How does increased confidence lead to improved conversational skills?

WarriorHawk · 2013-08-11T19:43:09+00:00

As I am confident in myself, I will be confident in my responses. I do not sit there and try thinking of the "perfect" response to a situation, I merely converse.

One_Mat_Army · 2013-08-11T21:42:06+00:00

Topic of conversation is really unimportant. I've had some of the best conversations talking about utter shit and just having a laugh. When you're more confident you just approach conversation with a different attitude that allows you and the other person to feel comfortable talking about anything.

Topics do not matter, emotion and confidence matters.

hotvision · 2013-08-12T03:02:49+00:00

What's freezing you in conversations is your internal filter, your insecurities, i.e. "Will they like what I say? Will people respond to this story? Oh geezz"

Confidence destroys this. And naturally, your conversations flow smoother, you seem congruent. No matter what the fuck you say.

Confidence gives you congruency, which is critical to good conversations.

EDIT: This is coming from someone who has had horrible social anxiety for most of my life. But I have also had times in my life when I don't have these conversation issues, and Im the life of the party. It all boils down to confidence.

thewordofmouse · 2013-08-11T19:54:58+00:00

When you're confident, you let things happen as they should. The conversation therefore becomes very natural, you're generally interested in learning about the person, and generally interested in sharing your stories because you're confident in them. Talking to a confident person is a very comfortable feeling because they hold the conversation, there's no "awkward silences" or extra effort put in to try to keep the conversation alive.

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2013-08-12T06:39:41+00:00

You get outside your own head, and your thoughts about what others think of you, and instead think about the people you are with, and what they are saying

2013-08-12T08:19:44+00:00

It doesnt hurt to know some more "outer game" conversational tips. Like multi-threading. But if your inner game is complete it doesnt nearly matter as much. As has been said its more about how you say things than what you say.

Stand up tall. Project your voice. Be outcome independant. Dont give a shit. AND HAVE FUN FOR GODS SAKE

If you're having fun and confident in yourself that should hopefully rub off on her. If you dont have those things you could say the most perfect lines ever written but she'll walk away.

BarryBoganus · 2013-08-12T13:49:32+00:00

I am not here to bash rsa but it is only one third to making up your inner game, going through that stuff like David de Anglos "how to be a man" or "how to be an alpha male" really helps your state and that's where you should really start.

Next for you inner game is your avatar building, this makes any rejections or any feeling of AA go away because it's not you, it's your avatar. This is how you build something you would find interesting. Go out and look around, see people that take your eye, and emulate them.

DO NOT COPY THESE PEOPLE

Mix and match, my avatar "El Tigre" looks like a stereotype villian from a bad action movie. Jackets with singlets or t shirt with open button up. These are not me, but when I'm El Tigre I'm a badass that will talk to everyone

The third part to your inner game should be organising your life, how are you so post to take care of a girl in your life if you can't take care of yourself.

Go for walks (or runs) every second day, eat healthier (I'm not saying a diet, but do you really need another slice of cake) fix up your house/room. This will make you feel better about yourself.

Why this matters? If your inner game is solid your outer game glows, with strong inner game you should feel little to no AA. Everything gets easier with strong inner game

Title	How does increased confidence lead to improved conversational skills?
Author	PowerofShadow
Upvotes	5
Comments	12
Date	August 11, 2013 7:33 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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