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All true but unless he wants to, he won't do any of those suggestions. First thing you need to want to change NOT "want to want to" change. And he probably prefers not having sex with women and jerking it to porn, no sarcasm here ...actions reflect beliefs, and if he's in a long drought he probably has many perceived benefits for being in that situation.
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:18 AM
1

Why not just say that?
/r/seduction30/05/22 12:47 PM
1

Yeah makeup is manipulative too truthfully. It's not authentic. You're changing your appearance. When water washes over makeup what's revealed? The real face. Your lifestyle if done for the whole purpose of impressing women is not authentic and thus just like makeup - a giant manipulation.
/r/seduction30/05/22 12:45 PM
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Who care if it's normal. I'll tell you one thing though, it's much better. If you can engage with older women honestly about what you want, they can be often much better in bed than younger girls. Older women also tend to be less dramatic. Just my observations.
/r/seduction18/05/22 12:25 PM
1

It's not hard work. It's mostly this: Remove invalid beliefs that fuel fear Watch women's body language and see how they respond to things Go out and take action while being honest and direct (approach women, lead and close)
/r/seduction18/05/22 12:12 PM
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This is bad advice. It's good to have women be somewhat uncomfortable. (Not scared) Women that are "too" comfortable end up friendzoning you. Approaching women who are by themselves is better because when you're in bed with her you don't want her friends arounds right? (I mean unless you can pull a three-way but that's another story)
/r/seduction18/05/22 12:00 PM
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The bulk of a relationship IS sex. If you takeout sex then essentially you are just looking for a platonic friend. So be clear, because if you want a boyfriend, you can't downplay the importance of sex in getting a boyfriend.
/r/seduction18/05/22 05:44 AM
1

Ah I hear you. Yeah I agree having an internal rule where you walk away if you're not getting any action is good for self respect and not a bad thing.
/r/seduction18/05/22 02:27 AM
1

So some people are grossed out by you being sexual, they'll leave quick and give you room to people who want to hear you talk about it. The ones who think of you as a creepy perv again they'll avoid you and so they don't become a problem for you. You'd only get a harassment charge or fired if you ignored people who said no or you do this shit at work. (Don't do it at work) Parents disown you for being sexual? Who needs them. They can't be good parents if they dont accept your sexuality. You'll a…
/r/seduction17/05/22 01:38 PM
1

Are you a virgin? Edit: saw your older posts. Sounds like you're not a virgin .. But yeah I can see you seem to have a either a shame or superiority complex around talking about sex something ego related. What are you afraid would happen if you talked more about sex with women and people in general? Or what's bad about you talking about sex?
/r/seduction17/05/22 01:03 PM
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Of course. But it's more about unlearning and deconditioning from faulty beliefs and societal conditioning than it is about gaining experience (experience absolutely helps smooth out the rough edges though). Deep down you know on an instinctual level how to get laid it's in your DNA all humans have it otherwise we wouldn't be born. Let me ask you what are you scared would happen if you said something bold and sexual? She would reject you? She'd call you creepy and then reject you? She'd tell her…
/r/seduction17/05/22 12:49 PM
2

So you're saying when you talk to a girl you set deadlines with her about sex? By 8th June we are going to have sex! Yeah right ... Then what happens when that date passes and she realised your prediction was wrong, she knows you are full of shit and loses respect for you. But if you keep it open ended without a deadline she is the one that ends up pursuing because "the future" is undefined. Waiting is the mark of a patient man and that's how you get laid. I'm guessing your high pressure tactics…
/r/seduction17/05/22 12:45 PM
2

So risk being creepy. You already know how to do it but your fears hold you back. Just stay relaxed, hold eye contact, stand close to her (ensure she lets you stand close to her before sexual talking, if she moves back then maybe hold off on sexual talk) and then say what you want from her.
/r/seduction17/05/22 12:39 PM
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I know neither was your comment to my initial one
/r/seduction17/05/22 10:45 AM
1

I didn't say men should put pussy on the pedestal or that women are special. I said it's a double standard in that men and women generally compliment women, and men and women DO NOT compliment men because they believe men are strong and don't need compliments or to feel special. This belief is widespread in our society. You'd have to be in a fantasy world if you think what I just said is false.
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:46 AM
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By communicating your intentions with words. That's not flirting. Check out mode one by Alan Roger Currie.
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:43 AM
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No you're intellectualising. That's what nice guys do. Caveat, it's good to critically think and challenge things but you're intellectualising is done so on an obvious fear and not actual studies of men's behaviour or research or even I bet on your own personal experience. I can tell from talking to you, you live a very predictable life and generally avoid conflict with people and trying to fit in and be normal.
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:18 AM
1

There is no ' should' about the way I live my life, maybe you tell yourself you should do this and shouldn't do that but I don't talk like that. I am free and I choose to live single because I enjoy being single and having casual sex and non committed connections. Also you just admitted you were with a non toxic bad boy and contradicted yourself. And I'm tired of talking to you now so see you later.
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:16 AM
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Well try means you are not succeeding to approach. So go and successfully approach by yourself.
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:10 AM
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Bad boys aren't necessarily abusers or cheaters or toxic etc. Bad boys are just guys that are good in bed and have an element of unpredictability/challenge/dominance, that doesn't mean they break the law or abuse. They COULD be abusive/cheaters etc. But that doesn't mean they are. And yeah no one cares if I think you are boring but you kept replying so it seemed like that was a button for you and you proved you do care about that.
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:09 AM
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So you choose to be a nice guy OK that's fine but live with costs of that decision.
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:02 AM
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I never said the T word, but you used it three times just then. I suppose you're not really reading my comment but further interpreting on it as a reaction. Anyway I found your comments boring about stress making you ill, and men who create problems make you throw up and picking up flowers and rocks etc. I think problems are a part of life and of being human and you sound way too fake to be interesting. People who are real interest me. That's just me though.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:59 AM
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Stop thinking about consequences when you make decisions and start following your heart/gut/desire on things. Be like an animal. Live boldly. Don't be a coward and constantly worrying and doing the safe thing in life. If you start living like that you appear unpredictable and interesting. E.g if you see a sexy women that has a great ass, go over and tell her that and look her dead in the eyes, don't waste a second thinking about how or others will react.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:52 AM
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You're starting to sound boring to me now. I would not go near you but am happy there are women like you to pair up with the boring men.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:49 AM
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Women want both kinds of men: Bad boys and nice guys Alpha males and beta males Leaders and followers Jerks and sweethearts They want different guys for different needs. Women want the bad boys for sex (because their unpredictable and dominant nature makes them better in bed). They want the nice guys for everything but sex (nice guys tend to be predictable and boring and even passive BUT they can also be funny and empathic and kind etc). Sometimes women will give the nice guys a bit of sex to ke…
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:45 AM
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You don't need an accountability partner. You need to use your balls and approach by yourself.. think of the animal kingdom no animal gets a buddy to help him mate a female, in fact they fight for it.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:38 AM
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If I ever am going with guys to pickup women ... I always approach some women solo before I even meet with my guys. Its so important to be confident that you can approach solo rather than depending on your buddies for confidence.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:37 AM
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Tell her that you and her are going to hook up sexually sometime in the future but for now you have other things to deal with. If you say it in an assuming way and don't give a deadline as to when (which shows patience) ... that thought will play in her mind every day till she can't help herself but contact you ;)
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:34 AM
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I think being sexual is good but not physical too early. You should be verbally sexual. And being sexual does not hurt you unless you break the law, all it does it filter out women who aren't interested in sex. The women who hang with you when you act like a friend but would leave if you are sexual just want to keep you as a platonic friend or use you for food dates etc.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:32 AM
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That's two problems: The returns are low when you take action Most women you met didn't interest you
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:28 AM
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Flirting is unnecessary. It's a complete waste of time. The only reason to do it is if you enjoy the process of flirting it and of itself but it won't help you get laid or get a girlfriend if that's what you are thinking - common myth. That's a cum hoc logical fallacy: I suck at X while sucking at Y therefore X is causing Y. I suck at flirting while sucking at getting with women therefore my bad flirting skills is causing lack of women in my life.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:21 AM
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It's a double standard. Men are meant to be the strong ones who don't need validation and compliments even though deep down a lot of us want it. I think the question is a waste of time though. Accept what you can't change and go take action for what you can. Don't sit there pondering and intellectualising.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:19 AM
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Lots of Money will get you gold diggers and prostitutes. Otherwise a bit of money is one component of marriage and also helpful for dates with a serious girlfriend. For casual hookups money is useless mostly.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:13 AM
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Just remember guys can get with girls older than them too. There is even a term for the girls who pursue younger men - cougars. So even if girls think you are younger than you are it isn't a problem unless you make it one. You may enjoy your youthful appearance later on too when you want to pickup younger women.
/r/seduction17/05/22 07:46 AM
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I think it's always good to trust your own experience and be willing to experiment with awareness. Buddha said many things about suffering and the cause and solution of suffering etc. But unless you have the guts to test things on your own you will always be an uncertain righteous Buddhist follower and not a leader like the Buddha himself who experimented and found the truth for himself.
/r/seduction17/05/22 07:36 AM
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Just remember to respect her and other women even when you're banging the shit out of them. Your use of the word chubby and lmao makes me wonder ...
/r/seduction17/05/22 07:33 AM
1

Rejection isn't tough or painful, it's your perception of rejection. Whenever I get rejected I tend to feel more confident and motivated because I know I did the approach and I'm one step closer to finding an enthusiastic girl. You need to change your perception of rejection then you won't be so drained by it.
/r/seduction16/05/22 10:22 PM
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1:65 lays to approaches is very good You need to make sure you're very direct and specificwith your approaches about what you want (sex) as it saves you time and gets rid of flakey numbers - check out mode one by Alan Roger Currie. Then you should be able to do 65 approaches in three weeks without much effort. That means you could be banging a new chick every 3 weeks. So in one year that's like 17 girls you're sleeping with, possibly one of them becomes a girlfriend. You need to develop a thicke…
/r/seduction16/05/22 11:52 AM
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I mean even bums get laid and have girlfriends. So yeah you don't even need to have your shit together to be good with women. Truthfully a lot of guys overcomplicate what you need to be successful with women either because they don't know what they're talking about and they're looking for karma or ego hits, or they're trying to make money. What you need to be good with women is don't be grossly overweight or smell bad, have confident body language and tonality, ability to read women's body langu…
/r/seduction16/05/22 11:45 AM
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No pua source. Pua is synonymous with manipulation. Why be manipulative to get what you want when you can be straight up about it and enjoy the benefits of getting what you want while having integrity? If you're after way then go with Alan Roger Currie or David X.
/r/seduction16/05/22 11:40 AM
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This is all bullshit. You're essentially dismissing the fact that we have inherent value in ourselves. You're saying we have to be dancing monkeys to get laid. People have been procreating on this planet for millions of years without being clowns or magicians or djs. There are plenty of entertainers who just don't get laid much. A woman's funny bone is not connected to her pussy.
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:17 PM
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The way to handle it is to leave her alone immediately. Don't say anything. At most you can say "take care" blankly. But your job is just to move away. You can heal your ego however you need to then go on approaching other women. Whatever you do, don't further interact with the girl to satisfy your stung ego. Also the way to PREVENT harsh reactions if you're getting a lot of these is to exhibit very confident body language and tonality (loud enough volume). Women respect guys like this even if t…
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:14 PM
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Just asking for numbers is stupid. She doesn't know why you're getting her number. You need enough time in the approach to tell her why you're approaching her / what you want. What you want is not her number. It's sex. Whether short term or long term. So say that and then exchange numbers.
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:11 PM
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If it killed the vibe she probably didn't want sex with you anyway. You never have to dance around the topic. Better to weed out disinterested girls faster by talking about sex earlier. The ones who don't want to have sex with you will leave, the ones who want it with you will stay.
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:01 PM
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Wrong. Physical escalation without talking can lead to misunderstandings. Do you want some girl saying #metoo and talking about the time you felt her up and she froze because you were 'physically escalating and seeing no signs of disinterest' always speak about sex and get verbal consent. You don't need to do this in a mechanical or wimpy/permissive way. You can integrate dirty talking and use confident statements to get verbal consent too. But avoiding any talk and touching is risky risky busin…
/r/seduction15/05/22 02:58 PM
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You already obtained game by being a guy. A bunch of social programming, beliefs, shame, fear and lack of practice blocks your game though. Once you get past that stuff your game will flow naturally and you will be great with girls. The key to getting over a lot of that stuff is simply putting yourself into the situations you want to be in and doing the things you want to do in spite of any fears or other unpleasant feelings .. and do this over and over while reflecting on how the girls are resp…
/r/seduction16/03/18 07:11 AM
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You're already needy by thinking about how not to come off as needy. The only way to stop being needy is to just accept that it's probably gonna happen several times when you like a girl, and keep improving yourself and meeting more girls. Big mistake to avoid: overthinking. Try to be like a dumb caveman. If caveman is into a girl, he just grabs her and takes her. You don't need to be that aggressive but basically just go up to her and say what you like about her and what you want.
/r/seduction16/03/18 07:07 AM
1

Well firstly if you are weak you make it easy for guys to interrupt like that. if you leave a big gap between you and the girl a cocky guy can easily slip in between there and block you out. So prevent the problem first by stand close to the girl and even showing others around you that you're with her by hugging her or putting your arms around her etc. Now if a guy happens to already be blocking you out because you made it easy for him ... you can go home wank off and cry and post on reddit or h…
/r/seduction12/03/18 08:56 PM
1

Cool .. stay with it.
/r/seduction12/03/18 12:15 AM
1

Yeah I hear you. You're in a strong dilemma and you're frustrated about it. What would it be like for you to just be with your stuckness?
/r/seduction12/03/18 12:06 AM
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Do you want to run from your stuckness?
/r/seduction11/03/18 10:49 PM
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Omitting is not lying. You're allowed to have secrets. "Lying by omission, also known as a continuing misrepresentation, occurs when an important fact is left out in order to foster a misconception. Lying by omission includes the failure to correct pre-existing misconceptions." You're allowed to have secrets, but I suggest revealing them with girls you like. I'm an honest person, but I'm too open about myself sometimes. Do you check in with the person while expressing? Each individual is differe…
/r/seduction11/03/18 10:22 PM
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Girl that was super into me had sex with me and all of a sudden I'm not even getting a text back. Idk what else could have gone wrong that night. From the bars to the clubs to the walk back to my place we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. Right after she left my place I stopped getting any attention. Idk it had to have been the sex. One example (sigh) .. it also could have been you were average at sex and she has other options? Also could have been she felt it was a good ONS but doesn't…
/r/seduction11/03/18 10:12 PM
1

So you're stuck. You want to find the one and you don't want to date for fear of disappointment.
/r/seduction11/03/18 10:05 PM
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How will you?
/r/seduction11/03/18 09:40 PM
1

Which is why I began to wonder, maybe I should just flat out ask a girl “are you single?” or “your place or mine?” instead of beating around the bush. Should I just be really direct about my intentions Yes.
/r/seduction11/03/18 12:41 PM
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All good bro
/r/seduction11/03/18 12:38 PM
1

Ok so don't date .. problem solved.
/r/seduction11/03/18 12:32 PM
0

So what do you wanna do now that you can't perform sexually?
/r/seduction11/03/18 12:24 PM
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I want so bad to just meet a great woman and make sweet love to her. Cool. And you can't do this.
/r/seduction11/03/18 12:18 PM
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Are you trying now?
/r/seduction11/03/18 12:09 PM
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So you're smart and courageous and yet you can't come up with a simple solution that most people without a high IQ can handle? Your biggest problem is you're lazy and want to manipulate people here to do your thinking here for you.
/r/seduction11/03/18 12:08 PM
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Fix your ED. Then work on dating.
/r/seduction11/03/18 12:05 PM
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How to deal with other guys in the set? Could I have done anything differently? Firstly, in that situation you should have left. If a girl isn't into you wtf are you doing talking to her?? If however a guy comes in when you're talking to a girl who likes you, you can handle it many ways .. but just remember this main mindset: You are getting with this girl. Not anyone else. Don't be weak. Don't let him tool you. There's being friendly and being a pushover wimp ... know the difference. How to mai…
/r/seduction11/03/18 12:01 PM
1

Yeah say that, if it's true.
/r/seduction10/03/18 07:22 AM
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Yeah I agree.
/r/seduction06/03/18 11:00 PM
1

Fag.
/r/seduction05/03/18 06:01 AM
1

I'm not a gay ass. What you said is common knowledge ... I already knew this and so did most guys with a brain. You just wrote a redundant post and now you sound like a cunt.
/r/seduction04/03/18 08:11 AM
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I don't have the answer to self-worth, but I think self-improvement is NOT the answer. How can you feel self-worth with self-improvement when self-improvement is basically saying "you/re shit now, but complete this goal and you'll be better, and after that goal do this goal, and after that goal do another goal and then you'll be better." You'll be running on a wheel never being content within yourself. Goals just keep going, there's people with millions of dollars and 6 packs not content within …
/r/seduction03/03/18 08:16 AM
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yeah that's a 'same night lay' but not a 'one night stand.'
/r/seduction03/03/18 08:09 AM
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Once every pua does this it will lose it's appeal. What you need to do is take the principle behind why this works. Girls like being acknowledged for what they put effort in. If you compliment things that they probably put effort in you will most likely get a response. So remember that principle, and you won't be stuck relying on eyebrow compliments forever. (You can mix it up)
/r/seduction03/03/18 04:46 AM
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Yep. What's the point of this post though? Are you whining about it? Or informing us? I thought this was common knowledge.
/r/seduction03/03/18 04:44 AM
1

Can you give me some examples of what teasing would be hot for you?
/r/seduction02/03/18 08:18 AM
1

How do I go about making sexual jokes and teasing her? Why?
/r/seduction02/03/18 08:04 AM
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If you talk to 500 girls and don't get even a kiss, in my books you'd be a massive loser.
/r/seduction02/03/18 08:02 AM
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Give yourself permission to be a creep and look at their boobs for a few seconds longer than usual. You won't die or get fired most likely. And then slowly redirect to eyes.
/r/seduction02/03/18 07:54 AM
1

