An hour ago, a girl ended the 'benefits' part of friends with benefits. I feel horrible right now - because it ended because of my incompetency.

Here are the reasons according to her

  • most importantly - I sucked in bed because of inexperience (PE, couldn't get her off on two consequetive nights) - I actually lost my virginity to her but didn't tell her that I was inexperienced

  • She doesn't want bad reputation (slut-shaming) in school. Where I as a guy will be treated as a God for sleeping around with no strings attached - she will be slut shamed.

My personal issues that she didn't notice: - I was falling for her. However, I scaled back my feelings in a few days and disconnected emotion from sex.

She said she thought the idea of FWB was fun but ours wasn't 'fun'.

I wish I had lost my virginity to someone that I didn't find attractive/ was okay losing so that I could've used my experience with a hot chick. It feels good to lose virginity to someone people say is the best looking girl in school but not being able to perform is worse. I'm 99% sure this would've worked out if I had been able to satisfy her in bed.

This subreddit and all the PUA info you learn focuses a lot on getting a girl to your bed. However, if you cannot satisfy a woman in bed - she has no reason to come back. There should be ample focus on teaching people to be better in bed, especially for virgin guys to look experienced.

TLDR: Don't suck in bed.