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How stop seeking validation from girls ? And why do we seek validation from girls ?

BigBoss919 · 2022-03-18T17:03:36+00:00

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March 18, 2022

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Title	How stop seeking validation from girls ? And why do we seek validation from girls ?
Author	BigBoss919
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	March 18, 2022 5:03 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/th6jid/how_stop_seeking_validation_from_girls_and_why_do/
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Because you don’t believe you are good enough for her, you believe you are of no value to her and that you don’t deserve her. So by seeking validation you hope to give her reasons as to why she should choose you.

People who believe are good enough for them usually are confident in themselves they believe that they are fun people to be around her, they believe they are equals to her and don’t need to prove anything to her, believe that they are a good catch because they feel good about themselves, they feel good about how they look and about their social skills.

People who don’t believe they are good enough, don’t really like themselves, they believe their looks are not pretty, they dislike their looks, they also feel like they have flaws that the girl won’t like. This is why they need to seek validation because they don’t validate themselves, they need others to validate them and make the feel like they are enough.

Unfortunately, this mindset is bad when talking to girls, if a girl sees that you don’t feel good enough what she does is that she believes you, she feels there must be a good reason as to why you don’t believe you are good enough because who else would know better than you about whether you are good enough or not right?

So, you have to work on accepting yourself, you need to choose to accept your flaws, accept that you don’t need to be perfect and that it’s fine to have flaws, and improve those things that can be improved like your physique, stop comparing yourself to others and instead compare yourself to who you were yesterday t o appreciate how much you have improved in relation to who you were in the past

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