I recommend not drinking and drive to the bar. You can bang girls in your car too and improve your sober balls, otherwise alcohol becomes just another crutch like wingmen. If you're drinking for fun since you are bar hopping then Having one drink is fine but I still recommend trying to handle the pressure without it.
/r/seduction24/02/18 07:00 PM
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I read the first one as someone depressed or illiterate. The second i read as someone casually asking what's up. I think if you use questions combined with long paragraps and emoticons that's when you're screwed. But using question marks in and of themselves isn't that bad imo.
/r/seduction24/02/18 07:03 AM
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So, my question here is: what's your opinions on going solo to the bar? I highly recommend going out solo. From my own experience here are some of the benefits I've discovered going out alone: I am forced to rely on my own support - If I feel anxious or hesitant I learn to manage that on my own without aid of a friend or wingman. I also lose neediness on wingmen because if I know I can go out alone, then I won't be disappointed if a wingman says he can't come out that night. Bonus points if I al…
/r/seduction24/02/18 06:56 AM
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I think these other commentors aren't very helpful. Firstly if you stood near the guys in this forum, they probably would get the message, but guys in real life are often oblivious, shy, nervous etc. Especially an Asian immigrant. So you may need to do more than just 'show up.' I recommend being very direct and clear. "I like you. Do you want to grab a bite/drink after class?"
/r/seduction22/02/18 06:10 AM
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Ask them for advice, and be curious about them. Also manage your own anger. Learn to not react even internally over time, by accepting the angry bodily sensations.
/r/seduction12/02/18 12:03 PM
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I would say do absolutely every single thing within your control to make sex work first. Even if that means getting surgery, a dating coach, tonnes of rejection, styling coach, therapy etc. Even if you turn to buddhism or religion and tell yourself you are volunteering being celibate. There may be a little thought in the back of your mind saying, "I was never good enough for girls to like me or have sex with me." and unless you are enlightened after possibly decades or more of meditation and spi…
/r/seduction10/02/18 08:12 AM
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I can relate to some of the sutff you said. My dad doesn't say "I love you" although he does say "Love, Dad" in emails to my sisters, but not me. And I only hug him if he goes on holiday which is like once every few years. And yeah my mum often says, "I don't need therapy, I'm fine." while yelling and getting defensive and confusing me with my dad (her ex husband) and getting angry at me when I do behaviours similar to him. But good on us for going to therapy and working on ourselves. We're undo…
/r/seduction07/02/18 03:46 AM
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I imagine you have a traumatic abandonment wound which causes you to feel a lot of fear of being abandoned with the girls you're interested in. As a longer term solution, I recommend get some therapy for maybe a year or two. And go deep to find out more about this wound/s and how you can heal. In the short term I would say good job being aware of your reaction, and try to congratulate yourself everytime you catch yourself asking yourself these questions like "how long until she becomes disintere…
/r/seduction07/02/18 01:00 AM
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It's too much when it gets you in physical danger or in prison, otherwise always speak honestly imo.
/r/seduction27/01/18 10:04 AM
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Tell me what you think.
/r/seduction24/01/18 10:43 PM
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Yep move on.
/r/seduction24/01/18 02:21 AM
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You got the solution and you refused it with an excuse. Sorry no one can help you until you decide you want help bad enough.
/r/seduction24/01/18 02:21 AM
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If you find life exciting, you will most likely come off as exciting to others. If you find things boring, and you don't like anything, guess what ... people and girls will find you boring. Solution? Start being curious about things until you start to enjoy life. If women didn't exist what would you do to enjoy life? Let your mind wonder and find out what you enjoy.
/r/seduction24/01/18 02:18 AM
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Yep then accept the stress that's what you'll have to deal with. Emotions will always be there because you're human. You can try to stifle your emotions but the more you do that, the more you're probably gonna get angry and bitter if she rejects you or fucks some other guy after all this time.
/r/seduction16/01/18 02:36 AM
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Completely cut contact off with her. She's a headfuck girl. I wouldn't touch her, whether you fuck or don't, she'll fuck your head up and it's not worth the effort. She's playing games with you, and you're playing games back, but seriously it's stressful and the more you get attracted to her the more your emotions will fuck around and disturb your inner calm. Stop talking to her, not as a tactic, just stop talking to her and move on to other girls. If she comes chasing you, don't entertain her. …
/r/seduction16/01/18 02:31 AM
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I am guessing they provide some value which is not visible to you or me but to the girls they are with. The value could be in confidence, humbleness, money, giving nature, high social status etc. You never really know unless you know this guy inside and out and what he brings to the table. But rest assured it's not " just luck."
/r/seduction16/01/18 02:26 AM
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Have an honest talk with her. Yes you've already talked about your expectations, but have you talked about how you feel she is having expectations of a serious relationship and how you feel guilty about it? Really say everything you wrote here, do this in person, and if you feel she is lying and contradicting herself point it out, or admit that you still don't believe her. If this becomes a continuous pattern of you feeling guilty and thinking she is lying, you may want to end things, but give s…
/r/seduction16/01/18 02:22 AM
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I get that you feel a frustration seeing guys do this maybe as you reflect on all the times you used to fuck it up too, but ultimately mistakes are part of the process, and most guys learn from their mistakes. If you get frustrated reading this perhaps you need to check in with yourself Also: GUYS! Come on, the number is the whole point of approaching. That's wrong. The point is not to get the number most of the time. At least with me I'm trying to either get laid or take her out on a date, the …
/r/seduction15/01/18 11:06 PM
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She should pay, it's less awkward. Be honest that you're poor.
/r/seduction06/01/18 08:35 AM
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She liked the other guy more than you, move on.
/r/seduction06/01/18 06:11 AM
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OK, I'll bite. How can you say that there will be other girls that like him??!? I write words using a keyboard. I know for a fact that you can not see the future. Yes. It's not fair or ethical to tell somebody that everything will be ok when you don't really know if that's true. I think it is if a person was suicidal a white lie may be ethical even if not effective. Also in this situation I didn't say "everything will be ok" I just said other girls will like him. I am 99.999999% sure some girls …
/r/seduction03/01/18 11:57 AM
2

Dude relax.
/r/seduction03/01/18 11:37 AM
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Well that's good man, keep at it. I wouldn't ever refer to a girl as a gatekeeper or a target personally. I am thinking that's part of the problem, when you see girls like "objects in a game" e.g this girl is stopping you from sex, and this girl is the prize etc. then it separates you from them as human beings and makes it more difficult to actually relate and seduce. Girls will be more resistant and protective when they get that vibe off you.
/r/seduction03/01/18 10:31 AM
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Stop playing world of warcraft.
/r/seduction03/01/18 10:25 AM
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No, I'm saying this about the OP personally. He said: I go to the gym to lift weights and do cardio every day. I do boxing and wrestling So OP is probably not overweight, and has a decent body and self-discipline. He has good command of the English language, and there's a high chance he is not hideous, he probably also has some interest in improving himself or he wouldn't be here. So he is definitely enough. If the girls reject him then that's not in his control and he shouldn't worry about it. …
/r/seduction03/01/18 10:22 AM
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I don't know. Go for some holidays and see which countries work better for you. But don't stay stuck in a place where you aren't as attractive the majority of girls there.
/r/seduction03/01/18 10:19 AM
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Leave that place and find a place where girls love Indian guys. You can struggle and try to "make" these British girls interested in you. But that's out of your control. And it's a lot of work anyway because you'd be playing on hard mode. Unfortunately some girls will be racist to minorities and also even if they're not racist they may not just be into your background unless you're a 10. Find good demographics (good location with girls who like Indian guys) while improving yourself. And you will…
/r/seduction03/01/18 10:00 AM
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Each girl is different. Some will like guys that can fight, others that will like guys that like to fight etc. Sounds like you're feeling insecure though. Remember you are enough as you are.
/r/seduction03/01/18 09:58 AM
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Being weird is naturally out of social acceptance though, it only becomes socially acceptable when you own it. I think you should say within the boundaries of the law and as long as you're not harming anyone then be as weird as you want and own it.
/r/seduction02/01/18 12:06 PM
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Yes. It's bad. You must get rid of it and kill it. It can't be part of your personality at all. You must be normal and conform. Conform damn you. Conform!!!!
/r/seduction02/01/18 12:05 PM
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Here's why I don't think you're a sociopath. Because your entire posts reads to me as "I'm so sad I have to act cold in order to attract girls, I resent girls for being this way .. I'm not really a sociopath but I'll delude myself into being one and post it on here hoping someone will give me the magic pill of a comment that lets me have some faith that girls aren't just into cold fucks. I want to be my true emotional self but I feel like I can't or I won't be accepted" Sociopaths don't have tha…
/r/seduction02/01/18 08:27 AM
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That's a lie. So you must be a sociopath jk .. you really don't seem like a sociopath .. I'm guessing you self diagnosed. You do however sound bitter.
/r/seduction02/01/18 08:17 AM
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You sound more like a whiny victim than a sociopath imo.
/r/seduction02/01/18 08:06 AM
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Let's say you want to be a good runner. If your goal is "be a good runner" you won't ever know when you are a good runner or not, and you will compare yourself to your friends. When one of your friends does fast sprtints in 100m, you may get jealous, when another friend does a marathon you may get jealous, but if you don't have your own specific goal within your control, you will forever be stuck because there's so many ways to define being a good runner! Learning how to run, what to prepare for…
/r/seduction01/01/18 05:28 AM
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How do I not do something like this Again I asked you to re-define your definition of success for a reason. When you have it clearly there then whenever you feel jealous of your friend/s you can say "Ok did I do what was in my control to achieve my goal?" and if the answer is yes, you can breathe a sigh of relief, and if the answer is no, then you put in more work, but you don't end up stewing in thoughts about how you suck and how your friend/s are better etc. Have a clear, specific goal that i…
/r/seduction01/01/18 05:11 AM
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I wouldn't say "strictly platonic" only because it may come off as insulting and assumptive that the girl is assuming more than friends. So I would just say "let's hangout at ___ " or "let's go __ " and simply don't flirt or touch, just be funny and a good listener and you will be friendzoned quickly. Seeing as that's what you want.
/r/seduction01/01/18 04:28 AM
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I'm not really sure how to answer that tbh lol but I'll try my best. Ok this is probably the root of your problems. You have to have a specific measure of success or of course you won't know when you're achieving and progressing and you'll also compare yourself to other people's versions of success which will end up with you being an indecisive person who is always insecure and stuck and frustrated. success with women would be to be able to walk up to any girl that you want and at the very least…
/r/seduction01/01/18 04:02 AM
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Just keep hanging out and don't make any sexual or flirty moves. Treat her like a friend and there's a good chance she'll become one. If you suspect she is thinking there is something more or trying to take it further, have an honest talk with her.
/r/seduction01/01/18 03:42 AM
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Sounds like you're a bit stuck. What is your definition of success with girls?
/r/seduction01/01/18 03:31 AM
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What are you talking about man? I am the epitome of perfection. I have no problems! I am the god, the king, the alpha and omega. There are no problems here just a gleaming light of inspiration.
/r/seduction30/12/17 11:04 PM
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You're saying what you want the guy "not" to do, what would you "want" the guy to do? Give me some specific behaviours in the positive.
/r/seduction30/12/17 09:17 PM
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Well if you were a girl, how would you like a guy that you like to show his desires to you?
/r/seduction30/12/17 08:29 AM
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I see. So you made some mistakes and you regret that though it's not entirely your fault. You were raised and brought up in a way where you didn't learn what neediness/non-neediness is and you probably were modelling behaviour of what you've seen and trusting your feelings. You did the best you could in that moment, which you've now realised were mistakes. What can you do in future knowing what you do to let girls know your desires in a more attractive manner?
/r/seduction30/12/17 08:24 AM
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My number one mistake is that I've chased women before Let's define 'chase': chase - an act of pursuing someone or something. Assuming this is what you mean. It is NOT a mistake to chase women. Chasing women to find out if they like you and to see if you can get with them is what bold men do, and it's how you will get laid or get a girlfriend. It is something to be proud of as many guys jack off to porn at home, you are out there chasing. The only time chasing is a problem is when you are chasin…
/r/seduction30/12/17 08:09 AM
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What did you learn about yourself through reading it?
/r/seduction30/12/17 07:14 AM
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You're being hyperbolic, outlandish, and antagonistic. I disagree with hyperbolic. I think to you I come across outlandish. And I agree I am antagonistic. What I'm realizing now is you just do not like what I stand for, and that's a successful man that succeeds in a way you can't understand apparently. Yes. You are right. I don't like you and I am envious of you and other guys who get success without putting in some kind of conscious initiative. AND I also think you and other guys who aren't abl…
/r/seduction30/12/17 06:04 AM
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I am not one dimensional, and neither are you, so please quit insulting me by suggesting such a thing. Well I think you did lack important information in your above comment, so I think in that way you were one dimensional at that point in time. I'm here to help, AND if something is unhelpful I'll disagree and point it out as bad or incomplete information can be damaging. A guy could see your comment with all the upvotes and think to himself "All I have to do is have a good time and talk to girls…
/r/seduction30/12/17 04:28 AM
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Seriously your post and this second comment of yours pisses me off. It's a complete oversimplification of game even if it just your experience, and I don't understand all the upvotes. Hell there's guys out there who get with girls and give advice like "be confident that's all you need" but that oversimplification is not helpful just like your advice of "talk to everyone and have a good time". There's so much crap about "have a good time and girls will flock to your dick," but I know so many guys…
/r/seduction30/12/17 03:51 AM
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This doesn't work really. I know plenty of people that have a good time, and they go home and wack off. Still need initiative and game.
/r/seduction30/12/17 02:39 AM
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If you're a serious guy, that's ok ... you don't need to be energetic and change your whole personality. But when asking a girl out on a date, showing some interest and enthusiasm is definitely helpful. If a girl senses the date will be boring because you sound boring, why would she be motivated to go? Would you wanna hangout with a boring person? If you're really keen on doing something fun then that interest should naturally come through your words and tone. So make sure you find dates that yo…
/r/seduction30/12/17 02:37 AM
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Hey I'm going to the historic district of (city) on (whatever day). I'm gonna walk around and grab something to eat. You should come. Firstly this date sounds boring, the way you said it sounds serious, and the "you should come" is a weak way to end the communication imo. If someone says "you should come." it's easy for them to not say anything or just say "Ok." or "yeah I'll think about it." I would find something fun and specific to do like "I'm gonna eat some food at this cool place called __…
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:44 AM
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What I want to know is what do you guys think, should I just drop her, or keep it going but not “fully” if that makes sense? Dude WTF? Imagine you hook up with a cute girl, then later you lose her. But a new girl who happens to be really pretty comes by and you hook up with his new girl, does this mean you don't like or want the first one? No! You like both! Just the second girl was there when you wanted something and the first one got lost. All you gotta do is act like nothing is wrong, because…
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:16 AM
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Give me the last three examples of you asking a girl on a date. What did you say exactly?
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:12 AM
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Cockmeat sandwich.
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:08 AM
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I think you meant to post this in some incel sub ... this sub is full of guys who already know what you're saying as common sense.
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:08 AM
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Obviously we learn in real life. But a wall of text can give concrete action steps to implement in real life to increase confidence. So far no one here has articulated how to get confident. And I think a wall of text could list practical exercises. And I don't like being called a retard. If you have nothing constructive to say, back off.
/r/seduction27/12/17 03:01 PM
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I want actual answers ... not cliches.
/r/seduction26/12/17 12:01 PM
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How? Check How?
/r/seduction26/12/17 08:33 AM
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Isn't that what game is all about at least in the terms of overhyping yourself in order to look confident and maintaining your frame when you get tested all the time? Yeah ... shit game. Good game is about being vulnerable and honest. I have been true to myself and people all this time. Now I am here. Every single girl got creeped out after I answered them truthfully. Didn't even get the chance to show my personality. No you haven't been true to them: I have told them that I have had a ton and y…
/r/seduction25/12/17 09:08 PM
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Open questions. Hold silence and tension. Let them invest 50%.
/r/seduction25/12/17 08:58 PM
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Feel the pain in your body. Always try and redirect your attention to feeling the sensations like tension in your stomach, or warmth, or itchiness, or tingles, or sweat in your hands, or pain in your head etc. Feel into your heartbrokeness on a sensation level and it will pass in time, but allow yourself to feel it.
/r/seduction19/12/17 10:26 AM
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Watch actions.
/r/seduction17/12/17 12:50 PM
1

What can you do to recover from / handle the physical and mental pain of being alone and judged by others?
/r/seduction17/12/17 09:00 AM
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Yeah no worries man. I find it that I'm very scared of being not liked by others and to be alone. This pushes me to be scared to show people who really i am. This sounds real to me. I can feel something in my own body reading this. These are common fears. Well done for identifying them. If you chose to let go of your inner critic and let loose a bit, and people didn't like you and you ended up being alone. Could you handle that pain that would come up from that?
/r/seduction17/12/17 08:27 AM
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Your house quietly after first letting your parents know. Car. Friend's house. Disabled toilets. Deserted parks late at night over a picknick blanket. Get creative. If you have some spare money rent a motel. In the mean time start saving some money and get ready to move out.
/r/seduction17/12/17 06:45 AM
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Try search in your body for the answers not your mind. When you say "i guess" I'm thinking you're doing a lot of guess work up in your mind to find the answer and also the way you're writing seems to be more of an explanation than your truth. I encourage you to close your eyes, even put your hand to your chest and let yourself feel your body for a bit, and let the answer come to you as you answer the following questions. What are you afraid would happen if you acted like an idiot? What does bein…
/r/seduction17/12/17 06:41 AM
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I would say it's not about attention, it's about vulnerability. To me it sounds like you're scared of showing yourself for some fear of being judged as a party guy whether by yourself or by others. I imagine because you judge others so harshly for talking about themselves, you also are scared people will judge you harshly for talking about yourself. But a lot of people like to hear from others and relate experiences, and perhaps there are people wanting to hear more from you and not feeling conn…
/r/seduction17/12/17 01:34 AM
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Wow, thats some amazing knowledge you have Are you professional psychologist or just psychology fanatic? Haha I'm interested in being a therapist in the future so thanks for the compliment that definitely encourages me. I've done some of my own therapy too and have insights because I too have my own inner critic and I am learning to be more gentle and tell myself positives as well. But maybe its sometimes good to have some inner critic? It helps you to act stupid less, i just see people that hav…
/r/seduction17/12/17 12:48 AM
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Well dancing represents fun. If you don't dance, that's fine. Just make sure you can create fun for yourself and the girl. If she's not having fun with you that may not be good. I would dance even if shit, but it's up to you. If you don't dance, take her on an adventure someway and make sure she has fun.
/r/seduction17/12/17 12:32 AM
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I think my parents very fucking critical and still are and prefer tearing me down than building. I'm not surprised. And I imagine you are quite angry at your parents realising this. People with strong inner critics often were raise by people who were critical and so they learnt to do it to themselves as a way of familiarity. Your parents were also probably raised by critical people too. There is something that has happened in this convo. You have now had a moment of awareness of your inner criti…
/r/seduction17/12/17 12:04 AM
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I recommend for you changing your focus to building your social circle and making friends. Forget about girls for a bit. Your neediness is seeping out and the fact you're trying hard and getting disappointed is probably a sign that you need a break to reflect on things, introspect but also build up some self esteem. Friends can be a great support for self esteem and once you feel better and have reflected on things you're doing well and things you can improve in, you'll be in better mental shape…
/r/seduction16/12/17 11:49 PM
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Yeah I seperated them. Because I see them as different thoughts. Here's how you can test it. Imagine a parent saying to their little child, "You don't deserve to be kind to yourself. You're very unsuccessful in every aspect of your life." Would you say that's a loving parent or a critical parent? Is that parent building the kid up or tearing them down?
/r/seduction16/12/17 11:42 PM
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Is this your inner critic talking right now as you answer? "I don't deserve to be kind to myself" "I'm very unsuccessful in every aspect of life"
/r/seduction16/12/17 11:36 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/estpo/frequently_asked_questions/ Read the first question and answer in the FAQ.
/r/seduction16/12/17 11:34 PM
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I would say try to go easier on yourself. Even now you're trying to find solutions and fix or fight your "problems." What are you scared would happen if you were more kind to yourself?
/r/seduction16/12/17 11:31 PM
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Sounds like you're scared of feelings coming up in your body and racing thoughts and judgements in your mind. Also sounds like you have a strong inner critic.
/r/seduction16/12/17 01:46 PM
1

