Going through fail after fail

Mefick · 2025-03-06T21:25:43+00:00

First thing, a man should never fall in love with a woman without at least knowing her well

Second, rejection is part of the learning process, the more you are rejected, the more you learn and the faster you improve, because you will make fewer mistakes, don't let exclusion make you sad, because it is something that is part of having infinite women in the world. Have you been rejected? Go to someone else

Less attractive women are not necessarily simpler, what happens is that because she is less beautiful you do not put her on a pedestal like the others, so you become more confident

You should look for the best women, the most beautiful, the most intelligent and the coolest, but they require effort to be conquered, so you need to keep trying

liftingnstuff · 2025-03-06T21:27:22+00:00

You have to be more polarizing with super hot women to stand out vs a normal guy hitting on her. Super hot women are used to being hit on all the time and they have probably dated really high value men. So you have to be more polarizing to show that you don't consider her out of your league. Fewer compliments, more push pull. You can just eject when things are not going well but you ideally you stick it through until she overtly rejects you. If you can make it through the initial round of shit tests and get her to lower her bitch shield, it becomes a lot more similar to hitting on regular women.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-03-06T21:32:17+00:00

Correct. Go from woman to woman and check the vibe. If it's not there, bounce.

But that said, you might be feeling inferior / not worthy of those very hot women - leading to submissive behavior. Which women then interpret as you being Lower value than them, and they will therefore not be attracted to you.

You have to treat women the same - no matter how hot they are.

CharmingRejector · 2025-03-06T21:24:45+00:00

Sounds like you're putting these interactions on a pedestal, which might be throwing off your vibe. You're probably making too big of a deal out of these women before anything even happens. Instead of focusing on "winning" the interaction, try dialing it back and just seeing where it goes.

A good way to ease into the conversation is to make two quick observations and then ask a question. If she’s got red shoes, you could say, "Oh, red shoes. I hate red shoes!"_—but with a smirk, obviously. You’re teasing, testing the waters, and seeing how she responds. Or if she has an Australia sticker on her bag, you could say, _"Australia, huh? Love that place. Wait—you don’t have a pet spider, do you?" Keep it playful, keep it light.

But here’s the bigger issue: You sound too focused on how you're performing instead of actually engaging with her. Attraction isn’t about having the perfect line; it’s about creating a dynamic where she enjoys talking to you. You can’t do that if you’re wrapped up in, "Is this working? Am I saying the right thing?" That makes you outcome-dependent, and women pick up on that.

Instead, practice being comfortable talking about literally anything. You should be able to walk up and say, "I love salad." When she gives you that wtf? look, just roll with it—"Yeah, I freaking love salad. And you know what’s even better? Some nice balsamico drizzled on top. You can taste it already, can’t you?"

The key is this: if you're relaxed and having fun, she’ll feel it too. And yeah, sometimes you’ll meet women who are instantly receptive, where the conversation just flows. When that happens, ride the wave. But don’t expect every interaction to start off like that—sometimes you need to spark it yourself. If her vibe is totally off, though? No need to force it. Move on and find someone who’s actually open to talking.

Long story short:

Stop making these women so special in your mind.
Focus on the interaction itself, not the outcome.
Stay playful, make observations, tease, and test.
Be comfortable talking about anything and owning it.
If a girl isn’t giving you much, don’t sweat it—just bounce.

Would love to hear how it goes when you tweak your approach!

CoachSlyDating · 2025-03-06T21:25:59+00:00

you get a different result because you are likely too nice to the hot girls and pedestalize them. These girls get a lot of validation from men online so you need to be the one who never fully validates them.

Title	Going through fail after fail
Author	No_Tax_53
Upvotes	7
Comments	5
Date	March 6, 2025 9:06 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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