How do i stop being nice without being freaking cocky and a douche??

Murfdigidy · 2018-11-22T13:56:20+00:00

First by stop trying so hard. Meeting new people is no different than meeting other people you do know, only difference is you don't know them yet so stop putting a future outcome on them without getting to know them first.

The easiest yet hardest part of the game is going into meeting new girls, by being no different than you normally are.... NO YOU DON'T NEED TO BE SUPER SMOOTH, SUPER FUNNY, OR SUPER STUDLY. so stop trying to be, those are the guys that fail, girls are so used to guys coming up to them acting like a fool or trying to do some gimmick.

Now there are things you can do to elevate your personality, flirting techniques and openers that makes it easier to talk to a girl or group of girls but stop trying so hard. They'll he hit and misses and many things in between, stop putting so much pressure on every meeting. The less you do the more you'll do it and the more you'll realize there are cool girls, snobby girls, nerdy girls, lame girls, boring girls and everything in between. The more you do it the more you learn to continue talking to the ones that fit your personality.

Read the sidebar and get tips on flirting and openers.

DeathRebirth · 2018-11-22T17:58:43+00:00

Learn to acclimate to the moods and personalities around you. You can Crack jokes about other people without problem if you measure when, with whom, and how much.

If you have nothing to talk about listen. Actually listen. Not to yourself who is probably cringingly trying to figurre out how to respond in order to be as funny as possible. Instead when you have something to say, say it. Say as a statement with room for the other person(s) to engage and expand.

And sometimes you will be in a situation where you truly have nothing to say. That either means you have something to learn about (so shut up and listen) or its something that legitimately doesn't interest you. Maybe you should be somewhere else.

Vast_Path · 2018-11-22T18:47:48+00:00

You really never want to make jokes at other people’s expense, especially in group settings. That being said flirting is a whole different matter because you’re supposed to tease. I think the difference has to come with your body language and your intentions

youcheekydelinquent · 2018-11-22T12:54:18+00:00

Be good, not nice. Nice to me feels like you're trying to win people's affection by playing nice and it's annoying. I mean be an ethical person who respects other peoples boundaries and your own. If you want to talk to a girl, ask her out, do it because you want to. Good luck dude.

2018-11-22T23:10:44+00:00

It's okay to be cocky. And it is okay to be an asshole when people step over ur boundries.

Title	How do i stop being nice without being freaking cocky and a douche??
Author	bawan15
Upvotes	12
Comments	6
Date	November 22, 2018 8:48 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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