within how many minutes of talking with her, approximately? Or rather, is there really a set range or do you just rely on instinct? The moment you think about it, say it. It's better spontaneous. I can see me whispering to a girl after a few minutes when she is trying to be nice just as easily as taking 15 minutes to whisper to a girl who might be into me enough to want to leave sooner. Why must women be so damn non-verbal with their communication! lol...I'm not hopeless with "IOIs", but I miss …
/r/seduction16/12/17 01:43 PM
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Yes, the moment you think about it, say it. It's better spontaneous. And say whatever your desire is in statement form e.g "I want ___" make sure to say it in a sexy smooth voice in her ear.
/r/seduction16/12/17 01:35 PM
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I like the playfulness and voice and confidence. I don't like the meaningless drawn out chit chat though. I would get close to her, and whisper in her ear what I want boldly.
/r/seduction16/12/17 01:11 PM
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everyone will look around me and think that, wtf is this weirdo doing, what a loser. Will they really think this? Or the girl will ignore me or say something very rude And then what would happen to you in your body or mind if she ignored you or said something rude? or i will freeze and will not be able to say anything And what's scary about being quiet?
/r/seduction16/12/17 12:42 PM
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Q 1. Watch for red flags. Q 2. Are you a player though? And are you a sex addict? Take your time to consider if these labels fit your behaviours or not. If they do, own the labels. If someone asks "are you a player?" you can say "Yeah I love sex with different people." If you're not one, you can say "No I don't think I am even though others do." Inb4 "Don't say that, that would be failing the test by responding seriously to the words"
/r/seduction16/12/17 12:31 PM
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95% of seduction is manipulative and yeah I don't like compromising my values to get laid. If you want an honest approach try, Mode One by Alan Roger Currie, or Susan Campbell Truth In Dating. These work for me and don't make me feel like a manipulative salesman.
/r/seduction16/12/17 12:24 PM
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Any idea what's going on? Am I just giving too many fucks? You have fear. And you haven't figured out your own strategy to help you take action in spite of fear. I.e You lack courage. You also have a victim mentality, "I just can't seem to fucking approach, I don't know why. There will be girls giving signs and shit but I just don't know how to." as if you have no power of moving your legs over to a girl and saying words, and as if this is some complex thing that you don't know how to do. Kids a…
/r/seduction16/12/17 12:11 PM
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What stops you besides your own unwillingness to do it?
/r/seduction16/12/17 11:54 AM
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It was a strong awareness of my current situation, knowledge from heaps of pickup vids and a kind of anger/impatience e.g "I'm sick of this shit/fed up with this/I need to go out and try approaching today!" My anger/impatience at my situation gave me a drive to move the fuck out of my house, get to the city and walk around for a few hours before approaching my first girl and muttering something and talking for a bit and then leaving.
/r/seduction16/12/17 06:36 AM
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Don't try anything new or try and get her attention etc. Just be present to her. You seemed to do fine last time, so if you're present you'll do fine this time too most likely. Don't try to control anything, she already is attracted to you, no need to be scared of fucking anything up. If she isn't into sex tonight, oh well you can get other girls or maybe try another time.
/r/seduction16/12/17 06:33 AM
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I don't think it would work as a technique. I think if you genuinely did it, it may work sometimes and other times may fail. If I were you I would question myself, "What do I gain from the girl chasing me? What is my hidden motive for this desire for her to chase me? What am I scared of happening if I chase her?"
/r/seduction16/12/17 06:30 AM
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But teenagers slut it around big time in the UK, so it's not really 'taking advantage of them'. They can say no. They WANT to get dicked. Incoming essay. What you said sounds like a rationalisation to me and I'm thinking it's your defense to remove yourself from any guilt you may feel from doing what you did. Just because teenagers slut around doesn't mean it should be acceptable for 30 year old men to take advantage of them sexually even if the law allows it and even if "other men are doing it.…
/r/seduction15/12/17 04:36 AM
1

Go to a doctor.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:20 PM
1

Could I still attract a decent amount of women by just being normal and going for it? Try that for some months and report back.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:19 PM
1

Some would call it shit test. I'd call it immaturity. I think you'll find old and mature women generally don't do this, while young girls in their teens to 20s and especially in bars/clubs will act "immature" a lot.
/r/seduction11/12/17 08:53 AM
1

Direct works for me and aligns with my values. Indirect makes me cringe and doesn't work for me. I pick direct.
/r/seduction11/12/17 07:23 AM
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How can I lose my virginity in 6 months? In order to lose your virginity a girl needs to say yes and unfortunately a girl's choice is never in your control. That also means your definition of success isn't in your control. And that also means if success brings you happiness, your happiness isn't in your control either. Do you see how all of a sudden this goal you have leads to you ONLY being happy if the girl fucks you? You're relying on a girl to bring you happiness. But if she doesn't fuck you…
/r/seduction09/12/17 07:44 AM
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Disagree with losing it to an escort. I did that, and although I found sex to be not a big deal I ended up with much more problems. I lost it at 18 to a hooker and had a not so great experience. I went back more than once because I sucked at sex and wanted to practice and become decent before banging a regular girl, then the sex started getting better, and after some time I realised I was addicted. Every time I had spare money I'd head to a brothel for the excitement. It also drains my money, an…
/r/seduction07/12/17 10:45 AM
1

You're a confident man starting right now. What do you do as the confident man? Tell me what you're gonna do. Don't ask me.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:24 AM
1

Ok so commit to doing that or something similar next time you see that girl or another girl. Please don't come back here and write more posts about if a girl is interested or not based on where she is glancing. I just shake my head in disbelief when I think about it.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:22 AM
1

Ok so you've acknowledged your creepy behaviour and how you were intimidated. Now what would a confident man have done in your situation?
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:17 AM
1

Look you're gonna have to work on it. But you know yourself better than we do. So it's best to start simple and focus on one area that will net you the most results. Answer this, what is the ONE thing you can do daily/weekly to significantly improve your chances of getting laid?
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:05 AM
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Tap her on the arm, give her some space, and say "hi" confidently. You won't be pepper sprayed. I imagine you've never talked to a random girl before. Is that right? Just so you know, girls find hesitation and following creepy as fuck. So while you're trying to avoid "pepper spray" you're probably creeping her out with your weird behaviours of looking at her and saying nothing. If you actually talk to them and are honest about why you're talking to them (you like her and want a date), they are l…
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:00 AM
2

Wtf. You're a nerd. You never get laid.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:51 AM
2

Seriously ... my anger and judgement just gets more and more as I read down this post. I just want to shout in your ear. FUCK MAN STOP READING INTO EVERY LITTLE MICROSIGNAL, STOP BEING A FUCKING PUSSY AND TALK TO THE DAMN GIRL. NO ONE WANTS TO ANALYSE 'LOOKS.' FUCK. So my actual advice would be to, talk to the girl ... and make a damn move. The best way to know if a girl is interested, is if she reciprocates your interests. So make a move. Stop analysing her eyeballs.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:48 AM
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I have no idea. But maybe you are attracted to qualities rape victims have in common. I don't know what these qualities are as each individual is different, but there may be a pattern. E.g maybe rape victims are softer or more quiet, and you like that soft side, so you seek them out while avoiding louder girls etc. But that may be wrong because rape victims may be loud too, I'm just making an example.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:42 AM
2

Sounds spot on.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:39 AM
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Is just being chill and normal enough? Yes it is. You're enough. I don't know what else to say, other than I think your post comes off as insecure, and I recommend getting away from rsd or other game things that say you "need to be cocky/funny/entertaining/witty/blah blah blah" you don't need any of that shit. Really you just need to be able to talk to girls, and take action so they know you exist and know what you want and be able to move things forward. Those behaviours are just so that things…
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:35 AM
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Which would you prefer a solid gf or a lot of hookups? Well you're doing an either/or question. There is also the in between. Having a harem, multiple fuckbuddies, friends with benefits, girls that you fuck but also connect with and don't have any labels on it, polyamorous (loving many) etc. Perhaps in your mind you only see, shallow sex vs serious monogamous relationship. I like the shallow sex sometimes because it feels great and is fun but it doesn't fulfill all my needs. I don't like the ide…
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:32 AM
1

Just carry on like usual. If people judge you in their mind oh well, if people judge you out loud, tell them what you wrote here.
/r/seduction03/12/17 10:28 AM
1

We both kinda developed feelings for one another over the like month we were together before. Maybe I'm scared of that? Pause and reflect. What do you think?
/r/seduction03/12/17 10:24 AM
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Being likable is an asset. Helping people out is super attractive. Agreed. However trying to be likeable is not the same as being likeable. That was my point. Trying to often backfires and people will think you're a people pleaser.
/r/seduction02/12/17 06:54 AM
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Bad question tbh. You don't want to try to be more likeable. That's called people pleasing and it's unattractive.
/r/seduction01/12/17 09:42 PM
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Courage is doing what you think is right or what you want to do in spite of fear, not eliminating fear. Be courageous at all times. People come and go. Be okay with being alone. Women are not conquests, numbers, objects, sets, approaches. Women are women. Women are people. Women are beings. Women are your allies. Treat them as such. Whatever you are feeling or resisting is ok, just be aware of the feelings or resistances and accept what is going on now. Pickup/sex/numbers/endorphin/validation/sm…
/r/seduction01/12/17 09:11 PM
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Find the middle ground. Don't be an obnoxious twat and hit on her in an overt manner. And don't completely dismiss it either. I would just talk to her initially, if she gives you green lights, escalate slowly, and ask to "hang out" after work by getting a bite or something. Don't say the word "date." Always be reading her signals and body language. E.g her leaning into you very good green light. Her smiling but walking away red light. You want to make sure she's interested. If she is , keep goin…
/r/seduction01/12/17 06:45 AM
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Ohh. Well see if you can fit her in, if you can't that's life. It's really about time management. Is work more important than dates ? Then ditch the dates. Etc.
/r/seduction29/11/17 07:58 AM
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Get other dates with other girls. If this number falls who gives a shit you will be too busy with other girls.
/r/seduction29/11/17 07:34 AM
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Dude cut the crap. Sit her down and say this "Look I change my mind. We're not having a threesome. I want to just have sex with you." and say this in a real way, no joking around or anything. And shut the fuck up after saying it, don't ask her a question, don't say another word and look at her in the eyes. If she gives you the "eyes" which is basically she looks ready for sex, go for it, start making out and pulling off your top. Being dominant is easy, it's literally saying what you want in the…
/r/seduction29/11/17 07:31 AM
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Yes it feels great.
/r/seduction29/11/17 07:24 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/seduction28/11/17 05:21 AM
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But currently I am getting something meaningful from my hobby I am calling bullshit in my head. I'm guessing you just get pleasure and a way to relax. What is that meaningful thing you are getting?
/r/seduction28/11/17 02:18 AM
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meetup.com is what I used to find people of similar interests.
/r/seduction28/11/17 02:14 AM
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yeah I started game young, but I neglected my social circle. If there is one thing I regret it's that. While you're young and here, take it in. Your social circle could be the thing that gives you a fuck load more sex than guys out their approaching. And while you're in school/uni is the perfect time to work on social circle. Girls in your social circle will trust you more, since they know you, then all you gotta do is attract them by having some balls, and get alone with them to hook up. Real e…
/r/seduction28/11/17 02:12 AM
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First take like 5 deep and slow breaths. Being relaxed is the most important thing. Tell her "Hey I'm planning on staying in and watching some movies tonight, wanna come over?" (Hopefully you actually have some movies, otherwise don't say this lol) If you are really sure she is down to fuck, then text should be enough, but the problem with text is, if the girl has any doubts it will be harder for you to reassure her etc because you won't hear her voice and she may not reply for a while, so that'…
/r/seduction28/11/17 02:06 AM
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Get some virgin friends who like to have fun and are ok with their virginity status. You'll probably find them in anxiety groups. Seriously, it will help improve your self esteem and happiness, and when you realise some of them don't pressure themselves to have sex, your own pressure to have sex will probably reduce and you will be more content with being a virgin. When that happens, well firstly you will have a better life, and secondly, you'll be more relaxed about the possibility of sex and g…
/r/seduction28/11/17 02:02 AM
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Whats on my mind is normally the boring stuff which of course is not attractive. Like what? If you're going up to a girl I am betting there's some interesting things your mind produces and you filterr them out. E.g my mind may say "damn she's hot my god look at her." If I say that to a girl it sounds like, "I'm thinking damn you're hot, my god! Look at you." Or if you are nervous and you see a girl you may be thinking "oh man she's so pretty, there's no way she'd get with a guy like me, I'd have…
/r/seduction28/11/17 01:49 AM
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Learn social circle game, become friends with the guys and girls who party a lot, and get laid that way. I wouldn't recommend going out approaching at your age, it's much better to learn how to operate social circle and build your self esteem that way.
/r/seduction27/11/17 07:55 AM
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Get some therapy. You've posted this multiple times in different subs and you're either a troll, or highly insecure. And whichever one it is, therapy will be beneficial for you.
/r/seduction27/11/17 07:54 AM
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This just doesn't apply to text game. Take this advice for your life. If something is working keep doing it. I heard this ages ago, and it's one thing that is incredibly wise. It works with giving girls an orgasm, with job hunting, with anything really. It's kind of crazy to try new stuff if you're already getting the results you want, only try new stuff when things stop working or if you are a scientist and want to experiment.
/r/seduction27/11/17 07:47 AM
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Well unfortunately I don't think I have autism so it's more difficult for me to empathise with your situation and offer advice. Although I did have social anxiety and still do to some degree even now. My advice would be ask those guys who have autism and got laid for advice. And/or watch them get with girls, and study them.
/r/seduction27/11/17 05:46 AM
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OK... well how many times did you try it? There's tonnes of groups. Some have older people, and some have younger and mixed ages. Join sport clubs like mixed volleyball, tennis etc in your area or dance classes or yoga classes, great ways to meet women and improve the quality of your life.
/r/seduction27/11/17 05:42 AM
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I don't have a lot of opportunity though since I'm almost out of college. This has worked for you? I tried it and it was mostly middle age people. It wasn't really something that would work for me. When I hear these sentences I feel pissed off. I'm imagining you're shooting down useful advice that I'm helping out with.
/r/seduction27/11/17 03:23 AM
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Routines don't get results though that's the problem. It's the person using the routine. Routines have every chance of failing as saying whatever is on your mind does. Actually I argue if you say what's really on your mind constantly, you will be 10x more interesting and attractive than a guy using routines, and you will be honest too which means you keep girls around better. The question you gotta ask is "Why do you need a routine?" Is it a crutch? because you're too scared to trust yourself? D…
/r/seduction27/11/17 03:09 AM
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meetup.com go to events that you are interested in, talk to people, the people you click with get their fb, ask them out again to different things, make friends, profit.
/r/seduction27/11/17 03:05 AM
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I got no advice other than say, "hey I'll talk to you later"
/r/seduction27/11/17 02:51 AM
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Well thanks for asking those questions. I was initially in too much pain to reflect on it. But now I can use these three points I answered you with for future girls. So I appreciate you for probing. And also I'm relieved a bit hearing, " BUT the next time seemed to be better than the previous... I think we'll all figure it out eventually, just takes time and mistakes so we can grow." Gives me hope that i won't stay like a needy little guy my whole life.
/r/seduction27/11/17 02:50 AM
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Dude. You sound like a military instructor. I don't think your message are of any help to OP. Nothing you said is empathetic or practical. Most of what you said is just using strong words and although it seems flashy and bold, there is no substance.
/r/seduction27/11/17 01:57 AM
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If just getting laid is your goal, then go to a brothel. If I were you and I wanted sex with a girl that wanted me not for money but because she was attracted or just horny, then I would do the following: Develop your social circle first and become friends with fun guys that go out a lot. This can seriously help over the long run. They will invite you to parties, bars, they will show you how they get laid, you will emulate them, they may help you with fashion and working out etc. So get a good g…
/r/seduction27/11/17 01:53 AM
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Cancel the date and say that you don't think there's any chemistry between you guys and dump her. I only say this because I think she'll probably give you the break up or frienfzone speech soon based on what you wrote and based on my own experience, and it's much more powerful to be the dumper than the dumpee.
/r/seduction27/11/17 01:48 AM
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So when you opened up to her, everything was fine but when it became needy love is when she became uninterested? I don't know. I opened up to her while being needy. So I don't know when or why she lost interest this is just my guess. what are some of the needy things you'd want to take back? Well this isn't really needy because I was doing it from a place of expression, but it did probably look needy to her, and it is something I would try not to do again. Which was, messaging her how I felt abo…
/r/seduction27/11/17 01:41 AM
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Start asking girls in real life on dates more often. Get rejected more, get more success, and realise that many girls don't give that much of a fuck about your looks as you do, they're probably thinking more about how they look. Seriously I'm a skinny fat, and I consider myself pretty ugly sometimes, I judge myself a bit harshly too, I'm probably just average looking. But I have realised that girls don't care, so why should I? One girl was self concious about her stomach while with me in bed, an…
/r/seduction27/11/17 12:42 AM
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Great fucking question. This is the real problems we need to be discussing more as a community imo. Because I got in the dilemma just recently, and my heart is crushed. I realised my mistake. I didn't want the girl I needed the girl. Extremely unattractive. I needed her because she gave me something I lacked in my life. (Cuddling, hand holding, physical intimacy, closeness) I could get sex, but the closeness and intimacy was foreign. I opened myself to her, and I almost fell in love, but it was …
/r/seduction27/11/17 12:33 AM
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My advice. DITCH PICKUP ADVICE. My opinion is most of it is garbage, kind of like the fitness industry. Some relevant stuff. but the most important thing is always do what works for you and aligns with your values. Why would you give up your results to have "good game"??? Pickup is for guys who are completely shit with women and lost, and don't know what to do. If you have a sticking point sure use pickup info, but if you're already good at texting, ditch the texting advice people give you. You …
/r/seduction27/11/17 12:27 AM
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I don't think this useful advice. Because technically he already tried but his body failed him. Do you mean keep attempting to have shitty sex until the anxiety subsides? Coz I think it would be useful to be specific about that.
/r/seduction26/11/17 01:23 AM
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Yeah man I guess I oversimplified it it coz that's how I see it in my head. I definitely missed some things. Thanks for breaking it down.
/r/seduction26/11/17 12:02 AM
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Well tips: Learn to be comfortable saying no when you want to say no Learn to be comfortable saying yes when you see an opportunity Learn to pause to give yourself time to make decisions Write down common ways people step over your boundaries, and write down solutions for how you will handle those again in assertive way when they arise. e.g girl is talking about crap you don't care about, what will you do? or someone makes a joke at your expense but it's pretty mean, what do you say or do? Monit…
/r/seduction25/11/17 08:41 AM
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The opposite of people pleasing is assertiveness. So take up a course in that or something if your usual pattern is affecting your life in a bad way.
/r/seduction25/11/17 08:21 AM
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Go up to the group say hi with a smile, and then turn to girl and say I need to talk to you in private for a sec. If she likes you she will comply, and if the friends don't hate you they will leave you alone. Then ask on date in private.
/r/seduction25/11/17 07:52 AM
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why the fuck did i not even try to touch her and basically let her cry about all of her problems? Because you have a people pleasing pattern. You listen when you don't really want to, in order to prevent your fear of being judged or attacked coming true. Gotta realise that even if that happens you can handle any painful feelings that come up from being attacked or judged, and it most likely won't happen anyway if you speak in an assertive and respectful way.
/r/seduction24/11/17 11:59 PM
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Sounds like getting a great body has a major downside .... insecurity!!! Thanks for the warning bro, I'm gonna stay fat and confident instead.
/r/seduction23/11/17 07:41 AM
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Man that sounds pretty routine. Glad you're asking the question, because variety is a huge part of being good in bed and I'm thinking that girl is probably losing interest too. So, try fucking in different places, dirty talk (if she's down), different positions, put on costumes and roleplay.
/r/seduction23/11/17 07:37 AM
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I personally will not give a girl oral without knowing for sure she is clean. Licking a girl's pussy is like the least risky way to catch an std so that's the one thing I disagree with you. Only thing you really have to worry about is herpes, but you'll probably get that at some point anyway. 80% of adults in America have it or something.
/r/seduction23/11/17 07:33 AM
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What about 47 - 100?? What a ripoff.
/r/seduction23/11/17 07:27 AM
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Yes I read it. My advice again is: Become a sexy interesting person Speak your mind unfiltered with girls More than likely, that guy failed both 1 and 2 of my rules.
/r/seduction22/11/17 09:30 PM
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I didn't understand what you're really asking. The last few questions are close ended. I am choosing to see behind the words and evaluate the tone of the post. I imagine you are feeling low and hopeless. Is that right? What is it you would like to help experience hope and aliveness?
/r/seduction22/11/17 11:24 AM
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hmmm...In that thread the advice was that you should not ask 'boring' questions like age/name etc (in the link in my OP) after the open You disagree with them posters? Yeah I disagree. If I wanna know a girl's name or age I'll ask for it. I think too many guys are worried about being perceived as boring, but the words you say often aren't boring, it's the person who is asking the questions that is. If you are an awesome guy with an interesting lifestyle, great clothes, you can get away with "bor…
/r/seduction22/11/17 11:18 AM
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Oh jesus. I disagree with preparing assumption lines. I think don't plan out your assumptions. Look at the girl with your eyeballs, observe her, then make an assumption based on her appearance. E.g If you see a girl with a small backpack, jeans, books. Look at that shit and you may say "I imagine you study psychology." or she is wearing yoga pants, "You look like you just came from a yoga class/gym" etc. But really boring questions are completely ok. Imo the most important thing is that you are …
/r/seduction22/11/17 09:53 AM
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send her a pussy and then a whip .... in that order ... you're pussy whipped.
/r/seduction22/11/17 09:49 AM
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Dude she's fucking crazy to be into a guy of that calibre. And if you feel bothered by her, there's a good chance you're extremely needy and don't have much self esteem yourself. Seriously, she's garbage, go find some quality girls and make yourself a quality guy.
/r/seduction22/11/17 07:01 AM
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That's not direct. Or at least, it's not my definition of direct. Imo if you're truely direct and honest, you see her in person or give a call, and just tell her what you feel and what you want, and then ask if she is interested. Fuck the chit chat and the coffee unless that's what you want to do.
/r/seduction22/11/17 06:56 AM
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This is the problem with "indirect" game. Girls can test you like this or they may genuinely be confused, and you'll fail coz you don't have some indirect response to backup the true reason. Just let her know you like and her and want to hang out with her, it will solve all your problems. You'll either go out or get rejected plain and simple.
/r/seduction22/11/17 06:42 AM
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Well what proof are you looking for? Anecdotes are pretty much all you got when guys tell you what works in seduction. Videos can always be faked. So ultimately you gotta take a risk with what you think may work and aligns with your values.
/r/seduction22/11/17 06:39 AM
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What's the challenge? Is it not having enough time? Or physical energy? Or motivation?
/r/seduction22/11/17 02:00 AM
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I'm no good at text game anyway. But I would say "Interesting .." and then I would put my phone away, and go do some shit and forget about the convo. She doesn't seem highly invested. The reason you are chasing her is because ... you probably like her and have free time on your hands. The only way she'll chase you is if she likes you a lot, and if you are ACTUALLY busy. Also just try and set up dates, making convo and fliriting over text seems to be problematic for many guys.
/r/seduction21/11/17 02:20 AM
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I'm not a needy person but I do get annoyed when she flirts with other guys. I know it's awful and I always try to stop myself to think this way. This is problematic. The jealousy is not a problem. How you handle jealousy might be a problem, and how your inner critic scolds you about your jealousy can be a problem. Jealousy and anger and insecurity and other feelings are all very natural, it's a part of you telling you what you want. Just learn to accept the painful feelings, and choose what you…
/r/seduction21/11/17 02:07 AM
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Just go to meetups with whatever you are interested in. Go with the intention of doing fun shit and meeting people. So if you like board games do that, or if you like sports do that, or if you like IT stuff join one of those. And make sure you're doing stuff that you find fun (as this will make you seem more friendly to others). If you join a yoga class just to meet girls and you hate it, girls will pickup on this vibe and label you a creep, so don't do that. Join whatever you are personally int…
/r/seduction21/11/17 01:45 AM
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Do both! Definitely get your shit together. And also talk to a girl every day if it's within your schedule, or talk to 10-20 on the weekend if you don't want to do it every day. You're right, it's easy to use the excuse of "I need to get a job, I need to have my own place, I need to be rich, I need to be fit etc before I get with girls." sometimes this may be true, but there are poor, ugly, fat guys still getting laid out there. However, girls flake, cheat, dump guys, there is drama, there is ch…
/r/seduction20/11/17 09:16 AM
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Well I'll talk about myself. I also went through a massive dry spell of not talking to women. I also jacked off to porn a lot and stayed indoors a lot, my social life was shit. I tried telling myself to go out and talk to girls, but only rarely did one or two approaches every now and then if I got the courage at all. Then I started going to meetups and just socialising with people. I decided I wanted to fill my life with fun activities at least so I wouldn't be so bored. Eventually I found a gro…
/r/seduction20/11/17 09:12 AM
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Sounds like the bashing yourself is the problem for you. What does bashing yourself do for you? Or what does it protect you from?
/r/seduction18/11/17 10:05 AM
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Did you mislead them in someway?
/r/seduction18/11/17 09:51 AM
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OH right. Well my mum keeps hinting I go there, I think she thinks I could get with them easy, but I know the culture there is not good for approaching may even get you punished.
/r/seduction18/11/17 09:48 AM
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I'm thinking there's something wrong with you during lovemaking that pisses women off or you seem to be unconciously seeking out crazy women or perhaps you don't like all the women's real behaviours and you like their friendly facade.
/r/seduction18/11/17 09:46 AM
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Depends on so many factors. This question is kinda broad.
/r/seduction18/11/17 09:42 AM
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Will that realistically happen?
/r/seduction18/11/17 09:41 AM
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What's the best way to stop getting jealous? Stop going on instagram and facebook. Or don't be human.
/r/seduction18/11/17 09:32 AM
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What are you scared would happen if you approached a girl and stood your ground?
/r/seduction18/11/17 08:46 AM
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Women on here usually say they hate being bothered by guys in public. That's coz most guys who do talk to girls in public approach like shit or plainly catcall or harrass women. Guys who approach with respect and awareness are actually in the minority. So of course women on here complain about what they remember being bad experiences. But if you approach in a very respectful and aware way, most women won't complain that much, and if they do fuck what they think.
/r/seduction18/11/17 08:35 AM
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Are they more approachable? I am Indian-Australian (Born in Australia, parents are Indian) haven't approached many Indian girls, but I think some are pretty hot, some not so much.
/r/seduction18/11/17 08:33 AM
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You're welcome :)
/r/seduction18/11/17 04:08 AM
2

