How do you flirt?

bananalightning · 2020-09-22T20:06:36+00:00

I’ve always found flirting itself was very easy. The first main thing I focus on is eye contact. With a friend you might have your eyes darting all over ect, however when hitting on a girl stare deep into her eyes and don’t break it, occasionally stare at her lips, and once in a while check her out (not in a predatórial way) but enough for her to tell you’re into her.

Next up is body language. With women it’s always going to be a bit of figuring it out as you go but typically just lean back. Don’t get too close or touchy from the jump it’ll scare her. You’re best off viewing her like a cat. You wanna just sit back until they start giving signs you can get closer. Throw in occasional touches in nonawkward ways. Eventually if you’re really vibing with her you can gently trace on her back or arm.

Lastly is what you’re actually going to be saying when flirting. You don’t wanna act like she’s the best thing to ever happen. Be confident in yourself and feel confident teasing her and poking fun. Obviously don’t be a dickhead and the line will vary between girls so try and figure out her sense of humor. Ask her plenty of questions and seem interested. Subtly hint at sexual things. For instance I was talking with a girl about going to the frat houses and she said her favorite part of it was dancing. I jokingly said “mmhmm I’m sure it’s the dancing that you enjoy...” to subtly imply that more goes on than dancing. Then followed it up with “I’ll have to see those moves sometime” to bring it back to me.

Bottom line is be confident so that you aren’t afraid to just say what you feel. Make sure to be funny and playful. Don’t take things too seriously and you’ll be fine.

princexdream · 2020-09-22T21:24:21+00:00

What ever you do DONT ASK FOR SEX, OR NUDES

clhawks · 2020-09-22T16:39:41+00:00

Innuendo, touching, eye contact, smiling, maybe some teasing. That's about it.

4get_it · 2020-09-22T21:34:28+00:00

I find looking at people with this 'I know something you dont know look' when teasing is really fun and flirty!

SciBoron · 2020-09-23T00:02:52+00:00

flirt /flərt/ : verb : (of a bird) wave or open and shut (its wings or tail) with a quick flicking motion. move back and forth with a flicking or fluttering motion. "the lark was flirting around the site"

Oh wait... you’re human

flirt /flərt/ : verb : (Of a Human) behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions.

Flirting takes time, practice, trial and error, experience and embarrassment. Unreceptive flirting should be halted as soon as detected to avoid the later. In middle school, an early attempt at flirting with the girl behind me in class resulted in an embarrassing moment after she shut down my game of “throw the paper ball down her shirt”. Excellent example of too much too soon too quick too stupid.

Flirting should be accomplished in a multi vector approach: sight, speech, some physical contact. It should be subtle, suggestive, subconsciously sexually stimulating. There is lots of great material online with a simple good search.

Great way to analyze their interest include looking at them longer than a glance, shorter than soul piercing stare. (Works best across the room) Let them break eye contact first, keep eye contact, if they look back within a second or two and check if you’re still looking this can be a good sign especially if the begin to smile. Immediately you know flirting will be receptive.

Verbal flirting is going to be the most challenging in my opinion. Just due to the level of variation to situations that can occur. In general though, light teasing can work well. (Ex. ask their age and guess a much younger or older age, should I tell the bartender? Or would you like a walker for your birthday? respectively. That example should not be a flirting starter comment. When in doubt where to begin say something that will make her giggle. Laughter is always a safe bet. Again google is your friend.

Kinetic flirting should generally be followed only after sight and verbal flirting have already happened. Examples such as touching her hair, gently grazing your hand across the small of her back, and if you can land it gently massaging the back of her neck. This is a magic spot. If they’re receptive, you’ve reached guru level mastery Daniel-son!

Bottom line though, you must practice. Project confidence and you’ll have a great start.

TL;DR - Google search how to flirt

Edit: spelling

thahotboyingrey · 2020-09-22T17:44:41+00:00

I don't lol. Back then I would use misintepretations, future projections, yada yada... but I've been trying to minimize my energy Investment in an interaction. So as my emotional Investment. So If it doesn't come naturally or If I don't wanna say it I won't. Sometimes I just shut the fuck Up, say nothing and give her the bedroom eyes untill She says “what?" trying to defuse tension lol.

Laser eye contact, proximity, relaxed voice, statements, touching her And stating what I want From her. And moving forward or Backwards in the interaction depending on how much sexual tension she can handle. Feeling relaxed And confortable in my own skin And then feeling horny lol. That's basically the bare Minimum.

uberhombre22 · 2020-09-22T20:24:05+00:00

Emotional influence through sounds and imagery. Best way I could describe it. Other principles I created and follow is consistency, comical absurdity and connecting ideas. It’s all a language game.

This0neTime23 · 2020-09-23T01:03:13+00:00

Whatever you do, don't touch her too soon. Unwanted early contact makes her super unreceptive to you when you might have been able to get there in just a few more steps had you waited. It's a game of constantly testing the waters, you need to be a little edgy but respectful. And I don't agree with laser like eye contact, too intense unless you know she's into you and you want to let her know you're thinking about more with her than just talking. Lingering eye contact yes, because it shows interest and focus being given. Women want your attention but not your lust upfront. Flirting is more about behaviors than the words you use, so mischievous eyes, look always with a twinkle in the eyes and a grin are all welcome. Lean kind of in on her but not too much, and some light strutting your stuff is great. The key is monitoring intensity, you generally are offering a sneak peak/light taste. If you give off predator vibes it's over. Act in way that suits you ultimately, some guys are more grand and more dominant, other guys light and playful. Don't get hung up on being anyone's type, you want someone coming back for more of you not more of this character you're playing

LilCheddah · 2020-09-22T17:10:46+00:00

Commenting to follow up of this

boujeebadassbitch · 2020-09-24T01:28:16+00:00

Stick to what you’re good at. Don’t flirt. Find something else to bridge the gap between you and the opposite sex.

Maybe you’re more opportunistic and wouldn’t count making a witty remark to a woman at the laundromat flirting? It still is.

That_Chocolate_Bar · 2020-09-22T19:33:10+00:00

The way I got to flirt with my girlfriend in the beginning and still do is just feel around (not physically) to find out what her little turn ons are or what makes her all giggly and cute. Seeing who their friends are and how they act can give you a good idea of who they vibe with

DavidCameronEtonLad · 2020-09-23T22:16:07+00:00

flirting should be a game from both of you. teasing acting suprised by her statements, relaxed body language, being confident to enough to come across as arrogant but also to play off self-depreciating humour. Eye contact is important, breaking the touch barrier too. For example I normally wear a silver bracelet or soomething and girls almost always end up playing with it and boom we're both more relaxed with each other. Flirting should be fun not a science

NDex101 · 2020-09-22T23:52:47+00:00

Flirting is fun and a part of seduction. I teach it last because often time people are naturals. I believe seduction requires other skills than flirting and if done correctly, will almost always lead to sex. If you need help learning the ways of pickup, consider me for you life-coach. Dm me for my business info.

Title	How do you flirt?
Author	bluerocketo
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Date	September 22, 2020 3:59 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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