Guys, when do you enjoy your dates?

questionthis · 2016-07-18T18:23:01+00:00

I think you're misunderstanding the point of PUA theory.

Of course you should enjoy your date and be present and engage with what's going on instead of trying to assert yourself on every level and beat the game. You are on the date learning if you want to be with this person just as much as the other one is.

But let's assume you do enjoy your date and like how things are going. You enjoy her presence and her energy. You're in to how she giggles and what she wears. Now what? It's all for nothing if you can't navigate the game part of the date. Too often guys enjoy their dates but don't know how to take it to the next level or keep the girl interested long enough for her to grow comfortable with his deeper personality, which can lead to being friend-zoned or flat out rejection. Sometimes if you don't game them, women may think you aren't interested which can cause them to leave out of fear of being rejected. That's where PUA comes in handy.

It's not for treating the date like battlefield, it's for getting over the initial hump in a romantic pursuit so you can focus on the development of the relationship and focus on the chemistry between you.

jazz835 · 2016-07-18T19:54:47+00:00

Think of it like learning an instrument. You probably wouldn't enjoy sitting down and learning every chord progression of a song, how to move your fingers over each string and how to pick, but the sum parts of all of this practicing can make a beautiful song. Otherwise you are ruining what could be a beautiful experience by not knowing how to play the instrument.

Women can be instruments that can be beautiful to play with, but only if you know what you're doing. Practicing isn't fun nor exciting, and can be mentally exhausting. But once it becomes second nature, and you figure out how to "date" it can be very rewarding when you find yourself not actively doing any of these things, and it has become a part of who you are.

Until you learn to do all of these things naturally, I can see why you will have a very negative view on them, as they do seem a bit forced.

Not everyone here is a stud, and can get laid when they want. There is nothing wrong with utilizing these tactics to help attract a woman.

RandomGoodMan · 2016-07-18T21:05:33+00:00

I think you're mistaking the leaves for the roots. Firstly, if you think girls are consciously out there to test you or have a shield of bitch, then you're coming from the completely wrong angle. It's that angle that has you upside down. Ultimately, human mating is the same as with other species, but with a bunch of other shit built upon it. To make it as brief as possible, women just want to be wanted by emotionally grounded men. If you're not enjoying dates, you're not emotionally grounded. You'd be surprised how much you can improve this with a few therapy sessions and meditation.

However, based on what you actually want, enjoying her beauty and that of your surroundings, it seems like you have at least a decent level of emotional foundation. Back to the leaves and the roots... you wanting to enjoy beauty is the root. You "pass the tests" by not letting anything, including her, get in the way of your enjoyment. In short, just enjoy the date & the rest will fall into place. Passing tests is the symptom, or leaves. Enjoying the date is the root from which the leaves sprout.

Lastly, because if you want to bang, you need to escalate... think if it as enjoying your date, because you want to enjoy her sex. It's completely natural, and frankly the reason dates happen in the first place. If you think she's hot, let her know by touching her, holding her, going in for a kiss, etc. If she's not into it, back off for a sec and continue enjoying your date. As much as girls have "tests," you should to, unless you have no standards & would be happy fucking braindead lard-tubs.

Title	Guys, when do you enjoy your dates?
Author	lawrent633
Upvotes	0
Comments	14
Date	July 18, 2016 4:52 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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