I believe that a necessary part about becoming attractive to women is becoming attractive to everyone in general. People you meet are intrigued by you. They're drawn to you. You are magnetic.

There are guys I know that have these qualities. They aren't ultimate seducers though; they probably never needed to look at this material for too long, maybe always had a girlfriend here are there, and have approach anxiety like anyone who has never approached would.

But, you meet them, and you think they're awesome. I actually believe that women WISHED these guys were more aggressive in getting their numbers, etc. But it seems like the guys who are aggressive in this sense and still magnetic are not magnetic just by nature. They worked on it.

One guy I know in particular intrigues me. He's mostly quiet, but when he speaks, people listen. When he makes a joke, people laugh. When he does something silly, everyone laughs. He's just a naturally funny guy. I could attempt to do the same silly shit he tries to do, and people would probably think I'm a try-hard. He does it out of complete non-neediness, and does it with complete conviction. It's impressive.

It's a trait I wish to learn, but I'm not sure how. He gives off the illusion that he seeks no one's approval, but I think this is mostly because he's just quiet when he has nothing to say. And when he DOES have something to say, it's actually usually a pretty good thing. His jokes are rarely out of place and pretty funny. How does one become this socially adept? What does it take?

He also makes himself quite vulnerable, and in a non-needy way. He's not afraid to break out into dance, and he's a good dancer, but not a try-hard. He basically seems to have an extremely low level of neediness, yet is still fucking hilarious. He's the kind of dude people always want to grab a beer with, and that people want at their parties.

I've very rarely had anyone tell me something like "yo we have to go for a beer sometime man!!". And when it is said, it's more just guy-talk than actually meant. I get invited out by friends sometimes, yeah, but I'm not the guy people ABSOLUTELY want at their party. It's mostly by association. I don't add that much in terms of "fun" value. When I try to, it doesn't seem natural, or it seems try-hard. I don't know, maybe it's in my head.

Anyway, this is one example, but I think this is how everyone should strive to be. Being a super naturally attractive man gives you tons of opportunities, but these guys don't always see or understand the opportunities in front of their face. If you have even an OUNCE of pickup knowledge, being a super naturally attractive man will allow you to recognize and POUNCE on all the opportunities that come up. The question is, how do you get there?