how and when do you verbalise intent when you open INDIRECT?

recyclablebanthas · 2018-02-22T06:43:53+00:00

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how and when do you verbalise intent when you open INDIRECT?

There is so much misunderstanding about what "indirect" means. Or "intent." A lot of guys come in here thinking that showing intent means some variation of telling a girl she's fucking sexy and you want to bang her. And that anything less is "indirect."

There's so much cart before horse in this mindset that it hurts my brain.

Indirect is when you find ways to inspire the girl to take direct actions in the social interaction.
Intent can be made fully obvious and blunt without verbalization. Actions speak louder than words. You SHOW intent, you don't tell it.
It's better to go into an interaction with the "intent" of finding out if this person is even worth knowing further. Curiosity. Assuming your "intent" before you know someone, is giving away power like if you walked onto a car lot and declared loudly that you aren't leaving without buying a car.

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I find it hard to smoothly verbalise my intent when I open indirect.

So you're kind of worried about nothing, really. Just interact with someone and find out what makes them tick. Pay attention to the moment and connect with them based on something that's happening right then or something about them or what they're doing.

Then if the interaction is going well, you have something to work with and she'll go along with suggestions to swap contact information or meet up later or whatever.

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So when indirect, talking, teasing etc, you wait until you feel she's somewhat attracted, and then do you just say ''you're hot by the way'' or do you have better ways of doing it (showing intent, making it sexual)

You don't need to say she's hot. A compliment consisting of an adjective is meaningless without context, anyway.

You don't need to let her know you're attracted. Paying attention closely to her will show that anyway. Light kino goes a long way. When I've talked to girls I've hooked up with about how it all started, they generally see our moves as ridiculously easy to spot.

And that's fine. It means that this isn't rocket science. If she's into it, she'll help make stuff happen and if she's not, she will create barriers. The important thing is confidence and paying attention.

rexarmastere · 2018-02-21T11:22:57+00:00

man u should read mystery method, the thing about indirect is make her invest like attraction tactics and shit, then start slowly like " You surprised me, you look interesting" Then reward her with this kind of qualifiers, but make conversation sexual with push pulls and misinterpretations

Fur_hat_linux · 2018-02-21T15:51:07+00:00

Nah if you open indirect you verbalise interest by asking them out on a insta-date. Its best for daygame.

Title	how and when do you verbalise intent when you open INDIRECT?
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Date	February 21, 2018 11:16 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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