How do I avoid butthurt when I see unnatractive men with girlfriends?

porn-chicken · 2019-07-21T17:33:52+00:00

Live and let live. You hurt absolutely nobody but yourself holding onto bitterness like that.

You compare yourself to others and come to the conclusion that because one dude gets female attention and you don't, he must be somehow better than you.

Seriously, there's so much wrong with that mentality.

One, women don't make you valuable. They are not the arbiters of man's worth.

Two, you are biased by your mental state. No judgement of your self-worth is accurate when you are in a depressed state.

Three, intrinsic self-worth should not be based on external factors. You need to move this inward.

discohumpty · 2019-07-21T15:15:36+00:00

You've become aware you have the wrong mentality which is a good start. You need some inner work to do. Not sure where to say where to start but bottom of the line you can't let outside forces determine your internal state like that.

Next time this comes up, observe the dude and try to see why he has this girl. He's obviously doing something right. Is he dominant, is he funny, is he well built/good jawline, intelligent, maintains a good frame etc. Try to understand why he has the chick and what it is that you're lacking.

TommyFury_Hater · 2019-07-21T14:57:15+00:00

Lol this spergy outlook is part of the reason you can't get a girl. Sort yourself out retard

bigflagellum · 2019-07-24T04:43:51+00:00

I mean I feel like that’s inspirational and motivating. I hate seeing good looking men with ugly gfs cuz then it’s like fuck is that what being that good looking gets you in this city

sagehippieone · 2019-07-22T01:47:28+00:00

My dear hubby is 6"1 380lbs and I am a tiny 5"4 125lbs. We get a Lot of people remarking about our being together. Mostly it's individually... men will say to him, "man, how'd you land That!?!?", and I've had women 'sweetly' say to me after meeting my husband, "I didn't expect that... I thought you'd be with someone different than that." one woman even tried to stress to me how "good lookin'" he is, because she was looking for something to compliment about him when they met (not necessary but for some reason she felt it necessary )

After being together for 19 years we are now 35 and 38) this has become the common party line, so much so that around jealous men like you, he will beat you to the punch and go on about how he doesn't know why I'm with him but that he's the luckiest man on earth.

Here's the thing... when we met, I was a 105lbs 16 year old brainiac and he was a 240lbs football player. The spark was instant and we've been crazy about each other ever since. Now married with children (13 and 16), life has taken its toll on us. I got lucky with a great metabolism and lost the baby weight, while he has gained a lot of stress weight, while working his butt off to provide for us. He is handsome as hell. He treats me like a goddess and I spoil him in turn. We still adore each other very much, so much so that we are that couple that everyone hates to be around because we're so darn sweet together, and our sex life continues to get better with age! ;-)

According to your rant, we would qualify as the couple that you are butthurt over lol when you pass us. To avoid these butthurt feelings, try to remember that not every couple can be taken at face value. With my hubby and I, we have a history and have been in love for years. Just because he has gained weight doesn't make me any less attracted to him and I certainly don't love him any less. Another guy you see that looks less than average might have a lot of money and his gf likes that about him. Maybe another woman had to kiss a bunch of frogs before finding a prince who will treat her like a queen rather than a porn star, and his weight didn't matter to her. So try to keep in mind that they all have their own story. I know it's difficult to see something like that though when you're feeling lonely and don't think yoi deserve to be lonely, but keep your head up and keep trying. You only fail once you've quit, so as long as you're still trying, you haven't failed yet.

Title	How do I avoid butthurt when I see unnatractive men with girlfriends?
Author	itsover4000
Upvotes	8
Comments	12
Date	July 21, 2019 2:55 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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