How do i stop this boot licking ass licking seeking approval? How do i stop pleasing others? How to not give a fuck amymore?

brotein_synthesis · 2018-12-28T20:01:22+00:00

You sound like a downer, bro. I think I used to be you at some point but I'm not gonna speculate as to why rn. That book recommendation below is pretty spot on. You need to internalize that being assertive, strong-willed and even mean when necessary is key and people will like you more for it, ironically. What does that mean in concrete terms? Probably sounds corny to you rn, but benching at least 100kg and becoming utterly obsessed with your appearance e.g, BF% and selfish needs. Best of luck. Report back if you feel like it. Just don't whine, it's the verbal equivalent of a limp dick at -10 Celsius.

gamersworld2701 · 2018-12-28T18:43:52+00:00

No More Mr. Nice Guy and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck are books you should check out,i think they can be very helpful for you.

WillyWonka321 · 2018-12-29T08:27:26+00:00

Right here's what to do. 1. Find a gym. And on your way there buy some creatine.You are lacking a very vital hormone in your system called testosterone .It's a man's hormone. You need it. It will clear your head. Being a man isn't toxic as society wants you to believe. Being a man is a role that you just haven't been taught how to play.

We are taught to get in touch with our feminine side but guess what. You are not female. You are male. It's time to act as such.

Do you like men. Would you like to sleep with a man, breathing down your neck. If you are straight then I guess your answer would be no. Same thing goes for women, straight that is. Women are hardwired to look for MEN. Not boys not children. MEN. What does that mean for you.

You have one foot in the feminine world and the other in the masculine world. What do I mean by that. You want the rewards of being a man (respect, attention, adoration, love) but you act like a woman. Sorry to burst your bubble but being a man means blood sweat and tears. Only after this will you gain any rewards in life.

Women on the other hand are rewarded for being (Like you said what you were trying to do) sympathetic, needy, weak. You don't need to look far. Look at the meetoo movement. A movement derived from victimhood. Same thing goes for feminism. It works for women. Not for men.

We live in a harsh world where people kill each other for resources. Seriously man. You need to start fighting or you will get nothing. Women are absolved from all that. Not you. You don't have such a privilege. But here's the thing. MEN DO. WOMEN TALK.

So stop trying to gain value by talking and start doing. Women talk better than men. That's their portion in this existence we call life. You will never out talk a women. By age 5 girls have already talked 10 times more than their male peers. They know what buttons to push to make you feel like a king and make you feel like crap. BUT when it comes to accomplishment? Zilch, Nadda. Nothing. They talk their way through life cause that's how they survive.

You on the other hand will be wanted because of what you DO NOT SAY.

1.So lift more and clear your head. It'll make you less depressed and happier. TESTOSTERONE is a God given hormone you produce everyday and you need to take advantage of.

Spend less time with other people and talking to them and more time working on yourself. Gym, study, hobbies.
Spend less time flapping. After a session your body is filled with oxytocin which depletes your testosterone reserves. You feel drained and less motivated. If you must fap do it before you sleep. That way you wake up fresh and energizer.
Find something you are good at and pursue it obsessively. That's how billionAires are made.thats how people will ask about you. Be more interested in you because of your results.
Learn to lead a conversation. Remember being a good conversationalist is about listening not talking. Ask more questions. Listen more. With the info you are given go deeper by asking more questions. Put the spotlight on them. Less on you. Women love to run their mouth about themselves. And it adds more mystery about yourself. Women love mystery. Don't be an open book. Don't spew verbal diarrhoea. Leave her with more questions about yourself than answers. Thats what love is with women. Thinking about you because they have questions they want to know. They go crazy trying to pick and tear apart trying to find answers. The moment you become an open book the more of a bore you are and the love is gone. Once you use this approach you find conversations can last for hours.
Finally love yourself.Yep the world doesn't care but start with yourself.

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-12-28T20:06:49+00:00

Learn how to say "No" that simple phrase has the power to change ones life.

Onein1024th · 2019-06-05T00:05:12+00:00

Read two books:

No More Me Nice Guy

And

When I Say No I Feel Guilty

Renegader933 · 2018-12-28T19:08:04+00:00

You may also need therapy. Thinking “no one cares about me or likes me” is killing your confidence, and it’s probably not even true.

NickFromThe6 · 2018-12-28T18:34:49+00:00

Do the opposite of what you always do. This is a small example that went a long way for me. I used to kiss ass to girls a lot. One time at work, I was talking to one of the hostesses who I found attractive. She would always text me “come talk to me when you get time/when restaurant slows down”. And of course I would always go. Then, at some point I noticed I was doing it too much. So she texted me, I didn’t respond right away, gave it 15 minutes and said “nah you should come here instead.” She didn’t, so I stopped wasting my time. Since then I stopped being a bitch to girls and I learnt how to take some control.

Renegader933 · 2018-12-28T19:06:37+00:00

You focus on improving yourself. Then you won’t need approval from others. That’s what I did.

Title	How do i stop this boot licking ass licking seeking approval? How do i stop pleasing others? How to not give a fuck amymore?
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Date	December 28, 2018 5:59 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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