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Contact with HB-target was abit on and off after the initial meeting (FR above). Had a flurry of texts last Thursday, invited her out, didn't get a text from her until really late the night of the event (which I ended up not going due to work issues). Tried to get her to come over but she was with her friend so no go.

Sunday night: Had texted her the prior night saying I was going to a club, no text back from her that day (which is now to be expected from her). Texted me Sunday to see what i was doing and how saturday went. Told her saturday was amazing (which it was FR coming soon), and I wasn't doing anything at the moment, and asked if she wants to do something. She agreed, set a meetup for a bar. She said her friend is coming along and asked if I have a friend to bring. My wing was already on his way home and didn't want to go, so I had to try and scramble to find a friend but then decided to just take on these 2 girls myself.

Meetup set for 11pm, picked up her and her friend, went to a bar.

As a typical day 2, the attraction portion was pretty much already done. Just need a little bit then build comfort with her and her friend. If you don't win a girl's friends over, you might as well have been shot down by her too.

Started the night by talking about saturday night, always mention meeting new people and making new friends, but always kept it genderless (leave them wondering). Asked them what they did, they said they stayed home. Gave them a slight neg for that, since I did invite them out. Got to the bar, as soon as we sat down I said I'm going to the bathroom, got up and left them for a bit. Wanted to dictate the pace of things and get myself in the zone. Walked to the bathroom and took a look at the talent around the place, not giving a fuk. Got back ordered some drinks and started w/ the fluffing. Concentrate on their life stories, and seeded my own stories from their stories. EX: "Oh i'm originally from [place]" ME: "I have an awesome story about [place], total road trip story, like the movies. I'll tell you in a bit, but go on." This helps a lot if the conversation ever stales, you have a lot of seeded stories to keep the conversation going.

I also like to point out that they both sat next to each other across from me so kino was definitely hard to do. But when my target first got into the car, I went for a hug. When walking to the table at the bar, I had the hand on back. I worked a few hi-fives with both the target and her friend during the stories. Also in the middle when her friend left us to goto the bathroom. I got up walked across the table to her and said, "now that your friend is going..." bent down and kissed her full on.

After story telling you find out a lot about girls, then you can start making emotional connections like common interests, etc.

Night ends when the bar lights came on, they seemed to be willing to sit there some more, but I said we should go. Had to keep the pace dictated, and also already had a few drinks and feeling a bit tips. Driving them home, they said they wanted to keep drinking, so we stop off at a 7-11 they picked up 2 bottles of wine and they invited me up.

I didn't really think I had a F-close at this point anyways despite the invite just due to logistics. They shared a room and I was pretty drunk and extremely tired, doubt I could perform at this point. But I decided, play to win, push as far as you can.

Went up had some of the wine, but then made the biggest mistake of the night. They blazed up and I got convinced to do it with them. I was basically trashed after that, and it was all downhill from there. They turned on the music and it was basically her roommate sitting at the dining table and me and target on the couch. Topic got to tatoos and piercings and she started to show me some of her photos....which invariable got to pics of her ex and his full body tats...basically saw a naked pic of her ex's back all tatted up butt and all. Complete turn off and changed the state completely. Also due to the alcohol and weed (mixing those sucks) my bantering was worse and worse and said some stupid shit. Ended up with her and her friend falling asleep and I just left...luckily managed to get home in one piece.

Was so fucked up I didn't wake up till 2pm the next day, missing work.

Lesson: Don't let external factors like alcohol and other things affect your state just because others (or targets) are doing it. KNOW your limits. I ignored my limits and really paid for it.