Help with my text game

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-07-21T17:41:29+00:00

You can’t send these type of messages to women.

They receive these questions 100s if not 1000s times per day.

U can imagine how exhausting would be to always answer what you do.

That’s why messages have to be different, engaging.

liftingnstuff · 2025-07-21T17:45:47+00:00

Hi as an opener is terrible you're lucky even to get a first message back. Your 2nd message is a boring question. Your 3rd question is redundant (you matched with a distance filter). Your 4th question is value seeking, you're asking her to provide the value to the conversation without providing any yourself in a conversation where she's clearly not invested. You then reply with an insult and a lack of self awareness that you're also boring. Doubled down and tripled down on the insults because you're butthurt.

Less boring questions, less questions in general. More statements. More cold reads. No "Hi" openers. Stop getting mad at shittests. Take responsibility for carrying the burden of conversation until she's invested. Stop insulting girls, you'll get reported and banned.

Look up online dating messaging/text game guides. Your text game is terrible and needs to be rebuilt from scratch

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-07-21T20:43:53+00:00

- So I started off with saying hi, she responded hi. I asked how she was doing and how is she handling the heat to which she responded "fine".

Do you really give a fuck about how she handles the heat? I doubt it. You are just doing small talk and nobody genuinely gives a fuck about such surface leve staff. You know you want something else, not talk about the whether. that topic is simply boring and that's why she won't entertain it with more than breadcrumps because she also feels like you don't genuinely care about that.

- I asked if she was living in my city she said "yes". Then I asked her what does she do as in either for a living or in spare time, she responded "nothing".

Too many questions, are you having a conversation or an interview? Women hate interrogatory mode. Stop asking questions, make assumptions, make observations, tell her kinks, give opinions, provoke her curioisty, tease her, stop trying to get factual infromation like a questionary or an interrogator.

- Baffled by her vague answers I told her "so you're usually this boring, not just while talking with me" to which she responded "you didn't do anything to catch my attention".

Now you are being passive aggresive just because you don't realize how boring and dull you are. You are accuisng her of being boring when you are the one leading with boring shit that nobody gives a shit. You are just as boring and ordinary as you claim she is.

- I responded with "I surely must have since you swiped right" to which she said "you'll go left then since you're so interesting".

Being logical with women is the easiest way to dry theri pants. IStop trying to be like "if you did x, then that must mean x" logical shit like this doesn't get you anywhere with women, it's just boring.

- I then told her "you know you're not interesting yourself, conversation is a two way street, if you weren't pretty I wouldn't even be talking to you"

Oh, now you get into an ego battle with her. Trying to argue, insulting her, trying to bring her down, what does this accomplish other than being blocked? don't know. But it sure as hell seems like you wanted to protect your ego by attacking hers. The result is just get blocked/swipe left.

- How do I improve from this?

You are just boring that's the problem. You say she is boring, and yes she is giving boring responses to boring questions and boring conversations. You want women to be more interesting, be more fun and playful to talk to and they'll more liely to play along and be playful as well.

And stop trying to tell women that they suck for not acting the way you hope, because that just gurantees you get blocked and you won't get anything at all from it. They also won't change their attitude just because you start lecturing them about how they wouldn't get attention if they weren't pretty. That's just you behaving like an incel who is mad and jealous he doesn't get any sex, while women do without trying.

DavidStamina · 2025-07-23T21:21:02+00:00

1. Some girls have HIGH interest in you, most girls have MEDIUM or LOW interest after matching with you.

2. The way you text will work just fine with high interest girls. (Except your message about her being boring, not a good move since you need to provide value first, read below). But you'll need a lot of matches.

3. To improve texting with medium/low interested girls, try to give value instead of taking.

Interesting observations (cold reading), funny remarks = giving value

Telling cool stuff about yourself that raise your SMV = giving value

Boring questions = taking value

Asking questions nonstop in general = taking value. Better: question → comment on her response → next question.

Not bringing the interaction forward but milking instead = taking value. Better have a structure in texting, here are the main blocks roughly:

open with compliment or cold reading
short high status self-presentation
vibing
common grounds block: what are you looking for here? etc.
connect on her response and suggest meeting up
switch to whatsapp and finalize (date and time)

Vox_Dissidens · 2025-07-24T02:13:27+00:00

Hello, weather, work - the three most boring ways to open. Then you starting accusing her and taking it super seriously. Sorry dude, this one’s all you, I’m surprised she responded at all.

Just try to be a bit more interesting man. Instead of saying hi, make a flirty comment about something in her pictures. Don’t ask her how she’s handling the heatwave, ask her if she’s beach-ready and turn it into a date idea. Don’t ask her what she does for work, take a wild guess and when she corrects you, tell her your psychic powers need proximity and she needs to see you in person for an accurate reading.

Just be creative, try different things and don’t take any of it too seriously.

Title	Help with my text game
Author	Immediate-Bet190
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	July 21, 2025 5:18 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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