"gay" backfire?

worldclassmathlete · 2014-11-26T13:17:40+00:00

I wouldn't have said "gay", that makes you look fifteen.

Trickle in contact, a couple of days after, tell her which movie, a couple of days later, tell her which time, day before, tell her location.

Expert-here · 2014-11-26T13:26:03+00:00

She is right. Your game is gay.

haberdasher42 · 2014-11-26T12:21:24+00:00

Why did you set the date up for so far away?

You set her up for the burn, what could you expect?

Iloveyou-Iknow · 2014-11-26T14:30:54+00:00

You insult a woman (flake) a woman you found on the internet and call her names (probably because you are too afraid of rejection when you approach women in real life) ; try to play PUA games you picked off the internet without having inner game, congruence or any idea how woman's psychology works. You are a piece of work.

What you did wrong: - You did not build any comfort at all. You matched a stranger on tinder when you were swiping everything right. She seemed attracted based on your perceived status from your profile photos at first. You did not talk to her, she didn't feel safe with you, she got the self validation and approval that she was wanted and just told you a date to meet. Could you maybe just forget about "text game" "don't text her because it's just for setting up the place and time to fuck" ; and talked to her for a few minutes? Small talk? Random teasing remarks?

You acted out and got offended like a needy guy with no other options than her when she said she was busy. What do you expect, she is on tinder, she is matching 100 guys a day. Most of them are better looking and actually talk to her, invoke emotions and attract her further more. She must have set up dates with 10 more guys after you talked to her. You were nobody because you DID NOT TALK TO HER.
You feel entitled to have sex with a woman because she matched you on tinder. And she gamed you. Actually she sounds like a funny , cool girl, turning your "gay" on you like that. It's something like David DeAngelo would have done. "Gay.." "I know you have doubts but you shouldn't call yourself gay, I mean; then I would have to convert you to straight.. all night.. "

If I were you, I would learn game in order to become a better person, a real man who doesn't belittle and insult strangers he met on the internet/tinder because of his own shortcomings, neediness and lack of actual experience in dating. I would approach countless women in real life, daytime; gain calibration and real experience. Get to have women stalk you, be obsessed with you, continuously call you /text you, wake you up in the morning with text messages saying "You are such an amazing man.." : then.. if you need or use tinder: you would know what to do, when to do.

It's not too late. There are many beginner help topics. If you can't be a MAN, no lines, games, routines will help you with that "I'm scratching my head but this bitch flaked on me and it's her fault" mentality.

I know this will fall on deaf ears for you, but maybe someone who clicked through this post will pick up some gold nuggets.

Gold_Mouth · 2014-11-26T15:05:42+00:00

It doesn't really seem like it backfired. I would've sent an "lol" back or something.

Fredouken · 2014-11-26T14:04:38+00:00

I dunno... I like when a girl can joke like that. I'd be more turned off by a self-righteous speech about how you shouldn't say certain words, etc.

As far as online dating meet ups, I generally don't do dinner. Coffee or drinks on the first meet, in case she's the WORST. It's easy to transition to something else (dinner, back to your place, whatever) if you hit it off, because she most likely will want to hang out more as well.

Title	"gay" backfire?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	November 26, 2014 12:04 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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