So what gives? I feel like overall, I enjoy life and everything, but I'd love to figure out how to actually be attractive. Maybe it's because I'm a "nice guy," since I have trouble escalating? How do I actually gain the confidence to approach women, since I still want to be friends with them and don't want it to get awkward? I also tend to be pretty bad at reading signs (literally one of my friends liked me and ended up asking me out). How do I fix this? Here's your problem. You're an awesome gu…
/r/seduction17/11/17 02:46 PM
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Say 'hold on a second" or "wait" while putting your hand up or something. Then she'll look at you in curiosity and plant her a kiss.
/r/seduction17/11/17 10:52 AM
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No. I'm telling you what you need to hear. I think your post screams lack of confidence in yourself.
/r/seduction17/11/17 10:23 AM
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Do what you want. Stop asking what you should be.
/r/seduction16/11/17 12:31 PM
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Good luck. Forget the rules. Allow experience to be your teacher.
/r/seduction16/11/17 12:01 PM
1

So when you find "wimp guy" is taking over, perhaps you could remind yourself "It's worth it to take initiative anyway. Any possible pain will pass pretty easily. I'm a hot piece of ass" And then breathe slow, relax your body, and say "let's go." to the girl. You will need to become highly aware when wimp guy comes on and be ready to implement your plan to turn on cocky guy instead.
/r/seduction16/11/17 10:07 AM
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Ok let's call your beta-induced anxiety, "wimp guy." So it seems like wimp guy is afraid if he stood aside and let you be cocky and take initiative etc with these girls that you really like, you may deal with a rejection that is much more painful than other rejections with girls you don't know much. So it really sounds like he steps in to protect you from the pain of a deep rejection. In other words this beta-induced anxiety is attempting to serve a purpose for you. However now you are starting …
/r/seduction16/11/17 06:23 AM
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Ok great thanks. And so I'm guessing you want to be cocky with these girls that you really like instead? Would you like to ideally have the thought of "I'm a hot piece of ass", and smile a bit less, relax your body more, say "let's go", and start escalating on these kind of girls?
/r/seduction15/11/17 09:18 PM
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Ok well I could help you out. But would need more information. When I start being all beta and cute and shit, expecting her to say let's go out. I know my definition of beta but I want to hear it from you. How do you really behave in these moments? Do you avoid eye contact? Or walk away? Or smile a lot? Tell me your specific behaviours that you do. And also tell me how you feel in those moments. Do you breathe even faster? Or feel scared or tensed up? And what thoughts typically go through your …
/r/seduction15/11/17 07:19 AM
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It's when I see a girl I actually like that it kicks in, I switch from the confident borderline cocky guy to a little shy highschooler with the words it's a no going around my head. This only ever happens when I see a girl I actually like, compared to just a random girl. Then I start being all beta and cute and shit, expecting her to say let's go out. Great. What are you gonna do about it?
/r/seduction15/11/17 06:23 AM
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To most pua's yes.
/r/seduction15/11/17 06:21 AM
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Because you don't know what their intentions are. Imagine if you turn your head around to look behind and you see a man wearing a hockey mask looking at you and stopping. Now he might just be a guy who came from a hockey game and was following you because he wanted to compliment you, but was a little intimidated so he followed for a bit. But of course to you, you're worried he is a serial killer that is stalking you to kill you. If he instead came up immediately to the side of you and said hi an…
/r/seduction15/11/17 06:16 AM
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. As of now I small talk to be polite because most people are boring to me. So it sounds like inside you there is a strong aversion to small talk. Is that right?
/r/seduction14/11/17 10:42 AM
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Yeah perhaps coz you didn't make a move, and also who knows you may have come across as needy I don't know.
/r/seduction14/11/17 07:07 AM
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What are a few things that I can do to cement small talk into part of my daily life? Hmm I invite you to answer this question instead: What is the ONE thing you can do daily that would significantly increase your chances of becoming natural at small talk?
/r/seduction14/11/17 06:44 AM
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Do cold approaching, or build your social circle and ask girls out from there. Imo social circle is best for getting fast results (dates/sex/girlfriend) if you're a decent person and you are willing to take risks. Cold approaching is best for sharpening your skills and improving confidence, but you may not get results for a while as it has higher risk of rejections.
/r/seduction14/11/17 06:36 AM
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Well done man. Just keep up the honesty. It will work for you well, especially considering she likes you. Basically whatever is on your mind ... say it. If you're thinking, "Jeez I like her a lot but I don't know how to let her know this." Say that to her! "Jeeze I like you a lot but I'm thinking I don't know how to let you know this." It will probably come across as funny or endearing, and she'll understand you better and what your intentions are. Good luck.
/r/seduction14/11/17 06:34 AM
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Have an honest talk with her. She could be in an open relationship who knows. If she did cheat, it's up to your moral code and of course her interest if you both want to keep going with it or not. But this is something to communicate with her now, not this forum.
/r/seduction14/11/17 02:30 AM
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Fair enough. I hear your frustration and helplessness.
/r/seduction14/11/17 02:10 AM
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Hmm I also notice you criticise yourself pretty harshly about your experience with phrases like "it's retarded", "it's fucking stupid". I hope this critical voice also quietens down as I imagine it's not helpful either to your situation. Now we've covered the fear. And whether your inner critic wants to call it stupid or retarded, I don't think it is tbh. I think it's quite natural. It really comes down to a fear of being judged and the associated fear of not being able to handle the pain that w…
/r/seduction14/11/17 02:04 AM
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I found after I got with a really lovely girl, and realised how bad I was at sex with her .. I stopped watching porn and going to brothels. I realised I have to go slow and be more sensual with this girl, and porn is not helping me. It's just making me this shallow, selfish, judgemental lover. So that gave me a huge kick in the ass to abstain from it. But in your case it might not be easy to get that motivation. Perhaps go to a sex addiction group and install a porn blocker. You've got to find a…
/r/seduction14/11/17 01:22 AM
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I constantly see on Reddit about how Indian and East Asian girls sleep/date around with White guys and then settle down with guys of their own race. Use less reddit. You find yourself feeling insecure and thinking and thinking after using reddit. She told me she slept and dated white guys only and I am the first Indian guy she thought was attractive. Great. You're one of a kind to her. This puts you in a huge advantage. How do I get over this? Again, find ways to realise when your insecurity/wor…
/r/seduction14/11/17 01:09 AM
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Oh OK. the type of interactions I have seem quite similar over the long run. My guess is, you've gone into a rut of saying and doing similar things which may get your laid or dates but you don't enjoy doing the same thing over and over. One thing which makes me feel my interactions are always different is be really present and say exactly what's on my mind, (not some thing I've said in the past many times) actually what ever is on my mind, which if I'm really present is often different. This oft…
/r/seduction14/11/17 12:59 AM
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Will you ask him? These kinds of problems are basically impossible to guess over the internet. There's so many factors and interpretations. Just ask him, he doesn't even need to tell you the truth but at least you'll have more information (his body language, words) and be able to make a better guess.
/r/seduction14/11/17 12:57 AM
1

whose goal is to get you better, What are you looking to get better in?
/r/seduction14/11/17 12:51 AM
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Of course it is. Partly game, partly science, partly art and partly just go with the flow. Nah I disagree. Getting with women really isn't a game at all. It can be, sure, but it doesn't need to be. I play and tease and have fun with women, but I don't act out these "roles." Like, "Today I am gonna be a bad boy." Or, "Today I will have 10% jerk and 90% nice guy see how that works." Or, "I'm gonna be alpha." That's just a bunch of complicated and insecure bullshit. In my opinion, just be present w…
/r/seduction14/11/17 12:42 AM
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Any thoughts on this experiment? My thoughts are, "ugh another idiot that thinks getting with women is a skillset and has to change his behaviours because he thinks it's a game." I'd like to be less judgemental though I find difficulty doing so reading this. I think you'll be anything but nice if you act nice or play the nice guy game. My main goal is to get a new type of interaction to experience. Is your true desire experiencing excitement?
/r/seduction14/11/17 12:32 AM
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That sounds shit about watching a bunch of hot girls pass you by.
/r/seduction14/11/17 12:31 AM
2

