How do I stop sabotaging myself?

Report_Topside · 2019-07-29T09:40:27+00:00

You have actually already taken a major step in realising that you are the sole reason that things aren't working out right now. Your question acknowledges that you are sabotaging yourself and putting yourself in these positions so this is a very good first step.

Everything boils down to confidence. Not arrogance. Not aggressiveness. Not smooth talking. Not smooth dancing. Confidence above all else.

How do you get confidence?? How do you stop speaking quietly or become withdrawn? There are many ways to achieve this but first of all put yourself in the shoes of someone else. Man, woman, nanna, your grandpa, the local butcher. It doesn't matter. Look at yourself and ask yourself, am I a man who people would want to be around? Would someone else be drawn to me? Am I man that is 'attractive'. Attraction is both physical and non-physical and the non-physical is much more important.

Think of any movie star in Hollywood. Think of any action hero. What qualities do they display? Confidence. You don't have to be a gun slinging, martini sipping International spy, but people are attracted to confident men. It is as simple as that. We are animals after all. Leaders are leaders for a reason and the best men inspire others to better themselves alongside them.

ChrisHarles · 2019-07-29T13:36:18+00:00

I think anxiety is what's causing the stuttering and such. I have it too, and in my experience my body just tenses up involuntarily. It's like a subconscious reaction.

I'm gonna give you a tip that's quite unorthodox but it helps me a lot if I do it right.

Start taking deep breaths through your belly/diaphragm. Like 6 seconds in, 6 seconds out. This will trick your body to calm itself subconsciously and it can be very powerful if you really go for it.

Ideally you'll want to breathe like this 24/7 and you'll subconsciously become a more relaxed and confident person.

Confidence really is at the base of everything though, I 100% agree with the other comment; it's way more important than a breathing technique, however the breathing technique is a nifty tool to have in order to help reach that confidence.

Title	How do I stop sabotaging myself?
Author	st0nervirginsunit3
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	July 29, 2019 5:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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