How can I make my girlfriend orgasm?

axe122 · 2020-01-29T22:01:09+00:00

I wrote this initially for a girl who was asking about the same thing. So just convert your and you the she’s and her.

Try this, if your watching porn and or using a vibrator stop, real sex won’t have the same visual stimulation and his dick don’t vibrate.

Practice playing with yourself with just your hands and your imagination. Once your cumming from that practice cumming with him in the room. Have him talk dirty to you and suck your tits while feeling his hands on your body. He’s gonna have to be very patient and tho is better to try after he’s already cum and this is just for you even if it takes an hour. Once you start cumming with him in the room playing with yourself have him stick his fingers in you when your getting close. Then after you cum a few times from that have suck his dick while you play with yourself so he’s rock hard before your reach orgasm when your getting close he’s gonna stick his dick in you and get you used to cumming with his dick inside. While this is going on over the course of a few weeks of your sexual encounters at home practice playing with yourself doggystyle and cumming with your clit alone bent over. have him finger you while you play with yourself the whole time until you cum then you will play with yourself while he’s fucking you doggystyle until you cum. After a while you’ll remove the hand and just start having internal orgasms. You can switch it up and cum sometimes from both hands and penetration or just penetration.

I’ve made 7 girls who swore to me that they don’t cum from sex and can’t with this. The whole process takes about 3 months. If this doesn’t work the problem is most likely you want to be dominated and you boyfriend is kinda having more sweet romcom sex. Sex is like 90% mental, I get inside the girls head and find out shit she likes and brig them Fantasies to life after a month or two the reason I wait is if you tell him how to dominate you then your still in control and that’s not what most girls get off to. You wanna feel safe knowing somewhere he’ll stop but be excited cuz you have no clue where he’s going with it.

Have him make up super dirty scenarios and walk you through his sexual fantasies while you close your eyes and master bate, chances are you have very similar fantasies and or will share new ones. Also don’t fake orgasms anymore cuz he won’t know he has to make adjustments. That’s a rule I set on the 3rd time we’ve had sex and I know I’m gonna continue fucking her. I can’t fix something if I don’t know it’s not working. Another thing I do is make sure she announces when she’s getting close and the reason is if I’m getting tired or wanna change positions/ shift a little and she’s on the edge of orgasm I could fight through the fatigue for another minute or two to get her there but if I don’t know she’s about to cum and stop it’s like starting the whole process over again.

Chances are you need him to step up his dominance and take charge in the bedroom. You probably want him to tell you what to do instead of asking. Your best bet is to just be totally real with him and explain this to him after sex, your not doing him or your relationship any favors by pretending your enjoying more than you are. Don’t diminish his confidence but don’t give him a false sense of security either and build him up by telling him how much he’s pleasing you if he is. Tell him how you want to be more dominated and or whatever kinda sex you wanna have, give him some examples and from there he’s gonna have to just figure it out. You can’t tell him everything you want him to do to you or it won’t have the same effect as if it just happens. You can’t be dominated if your the one in control in the driver seat. It sounds like you wanna have that intense porno sex with verbal commands and having your arms pinned, hair pulled, spanked maybe light chocking but if that’s what gets you off in porn and the sex your having is like awkward romantic romcom sex you won’t get off from it if your not already. The best thing he can really do is give you a little of both and switch it up. So you get your world rocked for a while and then it’s soft and passionate. This keeps you on your toes and makes the rough sex stand out more than if it was just all rough all the time. Good luck

BreakingFathom · 2020-01-29T21:37:31+00:00

Research research research. Women are all different so there isn't a silver bullet technique. Three biggest thing is communication. She needs to learn what feels good vs better vs bad vs absolutely no. She also needs to communicate that information to you either before during or after. It may seem awkward at first but once you all get there you both will be quicker and better at communicating the information. On the same token when you're doing whatever you're doing to her paying attention to get her body language is extremely important. Her physiology will change her reactions will change depending on how it feels. Verbal ques from her helps you pinpoint these easier. A lot of things boil down to environment first. If she's not into it or not comfortable it can literally be impossible to achieve orgasm. I tell people I practice escalation of force, meaning starting slow and easy, pay attention to the entire area, don't fixate to early on the clitoris. Not saying you can't with some women but there's nothing wrong with slowly ramping up with everyone, especially in the beginning. Then as she gets more turned on there's more blood flow down there and if you're intentive you can feel the difference and that's when you really need to pay attention to what feels good vs okay. Once you hit the right spot with the right speed and pressure do not change anything at all or at least as little as possible. It's trial and error but if you want to you can learn to give just about any willing participant an orgasm. Good luck.

canseiDeSerEnganado · 2020-01-29T21:28:38+00:00

It is very rare to women to have orgasm only with penetration. Try masturbating her during sex

beingaboi · 2020-01-29T21:30:45+00:00

david deida - way of the superior man.

appmanga · 2020-01-29T22:32:47+00:00

My usual answer is "I can show you, but you won't like it". Setting aside the snark, your girlfriend is the person best equipped (no pun intended) to tell you what works for her. Ask her what feels good. What does she like? What would she like you to do more of? We men often don't ask, we just assume and take on the responsibility as if it's solely ours.

You can also bring a small vibrator into your activities.

Good luck.

071319 · 2020-02-01T13:43:34+00:00

More foreplay, kissing her on her neck, caressing her, whisper endearing thngs, touch her face, caress her breast, nibble on her ear, go super slow.

john18809 · 2020-01-29T21:28:41+00:00

Wrong sub. Also, I know you really just wrote this to brag.

Title	How can I make my girlfriend orgasm?
Author	thespirituallyawoken
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Comments	9
Date	January 29, 2020 9:20 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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