So are you saying you don't think it's realistic people will judge you as a loser but you protect yourself anyway in the moment?
/r/seduction14/11/17 12:15 AM
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If you were to be judged as a loser, would you be able to handle the pain that comes up?
/r/seduction13/11/17 11:35 PM
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Yeah makes complete sense. So you hide your true thoughts and feelings to appear non-needy / happy, to prevent being judged as desperate or a loser, right?
/r/seduction13/11/17 11:23 PM
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Ah ok thanks, this helps me understand better. So you're saying you have a fear of being judged ... and this fear instinctually stops you from taking more initiative with a girl?
/r/seduction13/11/17 10:41 PM
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I imagine you're scared of rejection, and you act aloof so a girl can't get close to you and really reject you. It's safe being distant, and you use the excuse that it's part of game and that you're not meant to chase. Does this fit? Either way, forget the advice. Be interested, and take initiative, but also have heaps of options if you can so that naturally you don't care if girls say no to you. But don't act aloof, it won't help.
/r/seduction13/11/17 09:38 PM
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Give up bro, if a few rejections discourage you, you probably won't make it. You need a way tougher skin. If you don't bounce back, just give up, don't hang on the fence. Stay home and masturbate to porn and imagine all the guys getting with girls, and cry yourself to sleep. If you want girls then, breathe slow and deep, celeberate what you did do, learn to have fun with people in general and learn to enjoy just interacting with people to keep up momentum. Then get back on the horse and talk to …
/r/seduction01/11/17 11:02 AM
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Sounds like something you're doing in real life is off putting or "creepy." I think you'd need to show a video of yourself flirting, or hire a dating coach. This limited text you provided isn't enough to give you useful advice. I guess one experiment that could help if you have an active imagination: Really imagine you are a girl, and feel your high heels on the ground, and your skirt/dress fabric, and you have your boobs tucked in your bra, you feel sexy and confident. Now you you are out on a …
/r/seduction01/11/17 10:51 AM
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When you're out and you see a cute girl, if your find yourself avoiding talking to the girl, at least write down afterwards Your thoughts Your behaviours Your feelings ..that happened in the moment of avoidance. If you can keep a log of that, then you will be able to see vividly when your approach anxiety or avoidance is kicking in and challenge it. And you'll start to notice patterns when you have kept many log entries. E.g Maybe you have heaps of "I can't do it" thoughts. Maybe you walk quickl…
/r/seduction01/11/17 10:40 AM
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I think most of your post and even title is just a big version of, "I'm disappointed and sad." How can I get over my incomplete college experience? How do you get over being disappointed and sad? Allow yourself to feel into it. Forget the stories going over and over your mind e.g "Woe is me, others had it better, my college wasn't like what they said it would be, why couldn't it have gone to plan" etc etc. Pay attention to your actual body. I imagine that's what you're avoiding feeling. Feel any…
/r/seduction01/11/17 10:07 AM
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I disagree with the article. Just because Mark Manson says something, doesn't mean you have to do it or agree with it. He's a cool guy. Sometimes I think things he says isn't practical. All the girls I have got with were not fuck yes's. The girls I really wanted didn't always ENTHUSIASTICALLY want me back, they were just down with it. And the girls that enthusiastically wanted me, I didn't enthusiastically want them back, I just went with it. But I got experience and enjoyed myself, so who cares…
/r/seduction30/10/17 07:33 AM
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Then seddit is wrong.
/r/seduction29/10/17 10:46 AM
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Congrats. You have seduction on easy mode now. All you gotta do: Approach > escalate > close. Since girls approach you, focus on last two a lot.
/r/seduction29/10/17 02:00 AM
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That was a little inappropriate for her to say that to your face, but she found it necessary to be brutally honest, which seems kind of immature. Actually it is mature to tell the truth. At least OP knows the reason.
/r/seduction29/10/17 01:41 AM
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And why do you feel bad? I'm guessing you have critical thoughts which make you feel bad "I'm ugly, loser, not good enough, he's better, this always happens to me, there's no point", watch these thoughts clearly, don't let them sit in your unconcious. Be aware, when you catch the thoughts, realise they're just thoughts and let them go. Then approach more.
/r/seduction29/10/17 12:12 AM
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I think Way of the Superior Man is recommended a lot, when I read it, I found it to be very vague too.
/r/seduction11/10/17 07:38 AM
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For fucks sake capitalize your I's! Especially when you text broads. This is important, I had a girl once who said "I was gonna sleep with you but you missed a capital "I" in your msg which turned me off a lot. Take care." :P Ok that's great kid Good luck on your endeavours kid. This sounds patronizing/annoying to me. By the way you write things OrphanedVigilante, (exclamations, capitals, cursing) you sound like a kid yourself.
/r/seduction11/10/17 07:31 AM
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Yes of course. Anxiety also affects me, typically when I am out already and telling myself to talk to girls when I haven't done it for a while, though I have figured out ways of managing it sometimes, like feeling into my body, and acting fast. Anxiety is not the #1 issue for me though. My fear of rejection manifests as apathy when I am at home, like thoughts of "eh ... I don't feel like going out", "I can't be fucked approaching" these kinds of thoughts and bodily feelings keep me stuck at home…
/r/seduction07/10/17 12:25 AM
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Fear of pain from possible rejection and judgement.
/r/seduction06/10/17 05:42 PM
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Apathy
/r/seduction06/10/17 11:55 AM
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If you had a 17 year old daughter, and a 30 year old guy flirted and tried seducing her, how would you feel?
/r/seduction06/10/17 11:54 AM
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sigh
/r/seduction06/10/17 11:40 AM
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I don't know why and I don't think anyone here can guess why either. It could be several things. I don't want to go down that road of why/because. How about focusing on what you can do right now?
/r/seduction02/10/17 08:01 AM
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Yes I'd be interested in knowing this. So far my friends situation has been kind of based on luck and often I'm not the one that who takes initiative. I'd like to have more choice in my friends like I do with pickup.
/r/seduction02/10/17 07:58 AM
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Yeah she might resent you or feel like you rejected her. Some girls get sad and annoyed when the guy they like takes too long or just keeps flirting but not moving forward. There still might be a shot if you can have a real honest talk with her and let her get her anger out at you and reveal the vulnerable hurt she has. And she may stay cold and distant or may have lost interest too.
/r/seduction01/10/17 12:20 AM
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So I was at a bar with 2 guys i know. Literally they talk to these girls for 5-15 minutes. The bar was closing. They end up sleeping with them. It happens. I went home on 2 different occasions with girls within 10 min of meeting them. What do you say to get stuff like this to happen? Is this rare? Look up Liam Mcrae - Rapid escalation. He teaches this shit well. It's not rare in some guys realities.
/r/seduction01/10/17 12:13 AM
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I think OP is clearly struggling. And I think for him that program is a good choice to help. Sometimes people do need external support initially, and then transition to self-support later.
/r/seduction30/09/17 11:57 PM
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You have a dependency pattern. If you have the Dependent Pattern, you feel an intense need for love (or attention, sex, affection, validation, or caring) from your partner. It feels like you can't get enough. When you don't get what you need from your partner, how do you react? If you get very upset, sad, or depressed, this may indicate that you have a Dependent Pattern. However, if you simply feel some disappointment, then you may not have it. What you need to develop is self-support. Self-Supp…
/r/seduction30/09/17 11:39 PM
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Don't replace your name either, literally say "blueholeload."
/r/seduction29/09/17 12:42 PM
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Don't flirt then, you'll probably fuck up the whole thing since you lack experience. If she wants to fuck you, just invite her to your house and try to fuck her. Forget flirting.
/r/seduction29/09/17 12:40 PM
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Tinder nowadays just feels dead, matches now come in like drops on the faucet. With all these flakes i've been getting lately from cold approaches Perhaps if you're matches on tinder AND your approaches in real life aren't going well, then you are the problem ... I think you need to work on yourself and not blame Tinder.
/r/seduction28/09/17 10:04 AM
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Most guys get more wild as they drink - but I get more laid back and chill. So when I'm at a bar I have to fight to put up a facade of having energy and not being somewhat bored. Are you sure you have to fight to put up a facade? Could you be both chill AND interested in others?
/r/seduction17/09/17 03:46 PM
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Don't act. Be your true self, speak honestly about your intentions and feelings. If you're actually cool you will get dates, if you're not you won't and you can use it as feedback to upgrade your appearance and/or life. Don't act cool, otherwise you'll have to keep up the act for your whole relationship. And how can I invite a girl to my dorm afterwards? What should I say or do? Oh ... maybe I jumped ahead there. You just want casual sex or a one night stand? Easy ... just act cheeky and confide…
/r/seduction13/09/17 10:58 AM
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If the girl is within social circle, get her alone. If the girl is a cold approach, you should already be alone (for the most part) Then, be direct and honest (and sexy) I'm oversimplifying this, but basically you should be whispering in her ear smoothly what you want to do to her, not shouting it across the room. If she doesn't like you she will reject you, otherwise you'll hook up. If she doesn't like you, it won't ruin your reputation. The worst you'll get is "he's a sleaze" or "he's a creep"…
/r/seduction12/09/17 08:47 AM
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Girls carry a contradiction. On one hand a girl will assume guys are trying to pick her up when they talk to he . And on the other hand if a guy plays too nice, the girl rejects the idea that he is trying to pick her up and starts to form a belief that he is a "nice guy" and can be a good friend.
/r/seduction12/09/17 08:44 AM
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however, I was foolishly weary of her intentions. This was because of past experiences in which guys sent their attractive girlfriends to talk to me and boost my self esteem, or so they thought. I wouldn't say I'm an unhappy person despite my confidence issues, even at that time. So it was kind of like a "why are you talking to me?" scenario This means you are rejecting yourself. It's a serious issue if you want to get laid. Guys often have to learn to deal with rejection from girls, but rejecti…
/r/seduction12/09/17 07:58 AM
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Man you think way too much what girls think and then you pretend you don't and that you're being an adult. This is too much bullshit to respond too. I'll disagree, and leave it at that.
/r/seduction11/09/17 11:12 PM
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Then why would you do it? Why express anger at someone who doesn't deserve it? Are you reading what I am writing carefully? Or just asking rhetorical questions because you feel shocked by my view point? I've already said, and I repeat, "expression of emotions is important in being functional.", "Sometimes it feels better to express the anger and I think for some guys it might be healthier to do that. " Cause your feefees got hurt? No. Because your feelings got angry. Only thing you end up doing …
/r/seduction11/09/17 06:58 AM
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Who said it was her fault? Or that she deserves it? I'm talking about as a guy it's important to take care of his own self, and expression of emotions is important in being functional. Expressing anger is better than stewing in many cases. And expressing anger at a wall doesn't have the same affect as expressing it to the person who you are angry at.
/r/seduction11/09/17 06:49 AM
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I don't know. Not enough information to tell. I am suspecting you may be kissing and hooking up with girls quickly, and they enjoy it but afterwards feels like sluts so they move on ... perhaps the lesson here is go more slowly. Or girls think of you as a player because you give off that vibe and then they use you for sex/hookups and lose you. The lesson here would be get a stable job, go slow, take girls on dates and don't invite them to your house until maybe the third date, project boyfriend …
/r/seduction11/09/17 06:17 AM
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RSD Julien is shit. Every woman wants to shit him in a toilet bowl.
/r/seduction11/09/17 05:44 AM
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If you're getting rejected I think you may as well express any anger you do have verbally. Why not? She doesn't owe you to sleep or date with you AND you don't owe politeness or grace to her. Sometimes it feels better to express the anger and I think for some guys it might be healthier to do that. Don't handle it like an adult, handle it like a kid on purpose. Kids often get mad and get over things quickly, adults act polite and diplomatic then walk off stewing and overthinking interactions and …
/r/seduction11/09/17 05:43 AM
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she's just had a peach and doesn't want another right away Valid the peach isn't sufficiently well presented Valid she isn't looking for a peach and the peach hasn't put her in the right frame of mind Valid there are too many peaches on offer and this one hasn't stood out Valid the peach is too discounted, there must be something wrong with it Valid the friends she is with hate peaches Valid she thinks the peach will be there tomorrow, but the nectarine won't Valid the peach is next to the banan…
/r/seduction11/09/17 05:39 AM
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Habits engrain themselves so it decreases freewill as a probability. That hypnotization is often a result of being too concious of the self and the feedback loop that occurs when you think about thinking about thinking etc. Are you intellectualising? Or avoiding uncomfortable emotions by focusing on facts and logic? I know you can be aware but one tiny shimmering moment of awareness per day does not satisfy my high standards. What are you telling me with this sentence?
/r/seduction10/09/17 02:02 PM
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Yeah great point at the end, its like if I have no freewill at any given moment then just change what I want to happen into what happens anyways, then youre essentially a controlling god. Its like sneaking in the back door. Do you not have the freedom to choose to serve others? Do you not have the capability to be charming? I argue that so far you have hypnotised yourself with those language patterns e.g "I have to," "I can't." that when I offer more honest language you think it's some sneaky tr…
/r/seduction10/09/17 01:39 PM
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Feel like a phony trying to act cocky Stop "acting" cocky then. I dont think I'm physically attractive at all, I have an oddshaped face and head and I have facial skin blemishes plus I think I slur my words and am self concious about maybe having a mild speech impediment sometimes. This always leaves me feeling like I should When you say "feeling like" what you mean is "imagining." And you are the one doing the imagining. Translation ... I imagine I should shut up and not bother the people I ima…
/r/seduction10/09/17 01:22 PM
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Tips: Don't drink (can actually make your confidence worse in some situations, or become a crutch) Make a rule to yourself to approach the first average looking girl you see when you get out of your car or off the bus and into the city or environment. As soon as you see her, RUN towards her, and blab out anything as long as she hears you. If she hears you say whatever shit you said, and you got her attention, well done. Then keep talking if she stops for you. Once you do that, KEEP moving fast. …
/r/seduction09/09/17 07:25 AM
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but I can't seem to close like I want to. This is important. If you're not closing you won't ever get what you want. What do you want? You must know this when approaching a woman, what do you want from her? And your answer better not be, "To master pickup" or "To improve my skills" and definitely not "to have fun." - a lot of guys will say to have fun and be free from outcome, but if you keep this mindset up, you'll keep trying to have fun and never get laid when that's what you really want. Let…
/r/seduction05/09/17 05:23 AM
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What do you want with her? You're thinking way too much about what she is thinking. STOP doing that. Come back to what you want. Do you want to fuck her? Do you want to take her on a date? Forget how she will respond or how she views guys or whatevr blah blah. Know your goal. That's the first thing. Then focus on getting it. Don't listen to what she says so much or you will go crazy with trying to "stand out from other guys" and make yourself frustrated in the process.
/r/seduction03/09/17 07:33 AM
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No
/r/seduction02/09/17 02:34 PM
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Don't overcomplicate what I'm saying. All I'm saying is stop flirting. Don't tease/banter/make jokes/push-pull whatever you think flirting is, stop doing it at least if you want to kiss her. Also stop talking for a moment or two if you want to kiss her. You want silence to be there so you can look into her eyes and create a charged up moment. It's hard to kiss if you're bantering or making jokes or chatting. It's easy to kiss when you're both silent, standing extremely close, and looking at each…
/r/seduction02/09/17 11:22 AM
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Well I don't why. But I can say this ... you're good looking and you're not confident. I'm not good looking, and I'm confident. So perhaps looks have nothing to do with confidence? Maybe .... I talk to a lot of women. Beautiful women. I attempt to sleep with all of them. I am honest with them and don't hide behind any pickup routines or lines. I welcome rejection. My confidence grows and grows. Do you do the same?
/r/seduction02/09/17 09:53 AM
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Given our 'momentum' right now (flirty vibes) and depending on how tomorrow night goes, I am hoping and wondering if/when/how I can make a move. Reduce flirting. Increase tension. Kiss. There's no if. You can make a move. When? Whenever you want, preferably when you're in private. How? Stop teasing/flirting with her. Hold silence, eye contact, stand close, lean forward, grab back head or waist sides, and kiss.
/r/seduction02/09/17 09:38 AM
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That is pretty funny hahah, thanks for the laugh.
/r/seduction01/09/17 03:40 PM
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I constantly meet girls who are definitely not underage who will say "I look 12" or some other super underage number. How the fuck am I supppsed to respond to that? "No actually you look around 9" - then leave them.
/r/seduction01/09/17 03:16 PM
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I think you should send her, "my balls are itchy" Who cares what I think. Are you a man? Or a pussy who needs lines to speak to a woman?
/r/seduction01/09/17 03:02 PM
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Send me a pic of yourself. I doubt you are that hideous. My guess is you just want good excuse not to deal with the pain of rejection or anxiety because you like whining and being a victim of your circumstances. Notice you have great excuses but no counters to your excuses. You've said no to every single comment on this thread not just mine but others guys as well! Are you aware of that? Why not use your brain to counter your excuses? You're excellent at thinking of reasons not to approach. So u…
/r/seduction01/09/17 01:45 PM
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then jack off or be a homo.
/r/seduction01/09/17 12:00 PM
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My point was some things are just not within your control. And others are. Your actions and choices are always within your control. Her reactions and responses, are not within your control. E.g her attraction to you is NOT within your control. It might be in your influence, but ultimately it's her feelings of attraction and you can't control that. You can't control things being normal again because that means you require her to act normal and you can't control her, you may be able to influence t…
/r/seduction01/09/17 09:14 AM
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What is this nerd shit.
/r/seduction01/09/17 08:20 AM
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I'm wondering what avenues a guy who doesn't get much opportunities these days to hit the nightlife, and who women find facially unattractive could use? There's daygame (or afternoon/evening game). Basically approach when you are doing your errands during the daytime or travelling to and from work. You should see some beautoiful women if you catch public transport, or on the street as you walk to work. If you drive I would suggest not driving for this purpose to meet women to and from work. And …
/r/seduction01/09/17 07:29 AM
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Right now I am not going to be looking for sex but just practicing improving my seduction skills Wut. That's like saying, right now I am not going to be cooking but just practising my cooking skills. My plan is to approach at least 5 girls that I find attractive and just talk to them and see how it goes. Looking for sex is the main part of your seduction skills. If you're just approaching and chatting you may as well be a pen salesman.
/r/seduction01/09/17 07:11 AM
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I used to believe, I would break down in tears if I approached a woman and she would see how emotional and broken I am. I've approached many girls, and that doesn't happen. I used to believe, girls would be very harsh in their rejections or yell at me for being too direct. After being direct with many girls, I've realised MOST girls laugh or react positively even if they are not interested in me for being sexual or direct. Most rejections are very polite as long as I appear confident. A rare few…
/r/seduction01/09/17 07:06 AM
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If you were to carry this fantasy into the real world ... What parts of that fantasy are within your control? What parts are within your influence? And what parts are not in your control nor influence?
/r/seduction01/09/17 06:53 AM
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This time I think I was just scared of it happening again, overthinking, and it became self fulfilling. Haven't been masterbating to make it easier for next time, I'm fucked if it happens again. Can you give yourself permission to be soft? You can still enjoy the company of a naked girl that you like, and get a soft blowjob and finger her and eat her out, and massage, and shower together. There's lots of fun stuff to do without getting hard and fucking. I suggest taking the pressure off, by allo…
/r/seduction01/09/17 06:27 AM
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I'm feeling cringy and sorry reading this. I imagine a lot of things just weren't in your control and you just had bad luck with the whole losing erection thing, and then the girl going on a date with a guy from work. I'm imagining you are over worrying and getting highly invested in this girl too, and coming across as needy which will probably blow your chances more. My advice is date other girls if you're not already so you can reduce some of your neediness. I mean she is dating another guy. Y…
/r/seduction01/09/17 05:36 AM
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Ive been talking to this girl over text for about a week now fail.
/r/seduction31/08/17 04:15 PM
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What does "happy american" look like?
/r/seduction31/08/17 03:45 PM
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So you're not stoic, you just hold your feelings back, is that right?
/r/seduction31/08/17 03:26 PM
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Maybe she just didn't want to fuck and it had nothing to do with you or your skills.
/r/seduction31/08/17 03:00 PM
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Not sure if she was uncomfortable and kissing me just to get me to leave her alone What makes you think this? Did she look uncomfortable?
/r/seduction31/08/17 02:39 PM
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I act more calm, don't talk a lot and express less emotions. Yep this explains it. You're guarded. People can't connect with you. You may get laid doing this, but you won't have any connections. I find it hard to find a golden mean between these two. Can someone help me to figure this out? Be vulnerable, do express emotions AND also be sexual.
/r/seduction31/08/17 02:36 PM
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Ok. And what do you lose by by keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself?
/r/seduction31/08/17 02:32 PM
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Ok. Anything else?
/r/seduction31/08/17 01:04 PM
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If it's not going anywhere, fuck it.
/r/seduction31/08/17 07:06 AM
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Not impossible, but more difficult. You can work around it by fucking in motels, disabled toilets, her house, friend's house .... OR work your ass off to move out, and have an easier time.
/r/seduction31/08/17 07:04 AM
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You're welcome. I am so awesome. I'm such a swell guy giving advice to you. I'm magnificent. I'm stroking my own ego so I don't need you to do it for me. I'm wonderful. Hhahha
/r/seduction31/08/17 06:14 AM
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The common theme seems to be you keep thoughts to yourself and tensing your body up. It's almost like you don't want others to know what you're really thinking and feeling. How does it serve you to keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself? Do you prevent conflict? Or feel safe? What are the benefits of doing this?
/r/seduction31/08/17 06:07 AM
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Keep in mind this. "Don't think about what others are thinking about." If you remember that rule, and constantly remind yourself of this. Then other people's opinions or judgements won't matter so much. Having said that, you still don't want to develop such a bad rep that people and women avoid you. Guidelines: Don't spit lines or routines, be honest and direct. And I don't mean "spit direct lines" either. Honesty comes from what you are feeling and thinking in that moment. I can't give you an h…
/r/seduction31/08/17 02:12 AM
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Do little gestures first. Like a wave or a smile. If she responds warmly, sit next to her and talk. If she responds badly or ignores you, obviously don't. The fact that you're asking this question means you are not one of those uncalibrated guys who will be too aggressive on a train, so I'm not worried.
/r/seduction31/08/17 02:04 AM
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It probably is. Unless the girls have some horrible hand eye coordination/motor skills impairment. Assume it is a sign of her coming onto you. Say, "If you want to talk to me, you don't need to bump into me. I'm PeperoParty." (smile + offer hand)
/r/seduction31/08/17 01:47 AM
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Most of your post needs to be broken down to specifics so that you and I can learn how you can change. I could give you pointers, tips, advice, but if you are fully aware of yourself you will know the true answers yourself needed to change In terms of my personality I can be very stoic. I unintentionally look awkward and have even now in university a firmly planted stoic kind of vibe? Tell me about this "stoic vibe" or this "awkwardness" in more specific details. What does your awkwardness look …
/r/seduction31/08/17 01:43 AM
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Maybe not.
/r/seduction28/08/17 12:29 PM
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if you're in a relationship that you like do you flip the fuck out and start bitching about respect and leave like a butthurt little shit at the drop of a hat? Do you stay when people abuse you and say to yourself "I won't be butthurt I will persist and make this relationship work!" I mean you can persist and try and make abusive relationships work, but I'd rather leave. I don't flip out, I just leave and move on to another girl straight away. THere's so many girls that would respect me and my t…
/r/seduction28/08/17 12:21 PM
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What do you say to make her feel Do you see a problem here? You can't make her feel any other way. You can try, you can try to influence ... but you can't control her emotions, and neither can she. Just let her feel guilty, it will pass. What you can do is deal with your emotions. Do you perhaps feel unpleasant or helpless that she is feeling guilty? Does that unpleasant feeling drive you to changing her emotions even though you can't? Examine yourself before examining others.
/r/seduction28/08/17 05:40 AM
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The point: Put the girl first, Uhhh no. Never ever ever ever ever put the girl first. listen to what she has to say. Sure. But don't think what she is saying is true or right. A lot of it is bullshit. Most people in general speak bullshit. Get to know everything about her. Agreed. OR at least learn important stuff about her, like is she violent, does she live with parents/roomates/alone, is she trustworthy, honest etc. These things are important to know before going to bed or starting a relation…
/r/seduction27/08/17 10:35 AM
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That's a big one. Proximity. I noticed many times girls who orbit around me are real easy most times to hook up withh or grind with. One time a girl was a big ass was dancing near me and I wasn't moving towards her, but I noticed her gradually moving near me. She was with friends, and they kind of saw me standing their dancing looking at the girl, and then they got in between me and the girl and moved her away, as if I was trying to steal her lol. Later I saw the same girl alone on her phone, an…
/r/seduction27/08/17 09:42 AM
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Here's what you do. Block all sites and keywords using stayfocused google extension, that you think you will search about in regards to self help. This is not the solution and you may find ways to unblock or even disable your stayfocused extension, so this is only a supplement. What you really need to do while doing the above, is write down on a paper. The answer to - what do you want? And then write 3 things that you can DO every week that will help you get what you want. E.g What do I want? I …
/r/seduction27/08/17 03:34 AM
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Yes don't do much physical escalation unless your in the place where you will fuck. Your touch during the date should mainly be used for building tension ... sexual tension. So during the date ... sensual touches, holding her hand, standing/sitting close, holding eye contact while having silences etc. get to the point where you feel like you have to kiss or where she wants to kiss you .. but don't ... hold it off ... when you get in the house, kiss passionately, strip clothes off, and fuck, rele…
/r/seduction27/08/17 03:16 AM
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Ok here's what I mean. Lead the girl to the place of fucking (your house probably) but don't kiss her up til that point. When you get in your house you can kiss, makeout and escalate and fuck. But If you make out before, say in a park, and she wants to end the date or is tired, then when the girl gets to her home, she feels like a slut or that she will be a slut soon if she sees you again ... and she won't go on a second date with you. So if you makeout you must also fuck in the same time frame …
/r/seduction27/08/17 02:26 AM
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share more and welcome judgements. and go for the fuck not makeouts
/r/seduction27/08/17 02:20 AM
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give up that. talk to girls instead
/r/seduction27/08/17 02:00 AM
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I hear you. Are you offended by my reminder? Also, do you know OP personally?
/r/seduction27/08/17 01:58 AM
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No you don't need to. You can sit with the reality of uncertainty. That's what I do, and it works for me just fine.
/r/seduction26/08/17 02:41 PM
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Exactly. I don't trust my view of myself, why trust a girl's? My mind is great at bullshitting to satisfy my own ego, but a girl's mind is just an untrustworthy, she'll say a bunch of bullshit too. You guys spend too much time trying to improve yourself based on comments from others ....
/r/seduction26/08/17 02:28 PM
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I don't know what to say, do I just say 'by the way, what's your number' with a smile at the end of the transaction? Do I ask her to come along for food some day? Isn't that really weird? Say whatever is on your mind. Don't think about how she'll react or what she'll think. Focus on what you want and whatver is on your mind say that. Similar to above, I don't have long enough for a proper conversation so it's weird to try to pick up in the time it takes to buy 3 items Then don't have a conversat…
/r/seduction26/08/17 01:09 PM
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she clearly is disgusted by the idea of having sex while on her period. "Ieewl fuck no" she says. She then proceeds to neglect every move I make to escelate. How do you guys proceed to escelate after hearing the "I'm on my period" phrase? Do you just proceed to escelate untill she is horny enough to just fuck or quit? You quit. Because the woman's decision is important in sex. If she is visibly not interested and you disregard her decision you're committing sexual assault or rape.
/r/seduction26/08/17 01:03 PM
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Nah I disagree. Women don't tell me what I am, hell I don't know what I am. They can think whatever they want, but whatever they say is not a fact, it's just their thoughts. Womens thoughts and opinions change in the same day. Why listen to that? Let alone work on satisfying their critcisms. Fuck that. You seem like a pussy if you trust what women say so easily and actually work on yourself as a reaction to what women say.
/r/seduction26/08/17 12:46 PM
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You broke rule 1 from David X. "Don't think about what she is thinking about or what she says." Forget it. Maybe she is telling the truth, maybe not, maybe you are too nice, but who cares ... as long as you go after what you want you will succeed. Focus on that, not on changing your personality traits because some girl gave you a label. Don't think about what she is thinking about or about what she says.
/r/seduction26/08/17 09:59 AM
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So, is she interested? She is very attracted to you, in fact she is picking you up. What do you think of my strategy to meet girls and frat brothers? And if we hang out again, what should be my strategy to escalate? Relax. And just touch her where you want to touch her. And if she is uncomfortable back off, if she is comfortable or enjoys your touch keep it going.
/r/seduction26/08/17 09:23 AM
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Well that makes sense. Not many guys get laid a lot with one night stands. The best guys I know may only get a new girl to fuck once a week if they are approaching heaps. But if you are fucking every day that typically is from a girlfriend/relationship/fuckbuddy thing.
/r/seduction26/08/17 09:00 AM
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Do you have delayed/retarded ejaculation? It's a real problem.
/r/seduction26/08/17 08:57 AM
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You're a fucking pussy. They kicked you and you are begging for them to accept you again. Wow, how on earth do you get laid, by begging girls to sleep with you?
/r/seduction26/08/17 08:11 AM
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Get a full/part time job and rent a place. You will have an easier time getting laid. Or even fuck in motels if you work casually. If you have no money then you will need to rely on picking up older women who have a a place, or if the girl is your age you'll need to fuck in parties, friend's houses, public bathrooms, bushes, alleys, anywhere that is secluded .. get creative.
/r/seduction26/08/17 08:08 AM
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You just switched from one generalization to another. I am talking about an individual, not weightlifters.
/r/seduction26/08/17 03:26 AM
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Should I be suspicious about this? Or have I just found a girl who wants to fuck. You already are suspicious about it since you're posting this. If what you're really asking is, "Will she murder me? Rob me? Is she actually a man or tranny? Is she messing with me and won't actually show up? Is she super fat and ugly?" I have no answers. You'll have your worries, and some of them could be valid others may be catastrophic but still potentially could happen. You have to choose to take a calculated r…
/r/seduction25/08/17 05:14 AM
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Pick up heavy things and put them down over and over again. Above average in fitness tells me you're unfit I think you're a little dumb based on these two comments you made. I imagine you as some dumb, caveman/bro telling a guy how to get laid when secretly you struggle yourself and lack any real friends that like you.
/r/seduction25/08/17 05:08 AM
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I think you're somewhat right about this. If a guy gives a girl what she craves and lacks, she will most likely want him. Most girls lack confidence and self esteem, and that's why confident guys are very attractive to a lot of women. Some women lack fun and go after guys who have fun lifestyles and travel a lot. Some women are lonely and seek guys who socialise a lot and are good at keeping up a conversation. But here's where I disagree. Some women get too intimidated or lack self worth if the …
/r/seduction25/08/17 04:59 AM
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Well either do something with the girl or don't. Potential sex/relationships/love/fun and some awkward feelings VS masturbating alone while feeling comfortable. Your choice.
/r/seduction25/08/17 04:46 AM
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Good to clarify that then. You didn't write it earlier, and he may have took it the wrong way and end up with a sexual assault or rape charge.
/r/seduction25/08/17 04:43 AM
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Don't respond. If Brad Pitt asked her on a date, she would damn be sure to make that date, and if she couldn't because her mother died or something then she'd at least send a quick explanation. She obviously doesn't respect you. Don't make a fuss of it. Delete her number and find a new girl.
/r/seduction25/08/17 02:57 AM
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Yes. I've seen improvement in social anxiety as a result of approaching women and talking to people at bars while sober. Your results may differ.
/r/seduction25/08/17 02:55 AM
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You sound like a guy who doesn't get laid much and someone who does not know how to self-validate himself. So when a drunk girl gives you a compliment and wants to hold hands you get infatuated with her because she gives you what you are lacking, not because she's awesome. You admit you have no formal background with her. I think what you did was right by not sexually advancing on her while she was drunk, and in this case you did the right thing. Never take advantage of a drunk girl. Being calle…
/r/seduction25/08/17 02:47 AM
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If she's drunk and you're sober, don't make a move.
/r/seduction25/08/17 02:41 AM
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"Yes. Bye."
/r/seduction24/08/17 10:48 PM
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if he chose to do it i would recommend that he gets a girlfriend better. Ok. So get a girlfriend.
/r/seduction24/08/17 10:46 PM
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I'm pretty good at holding down a conversation Do that.
/r/seduction24/08/17 02:00 PM
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Say to girls in an insecure way, "you shouldn't get with Will, he gets with a lot of girls and moves on fast. He's not a nice guy" - this will make girls very curious and/or attracted to him ... however tell Will you're doing this in advance. Girls will test him to see if he is as bad as you say he is, and he can't apologise or look wimpy, his response should be, "yeah I sleep around a lot, I enjoy it"
/r/seduction24/08/17 01:54 PM
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Never disrespect him alone and especially in public (disrespect = insults/jokes at his expense/stealing his girl) Always be talking to people and having fun (your fun will motivate him) If he is talking to a girl who has friends, join the convo and entertain the friends. If he is not talking to girls, do your best to push him into talking to girls.
/r/seduction24/08/17 01:49 PM
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will it work or will it be weird to be direct at the night time? It will work 97.6% of the time. And will be weird 3.4% of the time. What did you expect? A serious answer? You've got to try it to know if it will work or not for you. This question could be translated to: I'm about to do direct game and I'm pissing my pants and want some reassurance.
/r/seduction24/08/17 08:37 AM
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Would you say absolutely nothing to him about it? Would you pretend it didn't happen? How do you feel if he goes into the brothel at that age without telling you?
/r/seduction24/08/17 08:34 AM
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i feel like i am using women for their bodies Well when you have sex with a woman you are using them for their body and for pleasure and for orgasm relief and for fun. at the same time i really want to have sex. Sex is a worthy goal. I think it feels good and it's something every guy should get to experience. is it ok to lose your virginity in brothel? If you had an 18 year old son. You raised him, and taught him many great lessons and encouraged him to date, and supported his decisions and you …
/r/seduction24/08/17 08:23 AM
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Is there anything that can help me cope with the change? Gestalt Therapy Daily Meditation for 30 min to 1 hour Exercise Is there anything that I may have missed to help me feel confident and possibly more attractive? Well yeah you've probably missed a lot of things. I don't know what they are though. Your post seems to be focusing on how uncertain about women you are. Do you think I have a chance? Do you? Is there any good advice you could give me? Two rules to remind yourself regularly: (Credit…
/r/seduction24/08/17 08:14 AM
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Honesty works so much better than game imo. But honesty needs to done in a certain way for it to work. If I say "I want uh .... to .... umm .... go home with you .. heh ... heh" in a feeble, shaky voice, standing two metres from her and avoiding her eye contact, it won't work. If I say "I want to go home with you" in a smooth, seductive voice while standing against her whispering in her ear, there's a good chance that will work if the girl wants that too, at the very least she'll respect me for …
/r/seduction24/08/17 07:47 AM
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You don't have to ditch clubbing. If you're just getting makeouts and not sex, it means your game sucks. Hate to be the one to tell you. You're either a shit closer or you don't know how to hold tension. Try going a month without kissing any girls and instead pulling girls to your place instead of kissing. I've made out with a lot of girls, it feels good and seems like progress but it's worth nothing and you seem to know that too. So stop doing it. Hold the tension, hold her eyes and instead pul…
/r/seduction24/08/17 07:30 AM
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Remember in porn shoots the women aren't really excited, they are just acting. The guys have to be excited because of the erection thing. I was just speaking from my experiences. You've been in porn shoots?
/r/seduction24/08/17 07:24 AM
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Well you are gay or asexual. I mean how would anyone know you are into girls unless you actually tried to fuck girls? Gay guys talk, laugh, tease, banter, even playfully touch their female friends. Guys who fuck girls, escalate regularly.
/r/seduction23/08/17 11:33 PM
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Don't sleep over. Don't date or hang out in public. Don't txt more. Don't think about what she's thinking. Keep things shallow, like you would if you regularly fucked a whore in a brothel. Do be honest about your inentions. If emotions come into it your fuck buddy thing is done.
/r/seduction23/08/17 02:25 PM
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I need a similar mindset for escalation please If you don't escalate then you're just a woman's gay friend.
/r/seduction23/08/17 02:20 PM
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ok
/r/seduction23/08/17 02:16 PM
1

