How many times during a week should couples spend time together in the beginning of a relationship?

Lord_Asmodeus93 · 2024-06-09T08:20:16+00:00

2 times per week. Ideally one is a date night and the other is a Chill night at home.

If you want him to spend more time with you, I'd suggest talking to him openly about it, in a mature discussion. Just don't force it upon him, it'll have the opposite results.

Keep in mind the two of you might not be on the same page. And that's ok. Open communication can help solve lots of problems.

petorious08 · 2024-06-09T08:05:11+00:00

Granted this is early on and you have some feels. Try and step out of those and see how he’s feeling when you’re with him. Attached, avoidant, etc. if he’s giving you all the good vibes, you should say what’s on your mind. Don’t wait for him to try and figure it out. Guys will keep walking down a road if they don’t see a problem.

Short-College1047 · 2024-06-09T07:09:43+00:00

If you guys talk all day, non-stop, messaging on text, Instagram, Snapchat, even the occasional TikTok video sent, and things are still active in that sense! I don’t think there’s a need to worry or be anxious, sometimes things move slow for the best! I’d say see how it goes over the next month, & once you hit that two month mark start asking if maybe he wants to spend more time together

Boringwallz · 2024-06-09T16:19:08+00:00

I’m no expert but once or twice a week is fine. A FaceTime call if there’s something to talk about or even just a short 2-5 minute hey how are things going wouldn‘t go amiss. I prefer that over text messages. Do you find yourself physically missing him? If not what other reason do you want to spend time with him? Does it seem mutual if at all?

Awsumguy68 · 2024-06-09T20:57:06+00:00

Speak with him about seeing each other for a quick meet up during the week (just once a week). Something simple like a quick coffee or really chill that doesn't require a lot of effort to do for an hour or two. If he's already spending the night at your place he may want that space during the week especially this early on. Don't pressure him either, but check his body language and his energy while you're with him. If he doesn't check off your vibe boxes, you might want to end things early before you get even more attached to him.

You can also try pulling back your communication to test the waters. I know it's hard not to take your mind off him, but ALWAYS do your thing and focus on doing those.

Just_bad_with_names · 2024-06-10T12:18:52+00:00

You may have anxious attachment, dealing with someone with secure or even avoidant attachment. You have different ways to show your feelings of love, and that is a fact that /cannot/ be changed. You can, however, change your expectations, or talk about it -> but in this case, you are not the one in the right, nor is he. It's just a mismatch, not a right/wrong situation. He may love you even more than you do, but he has a different way of showing it than you.

And true, you may find his attention lacking when you compare him to love bombers, or the guys that lie to you early on and put a facade of interest, giving you what you want short-term. (because it's a more successful strategy), but the experience may be more rewarding long term.

Depends what you want out of a relationship. Because love isn't measured in number of texts or number of nights out.

And if you're craving attention, a relationship is not a place to find it. You'll enjoy plenty more attention while single.

So either: 1. one of you makes an effort to change ( and seeing how you are the anxious one, it's likely change wont occur from your part ) or 2. you go separate ways, find someone who gives you the attention you want. Be careful about lovebombers / fake people that only give you attention for a short period of time.

kingtechllc · 2024-06-09T12:38:55+00:00

Is the reason you guys don’t hangout more than once is because HES busy or YOU’RE BUSY. And what does he do that makes him “busy”. Also he should be texting you more, you’re his girlfriend, maybe the future mother to his kids one day, he should want to talk to you, texting takes seconds.

Title	How many times during a week should couples spend time together in the beginning of a relationship?
Author	NectarineLate5884
Upvotes	13
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Date	June 9, 2024 7:01 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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