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[–]G_Refined 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I agree with the overall point you're making, that learning to become better at attracting and keeping women should only be part of a bigger picture in personal development, but I disagree with the statement "game is not something you turn on or off". Sometimes I just don't feel like turning it on. Other situations it might not be appropriate. A lot of the side effects of game you won't be able to turn off, confidence, wit, and charisma but actually engaging in the game, I believe, is definitely something you can turn off and on.
[–]TheyCallMeNatty 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think we are hung up on semantics here. I think about game as a language. I even call guys who are good at this stuff "socially fluent" because of their social skills.
You can go up to a girl with the intention of getting her number, going on a date, etc. I think of this as active game. This is you going out of your way top attract someone. (Which all guys should do). But you don't have to, just like you don't have to speak Spanish all the time.
Passive game is simply your people skills that are developed through learning how to create attraction. This is always on display with friends, family, social circle, etc. Once you learn people skills on a deep level, it is hard not to use them. It's like over hearing a conversation. Once you are good, it becomes a passive thing.
I agree that you shouldn't always be flirty and actively using game. That being said, when you are a person of value and have people skills, its hard not to naturally attract people.
[–]G_Refined 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hung up on semantics is the perfect way to describe it. I view game a little different. I view game as being able to achieve a specific goal through social interaction. Whether you're sweet talking a potential client, defusing an argument, or getting that girl to like you, you are using your social skills to get something you want.
[–]Supatroopa_ 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Seems like youre talking more about being alpha, than actual game.
[–]TheyCallMeNatty 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I guess, but I would never call it that. I could write a whole post on "being Alpha". I'm talking about lifestyle design and making game a part of your life in a natural way.
[–]Supatroopa_ 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes but game is something you do. Incorporating it into your life is how you become more alpha. In my opinion anyway.
[–]TheyCallMeNatty 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I believe there is difference between doing and having. Game is something you can do when you are first learning, but after a while it should become second nature. When you incorporate into your life everyday, you don't think about it as something you are doing. It is more like something you naturally have. Does that make sense?
[–]Ironchar -1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I myself prefer a leader over the term 'alpha'
I don't give a damn about the soical heard, an alpha leads a general social herd. I like one on one or of not then to go my own way alone
[–]Throwing_This_A_A 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So, create passive attraction. Could have said that in one sentence, pal.
[–]Aeon199 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I don't think game should be about making a higher income or getting a more prestigious job, and it shouldn't be about climbing the social ladder. So count me as someone who disagrees.
[–]TheyCallMeNatty 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I don't think game is about those things. I believe game is about self-improvement. I don't think you have to have any of those to be good with women, although they do help. A naturally attractive lifestyle is one that is fun, not one of wealth.
out of curiosity, what is game about to you?
[–]Aeon199 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Game, to me, is about learning to attract women without relying on traditional measures of "value" such as having a well-paid job, having a wide social network, or having some kind of hyperactive lifestyle.
[–]TheyCallMeNatty 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
How do you create attraction without value?
[–]Aeon199 -1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That's the only value to you? Those 3 things? Ridiculous.
[–]TheyCallMeNatty 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
I never said that. I asked how do you create attraction without typical measures of value. But you deflected my question and called it ridiculous.
Value is way more than social status. It includes physical attraction, mental health, intellectual abilities, social skills/status.
[–]Aeon199 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
All the things I don't have. Oh well.
[–]TheyCallMeNatty 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you don't have them, shouldn't you be interested in self improvement? Trying to be a m ore attractive person?
Improving your own life will do more for your dating than anything else.
"Game" refering to sudduction is a terrible word....really a lot of the terminology from the "pua" scene is kind of ugly.
Hell even a "pick up artist" is not really an artist...they treat it more like a sicence
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