This is a topic that really messed with my head for a while. Basically I couldn't tell the difference between the two. When someone was really sure of themselves I just naturally assumed that they were good with women.

In reality this couldn't be further from the truth. Someone who has a strong reality does not mean they are successful with women.

From what I can see there are two ways to look at this:

  1. This person has met the standards they have set for themselves to have a good life.

  2. This person thinks they are on the right path and they will soon meet the standards they have set for themself.

It is important to note that #1 does not necessarily include abundance with women. I'm sure all guys would like this but a lot of them don't really care that much to set it as a life standard.

It is also important to note that #2 may never meet the standards they have set for themself.

1 may just want to settle down with a below average girl and have kids. That is their standard for a successful life.

2 may think that grinding out 60 hours a week at their corporate job will eventually land them a really attractive girl.

How is this relevant for someone learning game? Strong realities are basically a requirement for being successful with women. This means you need a strong reality but it must be grounded in what actually works!

This means your reality should be based off first hand experiences you've had at a club or doing day game or through social circle. Your reality shouldn't be based off what you've heard from other people or what you saw in a movie or what you read in a magazine.

This is really why there are so few guys who really can put the game in action. They haven't gone out there and put the work in to build up a strong reality that is based on first hand experiences. My perception of women has changed so much since I started going out that all the reading I did beforehand couldn't compare to (then there's the whole social conditioning thing... 😂).