How do I man up and grow a pair?

STD_Tyler · 2021-01-29T09:33:07+00:00

Listen my brother, even if a chick spreads her legs to you and took off her panties, you still won't be able to do it. It is almost impossible. But there is one solution to that.

It is not to man up or grow a pair. Like the bros tell you here. They don't even do what they say.

You have to cultivate a social momentum. You keep approaching strangers for 1-2 months straight. So when a girl checks you out...she is just one of these girls you approach regularly.

Don't blame yourself at these situations you talk about, but blame yourself if you don't make a plan to be consistent with cold approach.

FarahKhan62 · 2021-01-29T10:44:08+00:00

You have to get primitive about it. Dumb yourself down. This is hard for overthinking intellectuals, but the only way to combat a whirlwind of thoughts is by taking action.

You see hot girl > you approach. It does suck getting rejected but what if you don’t approach at all? You will just beat yourself up more for being a wimp. I used to be like this. How I beat my low self esteem and overthinking tendencies was by jumping right in the deep end and just doing it.

The first approaches you do are always going to be awkward because you have no idea what the fuck you are actually doing. You can read all the pick up theory in the world but putting it into practice is its own story. You just have to keep doing it. Eventually you will become at ease around females the more you interact with them. At this point it’s not even about seduction it turns more into a ‘manhood/pride matter.

And do things that will improve your self esteem. Groom yourself. Go to the gym. Tell yourself you are the man everyday. Mould yourself into what you want to be, not what anybody else wants you to be. Try to avoid it to the point of arrogance/sense of superiority but if you become like that then whatever. This will help you around women.

Therocksays2020 · 2021-01-29T04:35:15+00:00

I hate to say it but you grow a pair by growing a pair. You just have to do it. Now the one thing you said is you over think things so that means you need to stop thinking about the results and focus on the progress.

The gym is not a good place to pickup women. It’s usually a really bad male to female ratio and while some people have success most women don’t want to be hit on while they’re in the gym. They go to the gym so they can be hit on in their everyday lives once they can put on makeup. Look nice and all of that.

mlpbrandon1 · 2021-01-29T04:45:57+00:00

Think of it this way, do you want to become that guy that said I did it or do you want to sit on the sideline and wonder what could have been. Your choice dude

socozyinhere · 2021-01-29T05:03:33+00:00

Try holding eye contact with them. Notice when they are noticing you. I've walked past more than one opportunity when a woman has been checking me out, but I've just blanked or retreated. It's a mental thing. I habitually retreat from eye contact because it exposes vulnerability. I've noticed that people who are secure in themselves can hold eye contact. Those who aren't look down or avert eye contact because of feelings of shame. I have feelings of shame and had to work to over come them. Now holding eye contact is easier but it's not because I forced it, it's because I believe I am worthy and not shameful.

Advice to grow a pair and just do it is superficial. It doesn't address the core issue. You are insecure about approaching because of your shameful perception of yourself. Once that goes, approaching becomes much easier. If you follow the advice to 'grow a pair and just do it' you run the risk of falling into the trap of autopiloting and running a script and acting like a robot. You'll do 1000 approaches but won't learn.

MasterTeacher123 · 2021-01-29T11:23:00+00:00

For most men it gets to a point where they’re tired of jerking off anymore and that’s when they grow balls

Ryangard8 · 2021-01-29T05:27:19+00:00

You just keep doing it. Keep pumping yourself up. Try to attempt everyday you have to do so to overcome this fear.

Title	How do I man up and grow a pair?
Author	xNUCLEARxBACONx
Upvotes	9
Comments	13
Date	January 29, 2021 4:27 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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