Hi, 30M here. Life has been good so far, started cold approaches when i was in early 20s ,met a lot of women and used to like a lot of, the kick and excitement you get from randomly talking to someone.

At 25, i shifted to New Delhi, its a big city and started using dating apps, pick up stuff from clubs and random approaches on streets and got good success from everywhere. I was in decent shape and my height is 6ft which is good enough in India i think. Around age of 27-28 , it started happening that girl used to come up and approach me in the clubs and if they weren’t approaching, they used to clearly make eye contacts and all i had to do was just say “ Hi” and everything used to be smooth from there, most of the times.

Since a year i have stopped using dating apps do to work load, i am in consulting so you don’t get much time plus i wanted to try and focus on approaches rather than being dependent on just the apps. It was going good , so much so that a very beautiful girl approached me in February, 2025 and i kinda liked her so we met for few months and it ended last month.

Now i have tried going back to approaching women on streets and clubs but somehow my conversions have dropped a lot , indeed i I haven’t been able to convert even one women in last 7-8 approaches i have done . My confidence has dropped and i don’t know to fix it because i dont know what’s different. Its not just about the conversions also, its just i can see women are not that into me as they used to be earlier while approaching me. I got like 3 phone numbers but none of them replied and others just said “ sorry not interested “.

Ofc i dont look as young as i was earlier and i do think i have got little face fat which i will fix in a month or so but i just feels much tougher than it was earlier. Maybe it feels like it because i was used get many matches on the app that it dint bother me much if i had rejections while approaching because i could meet new women from there but i am not sure because it getting rejected so many times rarely happened. I discussed this with my friend and he suggested that i change my clothing and grooming and it will help but I was always like this and it dint affect the conversions back then!

All in all,earlier it used to be like i could go and get almost every girls number at least but now i am not even sure whether she will even talk to me . How to overcome this guys, need your suggestions? Thank you.