How do I enjoy interactions more?

psyocal · 2014-06-25T00:53:32+00:00

I stopped reading at the part where you mentioned looking forward to ending the conversation. I figured that was your problem. The reason you don't enjoy the interaction is because deep down you don't believe that you're worthy of their time. I say their and not her because I am assuming this problem has consumed other parts of your life. It's a self worth & confidence issue. The good news is that you can overcome it. The bad news is that it will take time and effort, and you will constantly be challenged by your worse nightmare...the little voice in your head.

Write down this phrase every day, "My name is [your name], and I am the man. I'm a champ, and I'm fucken awesome."

Read it the first thing in the morning and at night before you get to bed.

It seems stupid and pointless now, but do it for 30 days and you'll begin to believe it. Another 30 after that and you'll live it. Another 30 and you'll be a new man.

jonathan11_1 · 2014-06-24T19:27:24+00:00

The way I see it. It you can enjoy a conversation with a guy, you can do it with a girl too. Just act like you're talking to the guy the whole time. Don't treat a girl any differently than you would a bro.

baguette180 · 2014-06-24T20:15:36+00:00

Im not big on NoFap but 'id give it a try if I was you. or try and cut back, or try and watch less intense porn or something. and take vitamins. When i watch way to mush porn or dont take care of my self I feel kinda numb towards women. like ill be like "ohh she is quite aesthetically pleasing but don't FEEL attraction towards her." but if iv keped porn things reasonable ill FEEL good talking to her and (in that state) ill also feel excited because really great times may ensue.

sharkacolypse · 2014-06-24T23:45:40+00:00

Try to relax during a conversation - you may not be able to at first, but that just means you have to get used to talking to people. Which means talking to people a lot. After every conversation you have, instead of focusing on what you could have messed up, try to remember things in the conversation that were interesting or that you otherwise liked. This will help you recall conversations in a positive way, which will make them seem more enjoyable.

highhopes01 · 2014-06-25T08:54:20+00:00

To enjoy socialization and interactions more, change your attitude.

Be more positive. Do not fear rejection. Being turned away should not be view as rejection, but more so as a learning experience for you to develop yourself.

From the information you've given us, the problem lies in you. You said you felt better after the interaction is over since you can't fuck it up anymore. Your attitude is based on limiting yourself. When your taking a test that you've studied your ass off for, how do you feel taking it? Confident because you've prepared for it, you know almost all of the answers. View pickup as that test you've studied intensively for, instead of a test you did a cram session for.

Your outlook and attitude will hold you back more than anything, and it seems to be holding you back.

sedditforthewin · 2014-06-25T13:10:48+00:00

How many girls do you interact with in a night? How much of the night are you talking to a girl? Did you enjoy interacting with women that you 'had success' with?

Title	How do I enjoy interactions more?
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Date	June 24, 2014 7:07 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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