Building an awesome lifestyle

fun-awesome-guy-lol · 2019-10-17T23:17:30+00:00

My current situation:

I go out to clubs on Friday and Saturday. My game is gradually getting better. I've tried a few different ways of talking to women, learned about body language, how to project different frames, voice tonality, dancefloor game, opening groups, the difference between high energy and low energy game, social media and sexual escalation to name a few.

This has all improved my self esteem a LOT. I carry myself well now and actually look forward to social events now. Understanding that being social actually boosts my mood was a huge epiphany and that my precious aversion to social situations was a huge red flag.

My interests used to be very niche and had little to no social relevance. I've intentionally changed these so I have more reasons to go hang with people and build up social circles. Having interests with social relevance also takes care of social media by itself for the most part.

I've taken a bunch of dance lessons over the last year or two and am actually starting to get somewhere despite my poor natural sense of rhythm. Dance classes are good because there are lots of women who go to them, you get comfortable handling a girl in a way that's sexual and calibrated and it's also fun and teaches you how to let loose.

I've tried some day game but am still on the fence as to whether its worthwhile or not. I dont live in a big city so a lot of the time is spent waiting for an attractive girl to come by.

Online I dont have a lot of success but I am slowly improving. I definitely had a defeatist mindset with tinder but now accept the harsh reality of sexual selection and am more willing to play along. I have better picture now since I've been participating in more social activities.

My plan forward is to keep going to clubs on the weekend, keep going to dance classes during the week and attending various social activities as I see appropriate. I dont have much desire to actually pull a girl from a club but I like the side benefits of gaming there (ie stronger voice). I think dance classes are the best bet as you get an opportunity to get the girls better over the course of multiple weeks. Various social activities aren't good for meeting women but they boost my mood and I get good pictures from them.

fun-awesome-guy-lol · 2019-10-22T01:55:21+00:00

What happened this week:

I'm aiming to have at least ONE social occasion to attend every day of the week (outside of work and exercise). Currently I go to a board game night, salsa class, church discussion group, church sermon, and clubs on the weekend. This usually gives me around 4 of 7 days with an activity to participate in. Yesterday I sent out an application to join an axe throwing league so we'll see how that goes! I'm also trying to get something going involving ping pong.

During the week I met with my Christian discussion group. It's a cool way to get to talk to guys on a level you don't get the opportunity to on a regular basis. Also I find most people who are just "spiritual" to be a bit kooky.

I was at a themed party Friday night and it was a lot of fun! The guy who was MCing it inspired me a lot with his enthusiasm and engaging attitude.

There was dancing going on for most of the night. I opened a girl super casually and we danced for about 5 minutes while talking about Halloween costumes. I found myself making excuses in my head while engaging with her and didn't take it as far as I could have as a result. It was still an awesome experience though!

I started a side hustle writing jingles for online content producers a few months ago. I got my second order on Friday and she was super happy with the result. It would be incredible if I could turn this into a lucrative form of income so I could leave my 9-5 eventually.

This weekend I was eating at a burger joint and a friend I met at a club over the summer saw me from the sidewalk and came to say hi. This is significant for me because a couple of years ago I didn't even have any friends who would do that and I would have been to shy to actually engage them properly even if they did.

On Sunday I went to a food festival with some people I met online. Even though I'm really judgemental about the people I meet this way, I still view it as invaluable social experience and try to keep an open mind about what my expectations of friends are. We had some fun and I ran into a former colleague which was awesome. I also met a guy who worked in a similar industry as me at a church sermon later that day.

fun-awesome-guy-lol · 2019-11-23T19:31:32+00:00

About two weeks ago I just felt completely exhausted. I went into full recovery mode and I'm still there really. I stopped exercise, going to church, Meetup events, etc. The only social activities I'm still participating in are dance classes and hang outs with my closer circles.

Since this has happened I booted back up my daily meditation practice. I gained a significant clarity of mind over the winter after attending two extended meditation retreats. I didn't have much motivation to practice daily at that point because the effects seemed to be permanent. Fast forward 8 months and the effects are almost completely gone. I'm using this time to regain the clarity of mind I had earlier this year.

I also started a vocal training program (the "Vocal Power Bootcamp"). I've been much more aware recently of how important the voice relates to interpersonal communication. I would like to be able to present myself in the way I see fit for the situation.

I do plan on getting my social calender filled up again but for now I need to chill the heck out.

ntipz011 · 2019-10-15T02:52:48+00:00

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Title	Building an awesome lifestyle
Author	fun-awesome-guy-lol
Upvotes	5
Comments	4
Date	October 14, 2019 11:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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