Having a hard time not coming off as needy

Captain_Save_A_Hoe_ · 2018-02-09T12:34:10+00:00

Have some shit to do. If you hate yourself go lift and torture yourself, get buff. Being swole gets you laid.

demilitarizdsm · 2018-02-09T12:13:43+00:00

Struggled with this too. One thing that worked was for me to figure out exactly what type of girl I liked. Then on a first date I'd go in at first convinced we were a bad match bc she didn't fit my profile. Allowed the push pull to come more naturally.

jeremyjack33 · 2018-02-09T21:56:16+00:00

You're supposed to initiate. I've met women that text first, initiate plans, but for the most part you need to lead.

Now as for being needy, it sounds like you're bored. Get some hobbies, hit the gym, read a book, go out and meet new people.

If you're already doing that, when setting something up for a date, have something FUN to do that you would otherwise already be doing. Once you send that text, ignore your phone. Do NOT double text in this instance. Find something to do that'll keep your mind off of it. I'll usually send out a text for a date right before work, where I can't use it. It sucks when you don't get a reply, but if you're preoccupied in work or something your passionate about, the time will go by way faster.

If she ignores you, do what you were going to do, regardless. Wait a few days and try to ask her out again like nothing happened, unless something really cool happened. Then you can tell her she missed out on something interesting/funny/weird.

JerryLawlerPigFace · 2018-02-10T03:39:20+00:00

I struggle with this too. Im always fearful of coming off as needy due to the fact that I am indeed a recovering beta with a scarcity mentality. I like the idea of controlling what you can control. Your strategy of not responding in the blink of an eye is good, as it makes it seem like you have stuff going on. Also, let her do 70-80% percent of the initiating. In other words, just hit the tennis ball back. Don’t double text (one at 11am, then another at 9pm if she didn’t respond). Don’t jump from platform to platform (she didn’t text me back, so I’ll send her a snap, or a Snapchat message). Its ok to send her a text first once or twice a week (max), but as Coach Corey Wayne says, if she’s pursuing you, then she can’t be getting rid of you. Also, get legitimately busy lol these techniques and strategies are great and all, but get busy with work, the gym, and especially talking to more women.

Title	Having a hard time not coming off as needy
Author	throwaway19980604
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	February 9, 2018 11:44 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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