So my friend is dating this girl. He met her through their mutual friend, and we all hung out Wednesday. It was my first time meeting them, and I just got serious about my game again after a period of depression and self-improvement. I was not attracted to this girl AT ALL, but I know my role as wingman is to occupy her and separate her from her friend so my friend can have a more intimate experience. It didn't happen this way because I'm rusty and I now have a hard time gaming chicks I'm not attracted to. In the past, I would have fucked just to fuck, but I'm trying to get girls I actually am interested in.

So I wasn't a good wingman because I didn't separate, but the group still had a good time and my frame was solid to the point where my buddy told me he was drunk and doesn't remember much about the night, but he remembers I was extremely confident. But I never escalated with that girl.

Fast foward to last night. We met up at the gym and then went to dinner. My frame wasn't as strong as the day before, but it was still pretty strong. At some point during dinner, the girl I'm supposed to be gaming straigh up calls me fat, and justifies herself by saying I should either accept it or do something about it. Now, I was immediately defended by my buddy and his girl as they said that wasn't the case. In fact, most people tell me how skinny I am because, despite being around 17% BF, my body type, my underlying muscles and the way I dress make me look skinny and muscle-y. More of a basketball player then a football player. I think it's because when we were at the gym earlier, we were only there for a little while and I got a little sweaty. She also saw me do 50 pound seated rows while my buddy was doing 120. I lift around the same as my buddy in all lifts, and would have probably done 110 or 120 if I hadn't already done so the night before and felt my sore biceps. In comparison, she later called my buddy a tank after punching him in the chest.

I think this struck a nerve with me because I see myself as a former fat guy and I know I'm not a model with a BF of 8-12%. I made jokes about it to defuse it right then and there when she said it, but some part of what I said was a little serious about defending myself. Later, on the car ride back to get my car, she said something about extra weight on her chest (tits) and I made a joke about I can relate because apparently, I also have extra weight. I don't know if that was the right thing to do it not. Should I have not even brought it up to make it seem like I had already forgotten about it because it didn't even faze me? Or was I right by just laughing it off? Maybe I should have shit tested her In return, but I didn't want to seem petty about it. I also never physically escalated yesterday, but I did a better job then I did on Wednesday of distracting her. I enjoyed the conversation, but I'm still not attracted to her and really don't want to pursue, maybe just escalate enough to distract her. Thoughts?