How do I approach women without seeming needy?

HOOF_HEARTED91 · 2019-08-18T22:50:44+00:00

The act of approaching is definitely not an act of need. There's a difference between need and want. And to answer your question, do it confidently with the mindset of whatever the outcome, you'll be fine.

paulvario11 · 2019-08-18T22:59:20+00:00

I think that if a woman or a girl gives you hint that she is into you like looking at you and smiling etc (not talking about cashiers and stuff...) if you approach her its more confidence than neediness.

You can be flirty better than direct words .be yourself be confident be a man

cheers

intelectualycurious · 2019-08-19T00:55:39+00:00

Approaching women should not be the result of a need. It should come from a curiosity frame where you're looking to 'discover' whether she's a good fit or not. My thought process typically going along the lines of: "Hmm.. that's a really attractive girl, I wonder what she's about - let me go approach."

mandoa_sky · 2019-08-19T06:44:49+00:00

look to make a friend, not a date.

LearnedCountryman · 2019-08-19T15:26:37+00:00

Don't be attached to any outcome, especially being rejected. Be direct and do not be creepy or make the woman feel unsafe. If you're approaching because you think she attractive then say that: "Hi I know this is completely random but I thought you're pretty and wanted to meet you". Yes, women will reject you and some will do it harshly, but you'd be surprised about how pleasant most of them will be.

I also think that you don't want to "appear" non-needy, women see right through that. You want to BE non-needy. Neediness is when you value what other people think of you, platonic or romantic, more than what you think of yourself. At the end of the day, it's not about what the woman says or what she thinks about you, it's about you taking action, making a move, and what you think about yourself. It's "She might think I'm a creep and reject me" VS. "I took action. Not a lot of guys would, and I'm proud of myself"

smorrow · 2019-08-19T08:44:39+00:00

Git gud at sex or something, then you view yourself as doing her a favour by approaching her. The opposite of needy.

iforgotmywutangname · 2019-08-18T22:49:20+00:00

wait for them to approach you

women have needs and desires too. be available to fulfil them, and they will come to you
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profit

(caution: at first only needy women will come to you. maintain your expectations)

Title	How do I approach women without seeming needy?
Author	TaeKwonPiccolo
Upvotes	6
Comments	15
Date	August 18, 2019 10:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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