Stop being a clown.
/r/seduction22/08/17 05:20 PM
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Kiss your hand for practice. Try be slow, soft, and yeah end it before she does if you can. I've been told I'm a good kisser before just by doing that.
/r/seduction22/08/17 03:13 PM
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Any guys have actually picked up at a bar? Yeah I have. I've heard some guys do nothing but keep company and talk, while others do kissing and touching. Seems some girls get turned off by guys moving too fast, thus some do nothing. How do you figure middle ground if she just does somethings like only kissing. I don't understand your question. For me I was mostly physical, and hardly talked. (only to compliment them, ask about logistics, or to tell them "let's get out of here") I didn't do "middl…
/r/seduction22/08/17 03:04 PM
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Synthetic game is learned game. Agreed. And then when it's perfected and automated does it become supernatural and surpass all others Disagreed.
/r/seduction22/08/17 02:50 PM
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I'm 19, so I can't meet women at bars or clubs, meaning, the girls I can meet would be the ones looking for a serious relationship, and they wouldn't want to be serious with a black dude, for the most part. Wtf are you talking about? A lot of girls at your age are just looking to hook up. They're young, they want to have fun. Sure there'll be ones that are looking for relationships, but a lot of women want to settle when they're 30 not when they're 19. Most relationships don't last long at your …
/r/seduction22/08/17 12:34 PM
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im nervous as heck to the point i feel like im scared to be an adult. Welcome your nerves and anxiety. Let yourself feel into it. Weekend or weekday? Daytime or night-time? Doesn't matter. Whichever is preferable for you. Would coffee and icecream followed by geocaching be good? Sounds fun to me. (And cheap!) Go for it. Tips on what to talk about etc, Talk about whatever you want to talk about. That way you'll have more fun, and she will be more attracted to you if you're having fun. Don't get s…
/r/seduction22/08/17 12:30 PM
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Where do you live? It could be about demographics. In your location it could be true that white guys do better .. I don't know where you live. Black guys do really well with women in some areas and, white guys can end up being jealous of black guys. If you're in Thailand for example White guys will beat you. Check this thread out: https://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-1964.html How many girls did you approach and attempt to close last week? It could also be a limiting belief you've created by not t…
/r/seduction22/08/17 12:19 PM
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How do I get game to talk to women ? Go here: https://www.hasbro.com/en-au/product/monopoly-game-ultimate-banking-edition:292A13F3-5056-9047-F5EC-64DBA290A02B Then purchase game, and open your mouth so words come out in relation to the game you bought when you're in front of a woman.
/r/seduction22/08/17 12:13 PM
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Well if you go to an all boys school, are you going to ask out boys? Or were you looking for girls? If you want a guy, just ask out a couple of guys who you like in person on different days till you get a yes. If you want a girl then do you know any girls from outside your school? Or do you have friends of friends who are girls? Ask them.
/r/seduction22/08/17 12:11 PM
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Send her one personal message, if she doesn't reply to that, then don't pursue.
/r/seduction22/08/17 11:40 AM
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Yeah I compliment girls, as soon as I have a compliment come up in my mind I will say it. Why would I wait? Of course I say it right away.
/r/seduction22/08/17 11:39 AM
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Now this made me smile! It's a lot more awesome when it's not just a completely random girl but someone who you knew, and your development made a big difference in getting together with her. Awesome.
/r/seduction22/08/17 10:59 AM
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Dream girl I Want to Play This Right I'm being very meticulous as I really want to play this right, this is the dream girl Oneitis fail. You're overthinking and trying to do the perfect approach with this girl. She may not like you at all, be a lesbian or have a bf. Point is stop dreaming. Ask her out, see if she says yes, if no, move on.
/r/seduction20/08/17 11:25 AM
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Do I need to hire a dating coach or something? Yeah ... and therapy.
/r/seduction20/08/17 11:22 AM
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My thoughts are you're an idiot. You wouldn't know what to do with a girl's ass if it rubbed on your dick ... literally! Next time trust your intuition not your pickup gurus.
/r/seduction20/08/17 11:11 AM
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Now I can't get rid off this confusion about what exactly I want in my life.How to handle it? Sit down for an hour and dream about what you'd like. Then after the hour, summarise and write down in one sentence what you want.
/r/seduction19/08/17 04:08 AM
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It's not much what you say. Focus on relaxing. Learn relaxation methods (meditating, deep breathing, autogenic, mindfulness etc) Be happy with your softness and be happy with being with the girl. "Look I'm soft! Sucking my soft dick may look and feel good" should be your thoughts. You still get to sensually touch a warm, naked girl anyway! This can be a great opportunity to learn how to let go of outcome. If you project disappointment on her face and worry about that, you got work to do.
/r/seduction19/08/17 02:06 AM
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I am curious ... you lack confrontation skills. How does this affect your life or you at the moment? Here is my suggestions for being confident, independent, and in control: Join the committee as Sergeant at Arms if it's available for new Toastmasters year, and delegate some tasks to people each meeting, and speak loudly to get everyone to settle down. Do cheap Gestalt Therapy for a year (or more) Read Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton and "forgive" (not the usual meaning of forgiveness, you will …
/r/seduction19/08/17 01:29 AM
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The Natural Lifestyles is good: James Marshall or Liam Mcrae. Or if you're into honesty, saving time and frustration: David X or Alan Roger Currie.
/r/seduction19/08/17 01:17 AM
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Downside of MM, you'll soon need a friend routine, a grandparents routine, family dinner routine etc. Learn natural game, once you get principles down, you can talk and seduce in any situation or make friends etc.
/r/seduction18/08/17 04:02 PM
1

