How can I learn to be fun?

2013-01-22T00:46:50+00:00

You have to be creative here. Be active, enthusiastic, energetic, smile and laugh, make it look like you're having fun. Even if you aren't in a good mood, fake it and practice this a lot in the mirror. Smile even if you don't want to or don't feel like it. Always be happy, lighten things up. If you're happy, smiling, and laughing those around you will do the same. Exercise a lot, and attain the runners high. Be daring, take risks, be spontaneous, do something crazy or stupid. Don't think just do. Do. Wanna do something (an activity) with her, don't care what she thinks tell her to join you, don't ask. Be playful, act like a child sometimes. Tease her. Never say uhh or umm, use filler words instead. Speak with confidence. Act like the girl is your bestest of the bestest buddy in the whole world, but someone you still want to fuck. Act like everyone is your best friend. Read a lot into girls interests so you can talk about them. Be happy and energetic, if not force yourself to or fake it. You will be able to have more fun. Never think of restrictions or limitations go outside the box. Be flexible.

hirstyboy · 2013-01-22T01:07:09+00:00

Talk about shit you like. You should be able to talk about literally anything that interests you around girls. If you find it interesting they'll pick up on it and you'll start to have more fun because it's something you enjoy. I started practicing talking about whatever popped into my mind with whoever I was with and it helped out a bunch. Just let loose and don't worry what happens. If you can get to a point where you're genuinely having fun with yourself then if a girl rejects you or isn't having a fun time you won't even care. Life is about having fun and if you have fun others will want to get in on that.

Also, I took a long time by myself so that I could understand how to be happy and have fun with noone else around (I'm talking like a month with no social contact but my family and the rare friend.) It's a more extreme method but you really need to learn how to enjoy yourself before others can enjoy you. Hope this helps.

KickassAcademy · 2013-01-22T04:11:59+00:00

I really recommend taking an improv comedy class man.

The entire art is based on starting with nothing, nothing in your head, nothing on the stage, and turning it into something hilarious. It will totally expand your lateral thinking and give you the tools to make life much more fun. Give it a shot

kurtgodelisdead · 2013-01-22T00:05:58+00:00

I think the main problem with this question is that fun is a very relative term. One person's idea of fun is another's total bore.

However, if you are obviously having fun yourself, it can often be infectious. I would, instead, rephrase the question as "How can you learn to invite people to what I consider to be fun?", which is a lot easier for you to answer, I think.

SingAlong_Original · 2013-01-22T00:41:41+00:00

Be persistent in what you do, without being creepy. Girls will see that as alpha, and respond in a fun way. That's an IoI, you can be fun back

2013-01-22T01:22:37+00:00

Just speak your mind loud enough for others to hear.

isthisforeal · 2013-01-22T02:51:35+00:00

Go out and do things, especially things out of your comfort level you will end up with some killer stories. Steal some reddit stories there is a ton and unless the girl is an avid redditor no harm. BTW Today I learned also never hurts if you want some random bullshit knowledge.

leodoestheopposite · 2013-01-22T03:08:19+00:00

Turn the question around: How can I have fun in an active way as in not being a spectator.

BarelyIntelligible · 2013-01-22T03:55:19+00:00

Well some nights when you have some spare time, go for some drives, all alone or with friends, and impulsively do new things you see whether you're out on the town or under the stars. This will carry on over into your overall personality and make you actually a more fun person.

It isn't going to be some instant gratification thing, so if this way of living isn't all alright with you, maybe being fun isn't what you should capitalize. But hey, we are young and we've got time to figure out our own strategies. Just do your thing and if you get in a slump, just remember that it gets better.

Why am I the one telling you this? Only you know how to be you!

charliedouglas123 · 2013-01-22T12:59:27+00:00

I think you're going out with the wrong mindset. Your goal is to have a good time on the date, not to get her into bed.

Let one thing lead onto the other.

Title	How can I learn to be fun?
Author	anonymous_troll
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	January 21, 2013 11:23 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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