How can I be even remotely confident pursuing girls with almost no sexual experience?

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-02-14T16:17:11+00:00

120 per year is 10 times a month. I think your figures are unrealistic.

RandianHero · 2014-02-14T22:55:59+00:00

Sex isn't difficult, so don't get worked up over it. It's really the most intuitive thing in the world. Just be receptive, open-minded, and focus on enjoying yourself. Don't be afraid to ask questions or explore and see what they like. I've had sex with nearly 400 women over a span of 22 years and I still ask questions when I'm with someone. Just keep practicing; you'll get better each time.

So with that in mind, don't worry so much about it. It's a lot less of a big deal than you're making it.

NAILGUNSODOMY · 2014-02-14T17:04:17+00:00

Ok, firstly I have felt where you are coming from, and let me tell you, you need to get out of the cycle. I was in a seriously bad way about a week ago when I had my confidence just completely fucked; however, I came on here, started watching some of the videos PUA make (check out the 21 Convention, so much good stuff on there), and it instantly made me feel better, that I wasn't the only one suffering with these thoughts.

Dude, don't get hung up on this stuff. You are over-analysing this when you should just get out there, approach women, and talk. Considering I was like you exactly a week ago, and now this week I have hooked up with 2 girls, it shows there is hope.

Don't fret the small things dude :-)

2014-02-14T17:19:33+00:00

Slowly get experience.

You don't be confident and then pursue girls. You learn to be confident as you pursue girls.

Any time I talk to a girl this thought is creeping back in my head, that I have no clue about what I am doing, that she of course will be disappointed and will see that my affective life so far has not be so fulfilled. And girls hate that, that's a fact.

Limiting belief. There are girls who don't want to sleep with inexperienced guys, but overall you're projecting here. You do have a clue as to what you're doing. And if you don't, there are plenty of resources to learn from. You just have to do it.

KidBill · 2014-02-15T00:02:24+00:00

I understand - it's a vicious cycle. Your lack of confidence is negatively affecting how you pursue girls, which is negatively affecting your confidence. Just change your mindset. You're talking to a girl just to talk to her and to see if you two would get along. Don't think about the sex that may or may not happen. After all, you're not guaranteed to have sex with her, and you're not guaranteed to be disappointing even if you do.

metomeya · 2014-02-14T20:13:41+00:00

Tell them every time you sleep with a virgin, an angel gets its wings.

Trust me, the experience thing isn't that big of deal.

Title	How can I be even remotely confident pursuing girls with almost no sexual experience?
Author	minime_
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	February 14, 2014 4:12 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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