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[–]1stPersoninfields 9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (25 children) | Copy Link
This was me when I was 20. Now it is me when I am 30! Nothing has changed, so I don't know the answer.
[–]CidaoBarreto 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What have you tried so far? Do you think you struggle more with the results or with the action itself?
[–]1stPersoninfields 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Daygame-watch my video thread by clicking on my user.
[–]Sammyjskj 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
You still a virgin?
[–]1stPersoninfields 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link
I'm not, but only because I had sex with prostitutes since I was 25. Sex is too good to miss out on, even if it's paid for. I wish I did it when I was 18, but back then I still wanted to have sex the "normal" way.
[–]Sammyjskj 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link
Damn. You single right now? What's your hobbies? Have you read any of those recommended books? Are you fit or fat?
[–]Sammyjskj 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm 17 but I've been with my fair share of girls. Maybe I could help ya out?
[–]1stPersoninfields 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
I've been single 30+ years. As for hobbies, many. As for books, as many coaches say "get out in the field instead of reading books" which is what I've done. There is plenty of content readily available online, but being able to implement it is another thing. Check out my videos to see how my interactions normally go, they can tell you more than I can on here in text.
[–]Sammyjskj 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
Ok, so I can already see your first problem. Don't do that thing with the bike, where you do like a drift and stop the girls. Just roll besides them and ask for directions or something. Don't say I'm trying to talk to girls.
What you have to know is to say what ever the fuck you want. It's your life, so fuck the norms. If you want to talk to a girl, then go and talk to her, but don't say I want to talk to her. Ask her for direction, what the clock is. Thats the best openers. Then after you can ask like what bus are you taking (if you asked her at the bus station).
One of the things my girlfriend loves about me, is that I'm random af and do what I want to do.
You do have best friends, right?
[–]1stPersoninfields 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
I had a friend who I used to go out for daygame with, but after a few incidents caused by my approaching, he stopped.
[–]Sammyjskj 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, screw daygame. Night game is where you'll get the pussy
[–]1stPersoninfields 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don't drink alcohol or like fights. I am an intellectual so I won't do nightclub game.
I dont like fights either, but you can still have fun in the city. I've never been to a fight ever while going out. You don't have to drink either. It actually creates a character that girls like. It shows you have willpower or something
[–]Sammyjskj 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
But my point with the best friend comment is to treat girls just like that. And kino is important too. Don't be afraid to touch them (don't touch their tits or anything like that) but like a touch their shoulder or something.
I got an example: Had this girl in Spanish class. We've never really talked together, but our teacher set us into a group together. I don't do anything in class, so I was just preparing for my driving test, but sometimes I'd suggest an answer that was wrong. By doing that, I got an excuse to grab the girl's shoulder and say sorry. That's kino. After I noticed, that the girl started doing the same thing to me. See now my kino became a success. After the Spanish test was done, I asked her if she has her driving license, which she does but failed 2 times. Sweet another topic to talk to her about. I then asked her for help with my driving test (didn't need it, but I fed the conversation). Then I left. See bro. It's not that hard.
Remember, don't be afraid to tease girls. It's Hella fun to do, and spikes the conversation. Don't say she's ugly, but do like a push pull. I do it all the time, it's fun af.
For example: if she does something weird, tell her that she's weird, but you love it
[–]1stPersoninfields 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
I see. The friend who I used to do daygame with was actually a nightgamer. He swore by nightgame and said it was easier. Also you have reason to believe everyone there is 18+ which isn't something you can take for granted in daygame, as I've found out on a few occasions!
I agree with you on the teasing bit. On a few approaches it's gone really well and I've felt good from it, but it makes me sad as I wish I coulda done that back in 2008, when I was 18.
I feel like there is a big void from all the female interaction that I have missed over the years and that makes it extra tricky for me to game. Also since my teens women have made me really, really nervous and shaky due to social anxiety, so it's tricky to think in the heat of the moment most of the time, unless I get one that I really "click" with.
Thanks for your help anyway.
[–]Sammyjskj 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah ofc bro.
What kind of social anxiety do you have? What are you afraid of will happen if you talk to someone?
[–]1stPersoninfields1 point 6 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
All sorts of things can happen. One time a woman went crazy at me in H&M for saying she looked nice. She was shaking with anger and called a store clerk over and complained about me to him. I tried to explain but he said I was harassing her and he would call the police if I didn't leave. Another time a girl turned out to be 15 and the dad went crazy in my face when he saw me walking around the same shopping mall looking for overaged girls (I got a video of that one if you want to see it!) And I've been in trouble at work for trying to talk to chicks as well as kicked out of two different shopping malls and one supermarket. So yeah, a lot can and will happen from just talking to someone!
[–]Sammyjskj1 point 6 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
That's where daygame differs from night game. You can say shit like that (you look nice). I mean you can, but have to watch out with it. I wouldn't say that to a girl during daygame unless we've had a conversation that lasted some time.