"Wanna grab a bite this ___?"
/r/seduction18/08/17 03:16 PM
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Agreed
/r/seduction18/08/17 02:03 PM
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"live your life for nobody else" i believe this is a selfish way. And? Be selfish! Why are you scared of that word?
/r/seduction18/08/17 01:56 PM
1

strange ...
/r/seduction18/08/17 01:52 PM
1

I notice you removed the post here. Why?
/r/seduction18/08/17 12:37 PM
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This got deleted, I did not even attack anyone wft. What do you think ? was not even offensive ? You are attacking at RSD most of the post whilst acting like you are not: RSD might be bullshitting us. But I realized that is bussiness, they need to convince us this way so they become our heroes and we buy their products. Thats what the free videos are for. Because nobody will admit he is acutally low vibrational and he will continue watching the video.. people mentioned this is their whole manipu…
/r/seduction18/08/17 12:13 PM
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Idk bro, sorry.
/r/seduction18/08/17 06:59 AM
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Good man, I agree with you there. You should check out David X or Alan Roger Currie if you haven't already. They have similar values to you and I about time, and what "I" want etc.
/r/seduction18/08/17 03:52 AM
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You want to flirt with other girls. She doesn't want you to flirt with other girls. Tell her you want to flirt with other girls, if she doesn't accept this, then dump her. As David X says, YOU are the most important person in the relationship. Why does she get to decide the rules? Why don't you get a say in the matter? Where is your self respect? Don't tell me you care about how she feels, why the fuck isn't she caring how you feel? Respect goes both ways.
/r/seduction18/08/17 03:49 AM
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i actually did try to get her back to my place, didn't want to, Exactly. You want sex. She doesn't, or at least not with you or not yet. You can sit there trying to plow with her which is what every frustrated pua does, or you could move on to girls who will give sex to you in a blink of an eye and make you a happy man. It's your choice.
/r/seduction18/08/17 03:45 AM
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was i too harsh? You were initially too soft, and you opened yourself up for manipulation. You were not expressing exactly what you want and you seemed to be getting frustrated when the girl tried to change the plans. If your plans were concrete then it would have been a lot harder for her to do that. If you just want sex, why were you going on a trip with this girl? Just bring her to your place or go to hers and have sex. Anyway you did the RIGHT thing by cancelling the trip. However, I think y…
/r/seduction18/08/17 03:29 AM
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What's a crucial part of your game? Touch/Physical Escalation etc. What part of your game grabs attention? Quickness in approaching, seems to grab attention of other pickup guys who hesitate with approaching. Other than that not much and I like it that way. I much prefer to be flying under the radar and not being all flashy and being seen by everyone.
/r/seduction18/08/17 03:21 AM
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You're welcome.
/r/seduction16/08/17 11:01 AM
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Fuck game. What you're doing is perfect. Guys who do pickup make things over complicated. But really it comes down to: Go up to a girl > interact with her > get her alone > fuck her If you can get girls to stage 3 many times, you are close to getting laid a lot too.
/r/seduction16/08/17 10:04 AM
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First take yourself seriously. Decide what you want NOW. And then go after it. Stop making them laugh, I doubt your goal is to be a clown for women, so cut that shit out. Go for what you want. If girls don't give it to you, move on.
/r/seduction16/08/17 10:02 AM
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Wtf dude. Why didn't you just invite her to your house? She wanted to fuck. What's with the dinner shit?
/r/seduction16/08/17 10:00 AM
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There is an experiment called the empty chair that can help with this, it's from gestalt therapy. You'll need the ability to imagine, and probably a place where you can speak out loud and not worry about people thinking you are crazy. Sit on a chair, and grab another chair and place it in front of you. Imagine "yourself" sitting in the empty chair facing you, try and vididly imagine how you look in that empty chair, what clothes you're wearing, what face you have etc. and this version of you is …
/r/seduction16/08/17 09:53 AM
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It's that I haven't truly been with a girl I really wanted or want so I feel like I'm not good enough for them. So I don't know where to start So get with them. Start talking to them, then asking them on dates or to your house, and going for it. Do whatever you do with average girls, with the girls you want.
/r/seduction16/08/17 07:16 AM
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What can I tell you? Get therapy perhaps? Or realise you're being a perfectionist and stop? You probably know you're being irrational and keep doing it anyway, so I don't know how to help you. But if you're in great shape, have friends and earn 100k you are in the top league. And girls aren't even that shallow. A lot of hot girls will fuck guys that aren't super hot but that are just decent. You probably know this. You are good enough as you are now. Start talking to the girls you want and go af…
/r/seduction16/08/17 06:55 AM
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If you've fucked a lot of girls, tell the truth. If you've fucked not many, then dodge the question by asking them a question or ignoring it or something, but don't lie either.
/r/seduction16/08/17 06:02 AM
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You can do whatever the fuck you and the girl wants really. There's not many procedural steps for how to fuck coz that would turn something spontaneous into a robotic task. That's what makes sex interesting, it's always different. But since you seem inexperienced and wanting to know what to do. I will give you an outline that may help you perform a shitty - average sex session. Sit very close to her if you're watching a movie or doing anything. So close that you should be touching already withou…
/r/seduction16/08/17 05:44 AM
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I just have trouble accepting that the girls I match with are those types. Make a rule for yourself then. If after 3 texts she has not agreed to a date, delete her. And NEVER break the rule.
/r/seduction16/08/17 05:33 AM
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On dancefloors, I dance somewhere in the middle of the people and notice which girls dance near me. (these girls tend to be attracted to me, generally speaking) I stay aware, if they are with friends I tread carefully, as friends can easily cockblock on dancefloor. But I remember what the girl looks like and if I see her alone later or at the bar I approach her. I may dance with her too if I feel confident or in the moment to do that. At the bar, I get a drink of water or whisky, and turn my hea…
/r/seduction16/08/17 02:09 AM
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Ok I read the tdlr and skimmed the main post. I don't see any questions from you, so I assume you just wanted to express yourself. What did you hope to gain by writing here? Are you looking for reassurance that people will accept you or something else?
/r/seduction16/08/17 02:03 AM
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Careful with sarcasm. Some guys who enter pickup are autistic or just very gullible and may take you seriously lol.
/r/seduction16/08/17 01:59 AM
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Here's what I think. You don't match with girls regurarly, so when one does match with you, you get excited and text heaps. And I think you're an idiot and don't realise many girls enjoy wasting time bantering on tinder with no intention of follow through. They feel good just by talking and sending pics and a lot of them don't want sex from you. Some do. I think you should have asked for the date in the first 3 messages and not bothered for snapchat. If she said no or tested you or didn't give y…
/r/seduction16/08/17 01:40 AM
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Firstly, there's two polarities here. Are you aware of the inner struggle you have? Are you aware you have two parts of your existence fighting? On on side, you have your topdog demanding you to do these things: Topdog: You should get people talking about their interests You should care about what she's saying You should force yourself to listen and at least pretend to care You should try hard to show interest And then you have your underdog avoiding and frustrating your topdog with false promis…
/r/seduction16/08/17 01:32 AM
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Sounds like you're really overwhelmed thinking about your problem. My advice, is forget the past and future. All you can live in is now. If you live in the future and worry about the kiss or about a bad reaction, then you will constantly be anxious, and that won't help you. If you live in the past and constantly remind yourself of that girl giving you a no or your 'trauma', you will constantly feel anxious or shitty. Feel your feet touching the ground. Feel the clothes against your skin. Listen …
/r/seduction16/08/17 01:21 AM
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Ah
/r/seduction15/08/17 02:14 PM
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Always respect her boundaries. Say, "I want more than this. I want to touch you all over" if she still says no. Then leave right in the middle of it. If she is at yours, escort her out of your house and say bye. Why? Why not persist slowly or practice patience? Because you don't wanna waste time with a girl that plays games and makes you jump through hoops. You need to be strong enough to walk away, and find another girl who will give you what you want without the silly rules. Often when girls s…
/r/seduction15/08/17 12:13 PM
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I dont want to want this. I am currently struggeling with my feelings indeed. I just want a solution. I want to get to know girls, but the situation isnt making it any easier for me. So you're stuck ...
/r/seduction15/08/17 11:19 AM
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I read it all. Sounds like you are struggling with your pain and feelings. What do you wanna do?
/r/seduction15/08/17 10:48 AM
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I think you're lying or haven't used Tinder in a while. Now days it maxes out on how many swipes you can do per day. Which means you can only swipe right so many times.
/r/seduction15/08/17 10:42 AM
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I can't think of any book that will help with your approach anxiety directly. Real life will help you with that, not any books. I have two recommendations though that may help you indirectly. "Be Relentless" by David X. - Amazing book wrote by a ballsy motherfucker, who doesn't take shit from women or men or anyone. Any romance novel - It will show you the perspective of a woman and how she WANTS to be seduced by the strange man ... this may inspire you to be that kind of man and reduce your anx…
/r/seduction15/08/17 09:13 AM
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I was thinking he was talking about kissing random girls in a club. Probably coz that's what I do. My stats are much worse than 70% coz they're random girls. But he was talking about dates so that makes sense.
/r/seduction15/08/17 01:20 AM
1

Oh...well that's different.
/r/seduction15/08/17 01:19 AM
1

Usually, 20% are into you and they kiss back, 50% are unsure and they kiss back or they are too shy but still appreciate you making a move, 20% aren't into you and will reject the kiss. So close to 7 out of 10 girls kiss you back? You must be Brad Pitt.
/r/seduction14/08/17 02:05 PM
2

I'd take it as serious, both are cool as. But only if you like that shit.
/r/seduction14/08/17 01:56 PM
2

Bad boys take risks. That's the principle behind alcohol, smoking etc that is attractive. You don't have to risk your body. Going in for a kiss is a risk. Saying a sexual comment is a risk. Asserting yourself is a risk.
/r/seduction14/08/17 01:29 PM
1

Seducing Books Never tried seducing a book before, but it should be possible. Jokes aside, I would read Mode One by Alan Roger Currie, and Be Relentless by David X.
/r/seduction13/08/17 06:31 AM
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Talking is a skill, walking is a skill, seduction is a skill. Some guys develop seduction skills effortlessly as they grow up and talk to girls, and they think guys in pickup are weird. While other guys have their seduction skills hindered or hidden (whether by upbringing, society's brainwashing, parents beliefs, traumatic experiences etc) and then have to learn it manually through pickup materials and application.
/r/seduction12/08/17 07:59 AM
1

You fail if you react. Pausing, saying nothing but not reacting emotionally is still a pass in my opinion.
/r/seduction12/08/17 02:43 AM
2

I think this struck a nerve with me but some part of what I said was a little serious about defending myself. You need to learn to pause ............................................... you can respond ....................................... reacting is when you're in fight/flight mode or you get "defensive" or emotional . Just pause .............................. breathe ............................ and choose your response. Who cares what she thinks.
/r/seduction11/08/17 05:01 PM
1

I've tried meditation but it's very hard to focus Well of course! No one starts off with good focus. That's the point. Meditation will improve that if you keep doing it. It's like saying "I tried the gym but I'm too weak"
/r/seduction11/08/17 04:49 PM
1

No I'm not overthinking it. You're overthinking my observations. That took me no effort to see guys from my 'lair' crashing and burning using those lines and running around like idiots thinking they are naturals.
/r/seduction11/08/17 03:00 AM
1

Busy , bored, both, neither, who cares what the reason, it's something that should be addressed since he said "nose in her phone"
/r/seduction11/08/17 01:49 AM
1

Meditate and therapy
/r/seduction10/08/17 02:53 PM
10

"hey ... You must be checking out my pics on instagram to be that glued to the screen" *smile *shake hands, "Hi I'm rocky_o" Then say "I'm just messing with you, you were too cute not to talk to so I had to introduce myself" or whatever you feel in the moment.,
/r/seduction10/08/17 01:47 PM
3

Excuse me, I just noticed you and wanted to say hello... That's very overused ... tonnes of pua's are doing the same canned direct lines. If you say that shit spontaenously, it's fine, just know a lot of guys are doing it now. I'm not saying it doesn't still work though ... I've seen girls talk to my friend who opened with some corny Mystery line fron 2008. I imagine saying this in OP's situation would annoy a girl who is on her phone in a lot of cases though, but she would probably hide the ann…
/r/seduction10/08/17 01:46 PM
4

No. Because for some guys, this may do the opposite affect. They may get so used to comfortableness and relaxation when they hear asmr voices from a girl, that when they listen to a girl in real life who may speak more harshly, it may shock their system a bit or they may feel the girl is unpleasant to listen to and be more attached to the asmr videos than real life girls. Asmr videos in moderation are fine, but not for mindsets with women. Wanna have good mindsets with women? GEt therapy, medita…
/r/seduction10/08/17 01:41 PM
4

you're not nervous, your body is amping itself up and getting excited .. why on earth would you logically be nervous for a girl? They don't have sharp teeth or claws. You like her, so your body gets excited because on some level you want to fuck her or marry her. And then you come up with negative thoughts/worries and breathe irregularly and/or tense parts of your body, and so the experience of excitement is blocked and starts to feels unpleasant and you call it being nervous or anxious. Advice?…
/r/seduction10/08/17 01:35 PM
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Advice? What do you want? Start with the end in mind. Do you want to fuck a girl at her house? At yours? In a toilet? Do you want a date with a girl another day? Do you want to collect numbers to boost your ego and feel like a player? Set a clear intention. If you are wishy washy, or say "I want to be a master pua" or "I want to do well with women" that's NOT a clear intention. And you will end up frustrated. So this is actually a critical step to do before going out. Figure out clearly what you…
/r/seduction09/08/17 11:45 AM
5

What advice do you have on getting your friend to be okay with you dating his daughter? The daughter is above 18 years old. How would you get him to be okay with you dating her? What you're really saying is: I desire to date his daughter and I want his permission. I am too scared to express this honestly so I choose to manipulate him in some way in order to feel in control and get my desire met. I also don't know the best way to manipulate him, can you tell me how? I would just honestly express …
/r/seduction09/08/17 08:54 AM
1

Now before the barrage of 'don't shit where you eat' comments come I should also note that I work at an office, so this is a career job for me. Too bad. Here it is again. Don't shit where you eat. Seriously, unless you work in a place with NO work policies (and even then it can be risky), women can fuck you and then blackmail you afterwards, you can lose your job, create a shitstorm of stress and drama, get sexual harrassment charges, and even have trouble finding another job in the industry. Do…
/r/seduction09/08/17 08:35 AM
2

"love myself". What the fuck does that mean and how do I get there? My interpretation of it, is to eradicate all shame of oneself. One important thing I think is the problem with pickup, is that learning techniques to seduce women creates a certain mask. And this mask prevents women seeing who you really are. Which means you create a certain amount of shame about your true desires and true self. So the key is, stop hiding behind the pickup mask. Stop using any seduction techniques, routines, lin…
/r/seduction09/08/17 08:16 AM
5

Why do you guys think girls self-rationalize their actions? Most Humans (males/females/trannies/whatever) self-rationalise their actions. You probably do it too. You just see it in her more than yourself, because we habitually spots problems in others before looking at ourselves. (project) As to why humans do this? I don't know. I imagine it protects us from feeling the discomfort and pain of the truth.
/r/seduction09/08/17 08:02 AM
3

Did they suggest you overtly tell women you want a blowjob in a public restroom? Yes and no ... they suggested overtly telling women what I want. And that's what I want. They both advocate knowing what you want and going after it. You might want a relationship, a date, a kiss, a one night stand, a fuckbuddy. If you want that, then express that. If you want a blowjob in a restroom like me, then express that. When I go out I want a blowjob in a public restroom since it's convenient and I can still…
/r/seduction09/08/17 07:54 AM
2

mistake 1: don't txt chat
/r/seduction08/08/17 03:15 PM
2

What? I didn't make it a big deal. Since then I am in a huge doubt in my head. Should I still invite her to go out with me? Should I just ignore her and see if she will have the interest of inviting me to go out? Should I simply give up and move on? Don't bullshit man. You made a big deal out of it. You didn't show it to her yes, but you showed your overthinking and neediness here. Just continue as normal. As long as she's not exclusive or married, the other guy is no competition.
/r/seduction08/08/17 03:12 PM
2

No big deal. You should be so busy with the hundreds of other woman you're approaching and dating to see an issue in this. Just invite her out another time. The fact you made such a big deal in your mind and got frustrated and posted on reddit shows how needy for her you are. You probably won't sleep with her if your neediness gets worse. Meet more women.
/r/seduction08/08/17 03:05 PM
1

the most fun friend he is the first one to leave before the cleaning start. He is fun and self-centred, these things are attractive to girls. Rather than player hate, see what you can learn from him.
/r/seduction08/08/17 12:59 PM
1

Bragging - excessively proud and boastful talk about one's achievements or possessions. I imagine braggy and bragging has a negative connotation, and I think it's actually a very positive thing to do. Keep bragging OP!
/r/seduction08/08/17 08:04 AM
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Your inner game needs serious work. I would be super content to just meet a girl, become intimate and then date and that's it, I don't need or want a different girl every night. Most guys are like this. But in order to date a girl that you like as say a girlfriend, you need to develop the ability to pickup many so you are confident for one girl who you like. I've always been really respectful when it comes to girls or people in general Red flags are going up for me. Typically bitter nice guys sa…
/r/seduction07/08/17 02:07 PM
1

Find a wingman online. Search "(your area) lair" on google. What things do the guys in your social circle specifically do or say that you consider being a huge dick? Give me some examples
/r/seduction07/08/17 01:40 PM
1

Got a wingman? Also what advice would you give to a guy with approach anxiety? What advice would you give a guy who runs into awkward silences?
/r/seduction07/08/17 12:13 PM
5

It will take ages to get there. How long is it really? Are you wasting ages on masturbating? On porn? On sitting around thinking about appraoching? On reddit? And it's worth the travel time anyway. You could meet several beautiful women who you connect with you or who you could have passionate sex with or develop a relationship with. Imagine meeting a girl who you really like and who likes you and kissing her during your approach! Imagine the smell of her perfume, and her clothes touching agains…
/r/seduction07/08/17 09:53 AM
3

Write up your excuses here. And I will destroy them for you.
/r/seduction07/08/17 09:29 AM
6

Good that you've identified you have two different poles. I argue everyone has a nice and asshole quality to them. Without kindness, evil cannot exist and vice versa etc. Now staying stuck on one pole for too long is problem, and also swinging back and forth on extremes of the poles with no control or awareness can also be a problem. What you need to do is pause. ... pause ... and then choose your response. When someone says something to you, pause. When you are out and about pause. While pausin…
/r/seduction07/08/17 05:11 AM
1

Several, I haven't counted but it works for me.
/r/seduction06/08/17 03:47 PM
1

Fuck man. You're insecure as hell and overthinking this. Laughing doesn't get guys laid, taking action is what gets guys laid. You don't need to convince ppl you are having a good time, many serious guys get laid. You worry what others think THAT'S YOUR PROBLEM. FUCK what others think.
/r/seduction06/08/17 02:56 PM
2

I find that the guys who laugh the loudest with girls tend to do better Wtf lol no. Laughing loudly has no correlation with girls pussies getting wet.
/r/seduction06/08/17 01:32 PM
3

Tip: If approaching is not illegal where you are, then stop listening to keyboard jockeys and approach. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Kqrvs3A6hk
/r/seduction06/08/17 01:28 PM
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But I would love to hear some strong responses to when they finally say, "oh I thought you were gay?" "You thought correct. Now as your new gay friend show me your boobs so I can tell you what bra you'd look good in."
/r/seduction06/08/17 01:15 PM
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He who hesitates masturbates. All you gotta do is not hesitate / move fast towards a girl. Moving is an action. Don't ask "how do I move fast?" you've walked since you were a toddler and you probably know how to power walk and run. Do that. If you move fast and don't turn around, you will approach her before your excuses can stop you. Then just say "excuse me" and go from there.
/r/seduction06/08/17 01:11 PM
1

seeing a girl for around a month? I just heard around this sub that lunch dates lead to friendzone haha You've been dating for a month and you haven't fucked right? Stop seeing her, you took way too long. You're probably already a friend too her.
/r/seduction06/08/17 01:07 PM
1

Just accept that this is happening. She's playing hot and cold. Can you handle that? Can you accept that?
/r/seduction06/08/17 11:22 AM
2

Wtf lol. Man there's rule to this, just use your common sense. If I was at a bar I'd probably get a taxi. But do what you think is right.
/r/seduction06/08/17 07:51 AM
2

I really enjoyed this. Harsh words I imagine, and real words. Upvoted. I think what you said is a generalisation though and I want to acknowledge that. For example, I'm on here but I am not into mmorpg's or other geek shit that much. I like the internet of course and I do programming ... and my hobbies aren't that weird, I do public speaking, meditation, running, and I watch other popular tv shows. I have a social circle too and attend meetups. Of course this generalisation you are making I imag…
/r/seduction06/08/17 07:48 AM
1

