What does it really mean to be non-needy?

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-09-21T04:20:33+00:00

It is about being fulfilled. You do not sense any lack in your life, so you are not desperate for gratification. Your life is self-sustaining.

I'll quote one of my favorite astrologers, Michael Lutin (but strip out the astrology as it isn't relevant here).

There is a huge difference between gratification and fulfillment..
The search for gratification of our basic needs can answer our wishes to make up for deprivation we feel we sufference in the past, and it's a necessary escape from the pressures of life.

Besides, it's fun to indulge and a part of feeling whole again.. however, escapist distractions do not in the end give us what we really need for nourishment. Although some people get the joke immediately, it may take others months to figure out and recognize what really and truly sustains them.

puaCurveBall · 2013-09-20T23:02:01+00:00

It means being completely comfortable and happy whether she responds positively or not.

Being confident in who you are and that you don't need anything from her to validate or make yourself happier.

Know it is a privilege for her to be a part of your life, not the other way around.

anon404 · 2013-09-21T01:40:07+00:00

I have a date later today and I don't want to be needy.

Neediness stems from emotional states you do not have significant experience with. The more often you have the feeling you're having now, the less intense it will be, therefore leading you to be less needy next time.

donit · 2013-09-21T02:51:49+00:00

I think you bring up a good point: how do you reach for a girl, without coming across as needy. The Mystery push-away and take-away methods fix that by having her always coming to you...instead of you going to the girl.

By alternating between escalating kino, snatching it away, and pushing the girl away with words as well as physically, you make her become aggressive, and then she aggressively comes after you.

It's sort of similar to when Bugs Bunny switches sides in an argument, which causes the other person to force the outcome that Bugs had wanted all along.

Title	What does it really mean to be non-needy?
Author	SimplePickup5
Upvotes	3
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Date	September 20, 2013 10:54 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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