How do I start conversation...

ChemicallyCastrated · 2012-02-10T08:12:32+00:00

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willdone · 2012-02-10T18:35:19+00:00

It's all about letting go of the outcome, and also not letting your mind sabotage you.

Here's what you need to do: next time you see a girl that you're interested in, IMMEDIATELY go and talk to her. Heck, to make it easier, do this to anyone you think might be interesting. Don't let the oneitis and the neuroticism have time to get to you.

Something I read on here might help. When you're about to approach a girl, think to yourself, I'm going to go get rejected now. If you do, okay, whatever, no problem, you were expecting that, onto the next one. If you don't get rejected, WONDERFUL, you did better than you thought you would.

2012-02-10T19:43:33+00:00

Take a day where you go out and people watch, and think of things you could talk about or comment on. Don't judge your ideas as good or bad or "can't work" just yet, just get good at mentally spawning things to talk about, and then imagine how you could open with those.

Just for the record "Just go up and introduce yourself" can work just fine, it's just not my favorite open.

swamy_g · 2012-02-10T23:50:28+00:00

Start by listening to how two people talk. At work, your campus, on the bus, in the bar. Listen to what a normal conversation looks like. Most people ask yes/no questions, state a fact or make a joke now and then. This is going to be the bare minimum needed. And once you start the momentum going, everyday is going to be an improvement.

sukka113 · 2012-02-10T07:37:50+00:00

Just walk up to a girl and say 'hi I'm... (insert name)' and smile. Truth be told, it doesn't matter what you say cause you can make a conversation out of just about anything.

B-Cera · 2012-02-11T02:08:48+00:00

I am also a shy person as well. My game plan after the approach is usually to find something to talk about that she enjoys, so ask a few questions about herself. Another thing that works is talking about something that you enjoy to do and that maybe she will find interest in. Thats all I got.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2012-02-13T17:22:08+00:00

In my opinion you can say whatever you want to follow the introduction, but if they don't want to talk they just won't. If you want to keep fighting the uphill battle though, you'd better have a lot of material to follow up with and be ready for it to go nowhere.

For example, I was at a party last night with a bonfire and there was an HB9 sitting around chatting with some female friends. I walked up to them and just said "So, who are you guys? I'm Derp." and she got a surprised look on her face as if she knows zero confident people and said "Wow, I like how you did that. Just, came right out with it didn't you? I'm Derpina." I followed with "Well when you want to meet someone it doesn't get much simpler than that, now does it?" to which she smiled and agreed. From there she made no effort and eventually introduced me to her boyfriend (I already knew she had one) so I bailed. The point is, even the approach itself was a topic of conversation. From there it's all about how much of a challenge you are up to. It's like any situation really, if you have a major task to handle you should probably prepare for it. Creating a mini relationship with someone right off the bat takes a bit of skill (or good fortune), so make sure you have the right tools at your disposal.

Title	How do I start conversation...
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Date	February 10, 2012 7:36 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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