How does one handle drama?

Emxif · 2016-05-03T15:19:09+00:00

First of all, you handle drama by not getting into it. This is a consequence of you sleeping with a girl with a boyfriend in a situation where you have no exit strategy. You're going to have to suck it up to a certain point. If you want to, show somebody the proof in the texts. You're not innocent here so there's not much to be done. Learn from this and take accountability.

Second this is high school man. People are insecure and underdeveloped. People probably don't care anyway. Stop worrying about your power. People will believe/think whatever they want to think. Focus on acting right in the future and you won't get in these situations.

Yankee_Fever · 2016-05-03T17:12:14+00:00

Use this as a lesson. You acted on emotion and got burnt. If you were thinking with your head you would have realized that she has the social power to cut you off.

It's a lesson that we all learn at some point, just be happy to have learned it at 17 instead of your mid 20s.

Eclipticc · 2016-05-03T16:10:11+00:00

Yeah just don't bother what people are saying. Drama has this awful effect that the more you worry about it and "try to fix it", the worse it gets.

And besides, you're in high school dude. Soon you'll get a nice restart anyway.

TheMadMax · 2016-05-03T16:11:28+00:00

One of the primary traits of a lover type is that you keep it on the down low!

which made me message him and tell him that I've been sleeping with her for the last couple months, along with a bunch of the screenshots of our texts, not to destroy their relationship but because it seemed morally right.

Nothing about any of that is morally right.

He either didn't believe me or didn't care; either way, both of them blocked me on all social media.

It's because you acted out of desperation and allowed him to gain the upper hand. He probably wouldn't even want to be with this girl if it weren't such sweet revenge on you. He can always think to himself that he won.

Chalk this up as a loss (a big one) and don't do it again. I've been in affairs that lasted for several years and never once did I bring the affair to light. You had a great opportunity to have the upper hand throughout the situation, and you really blew it.

Forget about the girl and the guy and just move on with your life. Don't make this mistake again. If you're doing something on the down low, keep it on the down low.

billypersona · 2016-05-03T15:41:10+00:00

Your ego is f@#king you up. The thing is, everyone is judged all the time, but at the same time, nobody cares. Yeah they may talk/joke about your previous situation. What you gotta do is simple, don't give a f@$k, act like you normally would, like a alpha, even better, you fk'd her while she was on a relationship, told her partner because it felt right ( gentleman trait right there! ) and they both just ''rejected'' you? Not even a fight/intimidation with the boyfriend? Man, this should give you a boost of confidence not the oposite like it's happening, because of what you wrote, i assure you that you are viewed as a ''force to be reckoned with''

_stz · 2016-05-03T18:07:44+00:00

I find it odd and borderline non believable that you told the bf about the relationship for moral reasons. You started sleeping with her while you knew she had a boyfriend, but that was ok. Then she lied to you, you figured out it was a lie and then waited until april 1st to tell the bf? Nah sounds like you did it for your own personal reasons and got burned.

Woujo · 2016-05-03T14:27:29+00:00

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Title	How does one handle drama?
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Upvotes	4
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Date	May 3, 2016 2:21 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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