Guys, I have a problem: I'm too friendly...

Moocowstorm · 2016-03-11T17:21:21+00:00

You answered your own question. You don't express your sexual intention. How is a girl going to know that you're into her if you make sure to express the exact opposite by expressing that you are nothing more than a friend? You are the male, you are the go getter. There is no shame in expressing your sexual interest, shit that's the very reason you exist, too express your sexual interest and carry on your genes. It will be uncomfortable at first but that's a good thing. When you're uncomfortable, your growing. Make yourself uncomfortable.

thenarrrowpath · 2016-03-11T20:30:39+00:00

Stop caring. The best thing you can do is adopt an IDGAF attitude. The best way to start doing that is occupy your time with stuff that will improve you (gym, studies, learning new skills, trying new foods or doing new things) . Its all about you, not them. You will find yourself getting interest from women, and the moment you drop everything in your life to try to pursue that is the moment they drop you. Have priorities other than women, and you'd be surprised the attention you'll get.

DaygameCoach · 2016-03-11T19:27:16+00:00

Friendly and "nice" are not the same thing. Friendly is fine. If by "nice" you mean that you don't have a backbone and are not assertive (including sexual escalation) and clear in your intent...that is a problem. Not Kino'ing and not flirting/bantering are HUGE problems...and this is why you aren't doing well. Don't blame the friendliness, since flirts ARE friendly and do well.

Oh, so you aren't ready to improve yourself in order to be better with women. That's another huge issue since it takes a lot of work and time and change to get better. Mainly it's behavior and inner game, but yeah, your personality would get more confident, and you don't seem to want changes. :)

Read Superflirt & Superdate so you can better read body language to know who is interested.

Men don't need to play hard to get, so it isn't that.

Cuisine, Daygamer.net

DirkDieGurke · 2016-03-12T04:27:33+00:00

Perhaps your "niceness" is actually neediness, or coming off as such.

If you come to terms with the fact that women respond to a strong confident man vs a nice friendly guy, you will start moving in the right direction.

sugarrayleonard1975 · 2016-03-11T17:24:59+00:00

Just start out being a bit more disagreeable, rather than always saying "yeah". Then you can use this disagreeability in a flirty way, with a cheeky demeanour. This is basically what girls mean by chemistry. Someone they can talk to normally, but also spiced up by flirtation and unpredictability. If you're just having normal conversation, there's no excitement.

sugarrayleonard1975 · 2016-03-11T17:26:17+00:00

And watch Russell Brand.

Here's a great example of him flirting with Uma Thurman.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FN-rUeHT73g

cubixy2k · 2016-03-12T22:32:56+00:00

How is it no one brought up the fact that maybe you just aren't noticing. Speaking from experience, sometimes you get so caught up in what you're going to say next or in your side of the conversation, you miss a lot going on.

Title	Guys, I have a problem: I'm too friendly...
Author	MammothBaby
Upvotes	11
Comments	22
Date	March 11, 2016 5:09 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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