How do you keep from getting upset/bitter about failures in game?

drdavidbanner20 · 2019-11-18T04:14:03+00:00

and I've done a few approaches, but I still don't have the social life I want.

You're going to have to do more than a few. Guys who do well with women have approached (whether that be IRL, online, social circle, etc.) THOUSANDS of women. It's okay to start small, but you must be increasing this number over time. One per week is going to to take you ages to see any real difference in how you act with women.

but it can be demoralizing to be ghosted after a seemingly okay approach.

You'll get used to it. What happens is that over time you'll start taking it less and less personally. You'll accept it as part of the process of bringing women into your life.

Note: a good technique to incorporate is to count how many approaches you do, and how many of those turn into dates/sex/a relationship. The reason this is a good idea is because once you have that number (let's say your average is 57 approaches lead to sex), then you know you just have to approach 57 women and you'll get laid. This will give you the motivation to burn through those 57 approaches as quickly as possible so that you can get to the fun stuff.

What do I need to do to improve?

Increase your volume. Next week, I recommend you approach 10 girls.

qwerty2173 · 2019-11-18T02:53:59+00:00

How many approaches is a few? It’s gonna take at least a week or 2 of approaching almost every day to start seeing some improvement. If you’ve done 3 approaches within the past 2 months then you’re not going to improve, no matter how many videos you watch.

Hubblenobbin · 2019-11-18T13:33:22+00:00

You have one and only one problem: you need to be approaching closer to 70 girls a week. No I am not exaggerating in the least. 30 bare minimum.

HighValueDayGame · 2019-11-18T16:26:41+00:00

I got bitter and fed-up roughly six months into my journey, since I was not getting the result I wanted. First off, I stopped meeting women in unfavourable environments (online dating, nightgame). Then, I took a break and focused my efforts only abroad for a while. I talk about that extensively here, feel free to skip directly to "phase 4:"

The five phases of an Improvement Journey

Seems like you are doing daygame already, which is good, but it comes with a bigger "barrier to approach." Try going for more situational daygame rather than street cold approaching only.

Also, what you see online by the dating coaches is only theory and some of their best sets. They get rejected A LOT like everyone else, but they just seem to be comfortable with going through that amount of rejections. I'd say if you want to live this lifestyle, you need to be ok to be rejected a lot, since rejection is intrinsic to all forms of game (in online dating is transparent to you though, and this is why many guys are stuck over there).

Most important of all, girls are only secondary to your life, have more things going on.

And also, with experience you will realise that things like "being ghosted after a seemingly okay approach" is part of the game as well, like may more similar things, and it goes both ways actually.

Cheers.

Title	How do you keep from getting upset/bitter about failures in game?
Author	salty03
Upvotes	6
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Date	November 18, 2019 2:28 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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