Good looking loser

throaway567890 · 2017-08-06T05:13:15+00:00

I can definitely relate; I literally had no friends towards the end of high school, as I was invested in my video games and education that I strayed away from any forms of social interaction with my classmates and anyone else besides close family. What many people fail to realise, myself included at first, is that social value is far more important than anything else when attempting to go for any woman of your choice. How I broke out of this cycle was by building connections with my male friends first before my my soon to be female companions. By doing so, I was able to extend my friend group and get invited to more social gatherings and parties, through which I met women, who were all impressed with my ability to socialise with others and the friendships and connections I had with those around me, which I built at first, as mentioned previously. No women wants to sit with the loser who is all shy and looking down at the ground, in fact, no human being would like to be seen with such a person; it essentially deducts from ones' social value by hanging out with said person. However, women love the male who is dominant, with a good sense of style, effortless, familiar with the bouncer and bartender, knows the host of the party well and most that are attending to strike up conversations. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask, I was in your place once and breaking out of that cycle was definitely the best thing to ever happen to me.

Wazzzza · 2017-08-06T06:14:03+00:00

I definitely understand what you are experiencing. Started a business a approx. 2 years ago. And my life was pretty much work 7 days. Commute home after a long day. Eat. Sleep. My only social life was meeting clients. Problem is that routine makes you extremely lonely and isolated at times.

Also while you know that it's not a good situation. Your mind gets contented with the habit and routine. It's comfortable to just do the same things over and over. It might not be interesting but it's easy.

"Easy" is probably your worst enemy right now!

You are definitely going to have to go out of your way to build a social-life around you. Even if you do pick-up a girl, you'll find it difficult to be interesting as she'll probably ask you about your hobbies..what you do in your free time etc etc...

I recommend do some Social Activities just to get back into the routine of having casual non-work related conversations/ interactions. I think meetup.com is a good place to start. Maybe look around where you're living and see if there are any socials. Try to do different things!

Also build you physical health..go to the gym and follow a program (Sounds silly but gyming and exercise works wonders to improve your confidence). Also you'll report an increase in energy-levels, general happiness etc...etc.

On a side note: That's how I got out of my "boring routine". I met a personal trainer at the Gym and we became friends. He asked me to join him and few of his friends for drinks. That helped improve my social circle. Won't say I have a massive amount of friends. But it's a start!

Goodluck..keep at it mannnn!

whiteflight21 · 2017-08-06T05:13:47+00:00

I would consider myself in the same position. Hopefully we get some feedback

brianbria · 2017-08-06T05:58:45+00:00

If you catch public transport, you could learn how to game on public transport. It is probably more scary for some and you need to be gauging how interested the girl is with baby steps.

Tinder will be good for you. If you say you are good looking and you don't have much time, you'll get results on it. Just take some good quality pictures, and try to get pictures in cool places too, you don't want to advertise to girls that you are a loner by taking all your pictures in a mirror. You can swipe while taking a shit, and meet girls on Saturday or Sunday.

Saturday I would head out with wingmen and game at a bar or nightclub during the night. I would also talk to my wings about stuff other than women like sport or what they were up to, so I could incorporate socialising as well as seduction on this night. (Seeing as you have no friends, combine your wings as friends)

During the day on Sunday I would see who I could fuck or call over.

If I had no girls to call over, then I would spend maybe 4 hours doing daygame in a populated area with women.

ForeignInUsA · 2017-08-06T11:40:04+00:00

I would firstly and foremost contact an rsd inner circle in your city from facebook. Just write city name and rsd inner circle and it will pop up, I met 90% of the people that I hangout with now from there. Start a momentum, meet people, experience and look and look at rsd products like the natural or pimp are a good start.

Clyde_Frag · 2017-08-06T22:12:14+00:00

If you're good looking then you should be able to do decently online provided you can come up with good pictures. And by decently I mean that you'll get 5's and 6's if you're, say, an 8. Getting girls from Tinder doesn't require that you have a ton of social clout but you still have to be fun and interesting during dates. But it gets a lot harder if you want to raise your ceiling in terms of quality of girls that you get online because on these apps there are just way more good looking guys looking to meet up than good looking girls.

I only have saturday and sunday off

So essentially the exact same schedule that every other salaried worker has? If you have no free time on weekdays then you still have over 48 hours on the weekend to do things to meet people.

The first step for you would be getting some male friends, and I'd say that the best way to do this post college is to join a rec sports league that goes out drinking after games. Then at some point you'd ideally have friends that you can go out to bars with and this will enable you to meet girls at bars in addition to meeting them through your new found social circle. If one of your friends has a girlfriend you should ask her if she has any single friends that might be interested because girls fucking love setting their girlfriends up with friends of their boyfriend.

I dont understand how you guys daygame, is it locally or you go to one spot and walk around?

Wherever girls are in public. Personally I don't do it, but I really should. Every girl I've ever slept with I either met at a bar/party, online or through a friend. The reason it's talked about so often here is because it's probably the quickest thing you can change to meet women that you would otherwise not be in a position to meet. Building a social circle takes time but if you can impress a girl during a short 5 minute convo than that isn't necessarily a requirement to get laid.

Title	Good looking loser
Author	Throwaway1038k
Upvotes	13
Comments	10
Date	August 6, 2017 5:00 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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