Heeding advice and posting here: Help required regarding (American) etiquette.

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-05-06T03:45:54+00:00

Woah. Just do not send a girl flowers. You haven't even gone on a date, she hasn't earned that kind of reward yet. And worse, you're sounding out your coworkers and your boss about this. Man up and call her. Ask her out for coffee or something.

heckz · 2011-05-06T06:22:43+00:00

hey bro, in America we don't give flowers unless you're banging a bitch

li5anwt02 · 2011-05-06T03:54:24+00:00

I don't know where you're from, but this is weird. That said, Americans are pretty low on the etiquette food chain.

TofuTofu · 2011-05-06T04:59:53+00:00

Wait till the ink is dry and invite her out for a drink to celebrate. Escalate appropriately from there.

Also this is more of a /r/AskSeddit question.

frogma · 2011-05-06T06:04:11+00:00

If you're just sending flowers to the company, that's great, go ahead. If you're sending flowers to the girl, that's a baaaaaddd idea. Will she appreciate them? Probably, but that's not the point. One of the main things we preach here is that you do not buy girls drinks as an attempt to win them over. We don't even talk about sending flowers because of how lame it is.

As it were I had decided that I was going to ask her out the moment we met

Then ask her out bro. Simple as that. You probably have a bit of oneitis though, so you gotta watch that. Remember this girl isn't anything special.

It sounds like my inner awesome needs no more bringing out and that this entire sub-reddit is filled with people who are not me. I am thus rejecting your opinion as valid.

Don't just get pissed off when everyone disagrees with you. It sounds like you came here looking for us to agree since everyone else didn't. We don't agree either. Why would you ask the question in the first place if you already think you're right and don't want to hear other opinions? If you want to do whatever, nobody's stopping you. If you want to do it in a more attractive way, heed the advice you get here.

One of the main things you gotta watch is this whole "etiquette" thing. If you're trying to follow some sort of arbitrary etiquette (especially when it comes to getting girls), it's probably not gonna work out. One of the main points of the seduction community is to actually do the opposite of what standard etiquette would entail.

Either way, flowers are cheesy and the message they send to the girl is "Hey! I like you! Know why? Because I spent money on these flowers! I hope you like them! And I really hope you like me!" That is not attractive behavior, even if it's really "cute."

2011-05-06T08:29:33+00:00

Look, it's obvious that you did not get the kind of advice you were hoping to get in r/seduction. I recommend you go to r/relationships, where you might feel more at home.

Remember, here in Seddit, we believer that you - the man - are the one in charge. You do not buy the girl stuff unless she deserved it. Not even a drink. She needs to want you at least as much as you want her, if not more. If that is not the case, it is not what we, in Seddit, will call a healthy relationship.

Title	Heeding advice and posting here: Help required regarding (American) etiquette.
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Date	May 6, 2011 3:40 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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