!". Another girl answered, "No." while walking away, to which I butthurt reacted with, "Good! Now I don't need to meet you." I don't know why I get so butthurt when a girl blows me off... They're so fucking mean at the bars, I swear! Like these fucking cats looking a fight.

Most of my openers that failed, I honestly could not think of a way to get in their. I don't even feel like what I get are even shit tests. They were flat out, "No, go away." How do you respond to this? It's the equivalent to "Fuck off."

One time I was talking to a girl, and I asked, "Are you friendly?" and she qualified herself.

There were actually maybe about like 5-6 sets all night that spoke to me.

The ones that spoke to me in a normal conversation, I believe I just opened with the No-Opener, "Hi."

My first set that talked to me, we just bullshitted about the typical get to know you questions... Where are you from? What do you do? Who are you here with? They noticed the greek flower crown I was wearing and complimented it. I then told them about how I got it in Montreal on a trip I went with my friends, and how those Montreals are crazy party animals. She laughed. I registered that in my head as me speaking in the attraction phase. In fact, anything I was telling her about my awesome life, was all in the Attraction phase. I realized that I need to start qualifying her...

I made some attempts but was failing at it a bit. I asked her, "Do you like to travel?"

She said yes. I asked her where, and she started to list off where she went. I complimented her a little on this, and tried doing a pullback disqualifier. I said, "You and me are not gonna get along" in reference to how she hasn't been to as many places as me. I then just chilled and tried to stay with the moment. She was using her body language throughout the conversation to get close to me and lean in... It seemed to go pretty well, I stopped doing anything and the state dried out. I realize now looking back, I was supposed to comfort her and seduce her, but also at the same time I had done no Kino on her at all and for some reason didn't want to. Like, I didn't want to start touching her everywhere right in front of her friends and getting all sexy... but in Hindsight, what if I did anyways?... Her friends eventually stole her from me...

Another girl I opened up with a No-Opener, she was actually really cute, and REALLY showing IOIs... BUT HER BREATH WAS AWFUL! So awful, I had in fact lost all interest in kissing her or anything, and what a shame for such a cute face... Well she wasn't that cute... So I pretty much quickly pulled out of there. But I hung in for a little longer, to experience my new perception of her. I had lost all attraction, after the initial approach, and now I was in Qualification mode. I pretty much stopped speaking to her all together, and was looking for good reasons to just leave... I can tell that she had sensed my loss of interest, and she started trying to speak to me to recapture it. I was so repulsed by her stench. Eventually, I just let go of all manners, and just walked away without saying bye.

We went to go get a slice of pizza at a local shop. I can feel the change in the vibe instantly and the change in the vibe of the people. I just walked in, everyone was in a good mood, and this one cute girl notices me and my flower crown. She compliments me on it. I go in and start talking to her. I mention the Montreal story. And I move into qualifying her. I said, "Are you friendly?" I also disqualified her early on. I said, "You and I will not get along! I'm sorry. But I only date girls with brown skin, black hair, beautiful eyes, and a nose ring." (All of which she had). "and you have none of those."

She laughed at that.

Then I reassured her by telling her I was kidding, and started to kino her. I touched her leg a little, then started hugging her a lot, kissing her on the cheek. I at one point got in real close to her space, to see if I could kiss her. I definitely unconsciously checked out her lips... Looking back, I should've kissed her immediately after that, since she was still just looking into my eyes, not flinching. but I chickend out. I didn't realize, she saw me do that... Should've kissed her, fuck. Oh well. Her friend was pulling her away, and I got her number right before.

We then walk into the club nearby. For me, going into State at the club, getting people to love me, making friends with every single person, is nothing... I just walked out on the dance floor, started busting moves while throwing value at people. I just wanted to have fun, and I wanted to party. And fuck, I wanted people to smile around me and have fun around me as well, so I'm glad it's contagious.

This one girl sees me having a great time, and joins in on dancing with me. We dance, she pulls me in REALLY close, like kissing close, like it was my opportunity to kiss, but I blew it again. I was too in my head. I gotta start pulling the trigger more often again. Dafuq is wrong with me...

That died eventually too, because they clearly wanted to fuck, and they had labeled me as the dancing monkey, who doesn't wanna fuck... When in fact... I'm pretty sure I wanna fuck too...

Later on in the night, we get back to the original bar. I'm talking to one of my hommies about game. Suddenly behind him, a sexy black chick stops. It looked to me, as if she had stopped on purpose, as if to invite an opportunity for me to meet her. I broke off all communication with my hommie mid-sentence. My RAS said, "That black chick wants to fuck me. Trigger all memories of what it's like to be with someone who you know wants to fuck you." I walked up to her like it's no big deal, grabbed her hand and started dancing with her in the middle of the bar, we were the only ones there dancing. She was all for it, laughing,hugging me, telling me she loves me, and how in love she is with me. She was getting so close to me, but always holding back. She then mentioned she has a boyfriend of 2 months. My mouth dropped and I said, "What!? Fuck that! No no no. That's nothing. That's not even a thing."

She laughs and goes, "It's a fake thing?"

I go, "Yeah! That's nothing baby. I will open your mind, to things you didn't even know existed."

She laughed at this too.

She then said, "No, I have to be a good little girl and be loyal." Her friend started to pull her away also.

I had run out of ideas here. So I let her go and said, "Fine."

Things I Did Well

  • Not having emotional meltdowns

  • Not completely freaking out

  • Being Outcome Indepenent

  • Not being too hard on myself when I walked home

  • Approached with an appropriate energy level (I was told)

  • Was able to think about the different appropriate openers I could use

  • Was able to remember to use disqualifiers.

  • Was able to DHV starting from what I was wearing

  • Approached every girl I was attracted to

  • Didn't let failure get to me, was ready to learn, take criticism, and adjust

  • didn't make the # into a big deal.

  • I had fun

  • Didn't drink

  • Built a momentum by the end of the night

  • Thought about it as my 100th approach

  • Tried qualifying girls for a change

  • Didn't give as much as a fuck as usual, when sober. Much better, much less AA.

  • Felt comfortable in a Social Setting

  • Decided to be confident, and easily, freely, pumped my own state at will alone

Things I Did Poorly

  • Didn't qualify enough, or attractive enough

  • Didn't resonate with my chest voice enough

  • Still gave a fuck about rejection, and hoped they didn't just keep walking as they all did...

  • Still having an impossible time opening an HB10 at the Bar...

  • NOT ENOUGH KINO!

  • You didn't approach, "everyone" at the bar. "A lot" is not "everyone."

  • I may have had some MJ still in my system.

  • Didn't get to Comfort or Seduction...

  • I'm still a fucking pussy, who for some reason puts these shallow women on a pedastle, because I clearly still give a fuck.

Things I want to Improve On

  • Not giving a flying fuck

  • feeling equal to an HB10...

  • being totally sober and relaxed

  • Having more confidence in my approaches, so that my No-Openers will work more often

  • Memorizing Magic Bullets

  • Kinoing Early

  • Chest Voice

  • Qualifying better

TL;DR

Went to a bar, a club, and a pizza shop. Pulled a phone number from the pizza shop. Did a little flirting in the bar, a lot of dancing in the club. 80-90% of the approaches I made tonight was bombs... One girl I approached had horrible breath and I bounced. Got some girls to dance with me and get close, and made a bunch of approaches... das about it...