How do you find your total social confidence?

yayareaballer · 2013-12-09T21:03:16+00:00

I share a lot of your experience

I do sales for a living, and am generally very social. I should have no anxiety, and yet, I do

If you're like me it's probably because you're simply not used to talking to hit girls with the intent of hitting on them. I never did in high school and rarely even in college (I usually had girlfriends). So this is a sticking point for me

What has helped me so far is to say to myself, "I'm not hitting on this girl. I'm just meeting someone new and seeing where it goes." This is commonly referred to as outcome independence but repeating it to myself as I approach helps a lot

snwborder52 · 2013-12-09T23:12:20+00:00

1) Meditation

2) Learning to act in spite of any discomfort.

HappyJerk · 2013-12-09T20:06:39+00:00

You can't base your social interactions on how you feel. You need to act rationally. Imagine being in a relationship and you can only give your best 10% of the time - that would suck.

porkeatmatt · 2013-12-09T23:08:42+00:00

Accept the fact that you're anxious alot and choose to not act upon it. It's a skill you can build. This is a part of mindfulness (you can find a lot of good stuff about this on the webs)

Title	How do you find your total social confidence?
Author	mr_anboto
Upvotes	14
Comments	8
Date	December 9, 2013 7:01 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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