Well check with yourself, are you even a bit anxious? is your body shaking or are you rigid? Are you completely silent? If you were looking at yourself making out with a girl, would you think you look nervous? Whenever girls shit test me or say something about me, I like to use it as a learning opportunity. I like to be self-aware and girls criticisms can help with that awareness. Perhaps I am anxious without knowing it??? If you're sure you're not anxious, then it could definitely be a shit tes…
/r/seduction06/08/17 07:37 AM
1

lol, i can't imagine that going well if i literally said "i'm going to fuck you". What should I have actually done to fuck them? Well don't say "I'm going to fuck you" ... that sounds rapey as fuck lol Make sure you're close to the girl you want physically. Lean into her ear and in a smooth (not loud) voice say, "I find you very sexy and I want to go home with you." If she doesn't say no and looks interested or waits for you to do something, grab her hand and lead her to the cab. If she shit tes…
/r/seduction06/08/17 07:21 AM
1

Tell them you don't want to make small talk and that you want to go home with them and fuck them. moooode oneeeeee
/r/seduction06/08/17 07:16 AM
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Yeah I'm saving myself for marriage. I'm a good catholic boy.
/r/seduction06/08/17 06:37 AM
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If you're getting lots of matches, fuck conversation. You should be asking for the meetup within the first 3 messages. I know guys that in their first message, say something like: "hey i'm about to get pizza, wanna come?" and get good success. The longer you converse the more likely you are to fuck it all up. Girls who like you will be happy to meet up with you without knowing you, you can get to know her while fucking her or after the sex.
/r/seduction06/08/17 06:07 AM
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No. If you do that, you're a chump. Any girl who only meets up with you for money is a gold digger I don't care if they are poor. They are playing you. Even if you meet with this girl, you will lose your own self respect and start to create a belief that women only meet up with you for money, which will put you in a terrible cycle. Set a rule to yourself you will only meet women that want to meet with you, not for the paper you have.
/r/seduction06/08/17 06:04 AM
1

If you catch public transport, you could learn how to game on public transport. It is probably more scary for some and you need to be gauging how interested the girl is with baby steps. Tinder will be good for you. If you say you are good looking and you don't have much time, you'll get results on it. Just take some good quality pictures, and try to get pictures in cool places too, you don't want to advertise to girls that you are a loner by taking all your pictures in a mirror. You can swipe wh…
/r/seduction06/08/17 05:58 AM
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How do I proceed? As normal. How do I maximize my chances of being successful with women, considering I'm not in great shape? I'm chubby too and made out with two girls in two nights. I think taking fuck loads of action, being honest and unapolgoetic is way more attractive and much more important than a bit of extra weight. Fat guys can get with attractive women if they know they are the shit. However if you are obese or severely overweight this will drop your chances a lot even if you are confi…
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:18 AM
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Where can I go to meet women that's a bit less... Slutty? You're in r/seduction seduction - persuading someone to have sexual intercourse slut - a woman who has many casual sexual partners If you're really looking for good sex, then women who have many sexual partners/sluts are high quality. You're shooting yourself in the foot by avoiding sluts. What are you in this subreddit for? To have sex with virgins? Good luck.
/r/seduction05/08/17 12:25 PM
2

I ask for it in the middle or about 4/5th of the way through the approach. Really doesn't matter too much. If a girl really likes you she will answer your texts or calls.
/r/seduction05/08/17 06:17 AM
1

Well you deleted you post so I can't help you as much. But the fist thing you do when it comes to seduction is know what you want. If a girl asked you do you wanna be my boyfriend or just fuck me? And she was happy with either, which would you choose? When you've decided what you want, focus on getting it. Don't let anyone sway you from that. You may change your mind later on about what you want, but that change should come from you, not others. You want a relationship with her for example, then…
/r/seduction04/08/17 08:30 AM
1

What do you want from her?
/r/seduction03/08/17 11:14 PM
2

Hey guys, I've been in to a girl from the place I work for like a month now. Red flag going up for me. I know that I shouldn't tolerate this kind of behavior and I will put an end to it as soon as possible. However, You know you shouldn't tolerate this kind of behaviour? Then stop allowing it to continue. Or do you guys think that surprising a girl who's been flakey to me and hasn't given her pussy to me yet is a needy and beta behavior? Yes very stupid to surprise a girl who you aren't fucking.…
/r/seduction03/08/17 12:10 PM
2

Well you seem to already be struggling with tinder without a car. And you speak highly of meeting girls in bars in public with friend of friends. I think you know your own answer. There's not much I need to tell you.
/r/seduction03/08/17 09:55 AM
1

I'm starting to imagine all the dowvoters of my comments are manipulators themselves and hate to be thought of as cunts, so they need to protect this manipulator to protect their own identity. Guys, give it a rest. I'm no way near as bad or "too far" as you. My swearing might seem over the top, but If you feel the need to control a woman by saying "I just want to be friends" as a strategy when really you want to sleep or date her and then you wonder why your strategy isn't working ... well then …
/r/seduction03/08/17 09:48 AM
2

I'm letting him know he is a sack of shit and needs some integrity to his character in a brutal way, that's not too fucking far. Someone needs to wake him the fuck up. A bit of cussing ain't a big deal compared to his manipulative tendencies. He doesn't even seem aware of the fact he is doing it, that's a huge problem.
/r/seduction03/08/17 09:39 AM
1

Yeah I mean initially it pays to have daygame or nightgame "sessions", and for beginners I do recommend holding some sessions if you have extreme anxiety. Once you do that for a while though I recommend stop having day game sessions, and start making it fun. This guy (OP) I think needs to give up the sessions. Because talking to girls is fun! Unless of course you force yourself to do it, then it becomes like accounting or some hard working chore. When I see a girl I like, I feel a desire and a p…
/r/seduction03/08/17 09:23 AM
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Yeah I chose to.
/r/seduction03/08/17 01:28 AM
3

Good man. Keep it up.
/r/seduction02/08/17 03:16 PM
1

Read Mode 1 by Alan Roger Currie, addresses this problem. 90% pickup doesn't.
/r/seduction02/08/17 03:01 PM
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Stop bullshitting women you cunt. Girls aren't dumb, and I don't have any respect for you. Just be honest with them. If you get rejected it means move on.
/r/seduction02/08/17 02:56 PM
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I don't like hearing two questions in a row. Sounds weak and needy to me.
/r/seduction02/08/17 02:37 PM
1

I tried to ask the reasoning What did you say exactly? And how did you say it?
/r/seduction02/08/17 02:18 PM
0

But yes, I did reflect on all these things and frankly gave me a lot of clarity. And? What did you learn? I'm hoping you're not the stereotypical Indian pua who does hundreds of approaches without learning to reflect and doesn't ever get real results. I'm hoping because those guys are stuck on a hamster wheel of approaching without sex. It really sucks. At a certain number you need to realise if you're not fucking women, then you're doing some thing/s wrong.
/r/seduction02/08/17 02:16 PM
3

Good thing to say if you're getting a weak answer is: So is that a yes or no? (calm but strong voice) Being assertive can save some future frustration and insecurity.
/r/seduction02/08/17 02:12 PM
5

I might have approached at least 100 girls while I was there, mostly in the clubs. And guess what? Got rejected by every single one of them. Congrats on taking lots of action. 100 Approaches should get you laid once, with several numbers and a few dates. Why didn't you get laid? Are you certain it was just your accent and background? How do you know for sure. Spend more time reflecting and on self-awareness. If you were a girl in Bali, and El_Kamina approached you, what would he look like? How w…
/r/seduction02/08/17 01:41 PM
1

Fair enough ... that's your experience. I stand by my opinion it's better overall to approach girls with earphones than not. Why waste opportunities on a few that may find discomfort, when a larger portion of women may be pleased or wanting guys to approach them? Why decide for the girl before she can decide what her boundaries are? She's a grown woman she can tell me if approaching her is a bad time or something she desires. I think it would be disrespectful for me to decide if a girl wants to …
/r/seduction02/08/17 12:43 PM
1

Say "I know ;)" and then continue as normal.
/r/seduction02/08/17 06:44 AM
8

(optional: "excuse me") hi, don't be alarmed (pause for him to realise what's happening) I just thought you were cute and I wanted to come meet you. What you been up to today?
/r/seduction02/08/17 06:40 AM
2

If someone is wearing earbuds unless there's a fire or other news they need to be warned about- leave them alone. I disagree. I have experience too. Had many great approaches after gesturing them to pull it out. I think some girls will have earphones in so they can keep to themselves and keep strangers away, other will just be bored or wanting to listen to music or audiobooks. If it's the keeping strangers away reason, think about this ... if the man of her dreams came along, do you think she'd …
/r/seduction02/08/17 01:23 AM
1

lmao troll post. As soon as I get a sculpted 6 pack, girls will flock to my dick yeah right. I know heaps of fit guys who were virgins for ages till they learnt about pickup. Talking to women is the most important thing, yes keeping fit is important too, but you don't need a 6 pack, and some girls actually get turned off by it.
/r/seduction01/08/17 08:56 AM
1

Meditate an hour a day for a year, and try to remain mindful whenever you start going on long thinking threads. Right now for example ... do you feel your feet making contact with a surface? ... Can you feel your stomach moving in and out as you breathe?
/r/seduction01/08/17 07:01 AM
3

If you're really blunt, combine it with being unapologetic. Don't say "oh sorry I don't mean to be, I'll try to be less blunt in future." That is extremely unattractive, and it will make your bluntness not work for you in terms of seduction. It's a good trait, it filters out bullshit artists and "polite" people, and attracts other blunt people. And it can be attractive to honest women too. The good thing about being blunt is it saves times for you as well, no frustrations with time wasting women…
/r/seduction01/08/17 06:53 AM
1

All I want to do is meet a girl at work or doing a hobby. Get to know her and start dating her. I see it happening all the time around me, but why can't I do it? If you don't know the reason, then I won't know, and I doubt anyone else here will. Rather than me give you advice or take guesses. Try this with me: Imagine you have a world class dating coach next with you right now. How is he dressed? What colours are his clothing? What is his body language like? What is his facial expression like? H…
/r/seduction01/08/17 06:37 AM
1

Just walk up to her and gesture her to pull her earbuds out. Then say "hey" while smiling. She'll probably say "hey" back with some hesitancy. Then give some pre-frame appropriate to the situation like "don't worry I'm not selling anything .." or if you're in an alley, "don't be scared I'm not trying to mug you", and then say something like "I just find you attractive and I wanted to come over to talk to you" or something along those lines. These direct things have been used a lot more recently …
/r/seduction01/08/17 06:24 AM
2

I find it super draining to hunt for women in the day. Sometimes in 3h of walk you only find 2-3 girls worth approaching. So how do you go about DAYGAMING sessions? Any helpful mindset? Stop going on daygame sessions. If you go on sessions, or "hunting" you turn meeting women into work. Forget about the "sessions" completely. Start doing shit in the daytime, like watching a movie or hanging out with friends, playing billiards, going to a meetup. THEN while you have a purpose to go to one of thes…
/r/seduction01/08/17 06:20 AM
3

Is being a virgin at the age of 23 a bad thing? No. And I'm guessing you've already formed an opinion that it is bad to be wondering about it. I would like your advice to how I can improve? What do you want to improve in?
/r/seduction01/08/17 06:16 AM
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Awesome man! Well done.
/r/seduction01/08/17 05:27 AM
3

This is my honest answer. I think you're insecure as fuck, and you want a number to relieve you of your insecurity. Kind of like a person who is unsure if they are ugly or hot wants a definite rating out of 10. but the the obvious problem is that there is no number. My immediate answer would be somewhere around 30, but that's a lie. Because there are guys who start late and do really well with women and people. I think the average 30+ year old male who is a virgin will lose confidence, AND I als…
/r/seduction01/08/17 04:07 AM
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School should be 99% of your focus. I disagree. Balance is important I think. I myself regret not hitting on all the girls I liked. Regret sucks. Make time for both girls and studies OP. It's very much possible. Just give up video games and minimise wanking and you should have a lot more time for both. You don't want to burn yourself, If you spend 99% of your focus on studies you will burn yourself out or lose any personality you had in the process.
/r/seduction31/07/17 04:55 AM
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Well you fucked up obviously by getting oneitis. I mean maybe you didn't control your feelings, but it's happened, and now you're in a bad situation and you know it and you're not changing. You're stuck.
/r/seduction31/07/17 04:37 AM
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Definitely stay in school and finish your education. Stay organised with your schoolwork and keep your life balanced between socialising/girls and schoolwork. Don't spend all your time on one or the other. Guys who spend all time on schoolwork regret not hitting on chicks etc. Guys who spend all their time partying regret not studying. If you can make a timetable and fit time for both. Ask every single girl you like, out on a date or to chill or whatever. And try hooking up with them. Obviously …
/r/seduction31/07/17 04:33 AM
2

Teasing, bantering, playing, having fun with each other with sexual undertones is what I associate with flirting.
/r/seduction31/07/17 02:15 AM
1

Good for you dude
/r/seduction31/07/17 01:20 AM
2

chode > pimp
/r/seduction31/07/17 01:14 AM
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I am currently looking for an affordable therapist I recommend getting an intern gestalt therapist. They can be cheap and still effective. Therapy is unpleasant though just a warning. For it to be effective it can't be all rainbows and sunshines. So whoever you get remember to be 100% honest and open, (which is actually not as easy as it sounds, lies and defences can happen quite unconsciously during therapy, so if you catch yourself lying admit that) committed and willing to experience discomfo…
/r/seduction30/07/17 11:48 PM
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So last night I was talking to this girl I wanna make out with for a good 15 minutes but I just didn't know when to go for the kiss. I made out with a random girl in 1 minute of meeting her at a club the other night. You took too long. What could I do to hint I wanted to kiss her? You're not a girl, don't hint. Or how to tell if she was into me that way? Stand close to her. If she moves back, back off. If she lets you come close, good sign. If you are inches from her face, just kiss.
/r/seduction30/07/17 06:24 PM
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I've hooked up with a girl that did that until her back was against the wall and she melted as I kissed her. Well even if she melted, you were treading in dangerous territory. She could claim sexual assault if she didn't want it, and bystanders could agree with her. If a girl moves back, you should stop immediately.
/r/seduction30/07/17 02:03 PM
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You're welcome mate.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:59 PM
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It is a problem for you, don't kid yourself.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:11 PM
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Have you been in couple's therapy for 6 months?
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:44 PM
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I imagine you'll hate me for saying this, get therapy. Seriously, you don't want to be approaching girls and experiencing extreme psychological distress or thoughts of suicide. Rejection is part of the journey. And if you get rejected a lot (which all good seducers do) I would hate to imagine that you are getting suicidal over it. So get therapy first, get to a stable level of emotions. I wouldn't touch seduction or pickup till you feel like you have some sense of self esteem. Delete tinder off …
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:40 PM
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It means she wishes to encounter homo sapiens and fraternize.
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:20 PM
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Start with one thing at a time. Obviously even the most motivated guy would have trouble in your situation if he looked at all the different problems in his life. So make it as simple as possible. Out of your problems which one, if solved, will make everything slightly easier? I think for you perhaps what you really need is support for your depression and loneliness. Once those things are fixed, you'll have more motivation to take care of other aspects of your life. What action can you take to g…
/r/seduction30/07/17 12:15 PM
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I'd sit her down and have a serious talk. I'd tell her how I felt about her not wanting sex and I'd tell her I want her to go to couple's therapy with me to work it out. If she didn't comply, and kept coming up with excuses, I'd divorce her and be single.
/r/seduction30/07/17 11:15 AM
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she was up front because she didn't like it when people ghosted her or left her wondering There's your answer I'm wondering if you mistrusted her answer or felt annoyed by her answer to post on reddit about it.
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:01 AM
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I think she was just being considerate, though what would I know. I can't read her mind. You could ask her, or just stop overthinking it.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:49 AM
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I am often pretty lonely and I would like to know how I can fix this. Get a hobby or two that involve other people, that you can go to every week and that you personally enjoy. Hire a dating coach (if you can afford it) to motivate you and point out where you can improve. Approach 1000 girls this year. (About 3 approaches a day on average) With each approach, attempt to touch their lower back if you're in a bar or hug them if you meet them on the street. And attempt to take them home (if at nigh…
/r/seduction30/07/17 05:43 AM
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If you stand closer to her, and she moves back, then she's not that interested or comfortable with you. If she stays still or even leans into you, good sign she's interested or comfortable with you.
/r/seduction30/07/17 05:37 AM
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What are some steps I can check off that saids I got the most possible out of that interaction. I don't think there's any rigid steps to each interaction. how do I start practicing escalation? If you have an hour, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3Z4Nq0OrrM Definitely worth your time. And the homework exercises at the end of the vid (watch from start to finish) will help you escalate a lot more rapidly. Do those exercises.
/r/seduction30/07/17 04:19 AM
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I'm not closing yet not exactly sure how but I think since I'm so new the more important thing is for me to practice approaches in different situations and get comfortable doing them all. Make sure with each approach you attempt to close. You won't close every girls for sure. But don't think you need to wait to some later stage before you close, that's ridiculous. You're a man, you want sex. Start attempting to close. That's what got you into seduction. No one comes into seduction saying, "My go…
/r/seduction30/07/17 03:58 AM
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Escalation would be mainly moving things forward. So hugging, holding hands, touching her back, going in for the kiss, asking on a date, removing clothing are all escalation. Depends on where you are, and how comfortable she is with you. Start with small things like standing close. If she moves back, then she is not too comfortable yet. If she remains where she is as you move closer to her or even moves into you, that's a great sign. If you are inches from her face and she isn't moving back or l…
/r/seduction30/07/17 03:48 AM
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Most of the posts in this subreddit are about how to sleep with girls or where to meet girls but absolutely skip on how to flirt. That's coz flirting isn't always necessary to get laid. Getting laid is the end goal. Flirting is just something that sometimes happens. People say it increases attraction, but if you're already attractive to the girl you are approaching, or you are confident, you don't need to flirt really, you could just hold eye contact, stand close and and escalate instead. I flir…
/r/seduction30/07/17 03:37 AM
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Imagine you are one of the top pickup coaches on the planet. You know how to seduce and date women and you have an abundance of women in your life. You get paid to teach guys to get laid and meet women. Now Illvstrious is a new student of yours. Illvstrious tells you all about his situation, his age, his experience, and how he thinks maybe his problem is being skinny. You notice he isn't really going out lately either and he lacks confidence. He asks you, "how do you think I could change things …
/r/seduction30/07/17 02:41 AM
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Yep sounds frustrating.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:41 AM
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Well there's your answer. If you don't take action, expect no results.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:36 AM
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I just answered this with a post (not spam): https://redd.it/6q8pnu Read that and answer the 3 questions here.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:29 AM
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First recognise your mind is coming up with bullshit to keep you comfortable. Unless you see a ring on their ring finger, or a guy standing next to them, APPROACH. Use the 3 second rule or just basically move quickly. Get a really tough wingman who won't put up with your bullshit, and push you into the girls you are looking at.
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:26 AM
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I approached well over 20 girls in my first week Well done! What's a close though pretty sure I'm not doing that because I have no idea what it is? What's your end goal? To get laid? To be in a relationship? Closing would be either fixing a date and getting her number/facebook/way of contact, or taking her home and having sex typically. Getting a number without a date can be considered a close, though I would try to arrange the date in person unless the girl is in a rush, then a number is better…
/r/seduction30/07/17 01:03 AM
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Run! It worked for me. Start jogging up and down streets and speed up when you see a girl. This way you are building bodily momentum towards moving towards the girl, and hesitation reduces. When you see a girl, run towards her. Don't allow yourself to be paralyzed. Move fast. When you're in state you can stop running and just walk towards girls. also combine this with a timer and you'll go even faster.
/r/seduction09/04/17 10:04 AM
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Dude get therapy. You're extremely delusional, and I worry for yours and others safety.
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