During night game you can easily say that and even open with that, but I don't like that approach. I just talk to the girls and then I'll say like: your shirt is weird, but you look nice in it (if she has like a shirt with something on it that's out of the norm). Be commanding too. Don't like tell her to sit the fuck down, but lead her. Bring her drinks and tell her to drink or something (unless she's drunk AF then just bring her a glass of water).
I don't know if you smoke, but having a pack of smokes while going it, helps a lot to start conversations (night game). Some girls will approach you and you can even approach girls and ask for a lighter (great opener) this way you can proceed the conversation with something like having fun or something.
Push and pull is a great technique if you're a teasing guy naturally.
Remember: don't put the pussy on a pedestal. A girl is the same as a boy and treat her like you treat her best friend.
Having fun by yourself is the way to go
[–]Sammyjskj 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I have an example for your social anxiety too: I've had one incident where the girl didn't like me at all. She owed me a beer after a game of foosball, but told me she didn't have a phone or anything on her. Now I didn't believe her and checked her pocket that's at her thigh (stupid, but I thought I could, because we've been talking for some time) NOPE. she got hella angry at me and stood me up. I imagine you're afraid of something like that too, but fuuuuuuuuuck that bro. Have fun. I just said sorry and went my way... Not every girl will like your kino, but screw that. Move to the next one. That girl still hates me to this day ahahahahha, but I'm all good. Her reaction didn't spite me at all
It would have spited you if she'd have gone to the police. Take a look at this story
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7557947/Shy-awkward-student-19-faces-JAIL-sex-assault-conviction.html
There's a hell of a lot wrong doings in that boy's behaviour. How he approached her was fucket up. He was nervous as hell, and the touching just didn't come naturally at all. You don't touch a girls waist at all in the beginning. Only when you're friends and shit. I touch a girl's waist if I need to go past her. Overall the things that boy did was wrong af. Do everything naturally.
Don't be afraid to kino at all. A good exercise I did was to just touch people more. Boys and girls. Just hug them, touch a shoulder etc. But not during daygame. Just your everyday life. When you're with friends, at work or during night game. Kino isn't that great during daygame
You are missing the irony of what you are saying. You sound like a natural, but not everyone is. Not everyone knows what's going to happen if they approach, or kino. I have only kino'ed once in daygame (flicked her hair) and probably won't do so again, unless a chick is really friendly. You don't understand how easy things are for you as a natural. Can you blame that young man for being nervous? I was almost exactly like him when I was 19, being around women made me almost have a panic attack from anxiety. It's hard to think straight and if you don't have that problem you are lucky. The difference was I avoided female interaction completely when I was 19, for fear of that kind of thing happening to me. Now I regret it but that story and others like it reminds me that the danger is very real from female interaction unless you are a natural.
That's where you are wrong. Some part of me is natural but some ain't. When I was a kid till 2-3 years ago, I was hella scared of girls too. never talked to them, approached them. Didn't dare to look at them. I only stuck to the boys, but I came to the realization that we're just a like.
I'd suggest you to not think about getting laid and getting a girlfriend, but just to have fun and get more female friends.
[–]1xltP3mgkiF91 point 6 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Same here, almost 38 years old. Quite skilled socially but ugly beyond repair.
[–]tcreo 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
without destroying my reputation
What kind of reputation are you trying to protect exactly? There is nothing wrong in expressing interest in a girl. Small town is tough not because of reputation but because of limited options. If you think you've really exhausted all available options I'd advise you to consider relocating. It's easier said by done but that's what I did and I lost my v-card shortly after. I was older than you back then (24) so you don't have to stress too much about it.
[–]quinnmcd[M] [score hidden] 6 years ago stickied comment (0 children) | Copy Link
This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.
Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like:
As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.
Here's some Beginner Material
[–]bettermyself365 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Surround yourself with people who are sexually experienced. They usually have different mindsets and dont take no for an answer.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey man! If you want to date try online dating, if something else use the app called meetup where you meet people with different interests or similar to yours and from there you will improve your social skills without feeling anxious or nervous. It’s about being patient and quick thinking on your feet and being witty. And also be alone once in a while to discover who you really are by writing journal or do meditation to cool your mind and being present in the moment.
[–]SeanTYH 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same situation, am a Malaysian in Hong Kong. Tried online dating but everyone here just flakes and ghosts. For now I m guessing it's on me, so I ll probably work on myself a bit more :/
[–]Paltenburg -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Tinder works out for me.
Be casual about it though, like talking to people in a bar. Enjoy the chatting, be curious about the people you talk to, and once in a while you hit it off with someone and you go for a drink. If you do thát regularly, your changes of getting laid get increasingly higher.
Don't forget to enjoy the interaction. If you're the type that gets bitter after the 3rd girl you talk to still hasn't slept with you, no one's ever going to anyway.
Post your profile on the sticky topic on /r/tinder for free advice.
[–]tac15 -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Im in a similar situation lol living in a small canadian town in the winter, and been socially absent, but ive had a few opportunities (usually like once a month or less lol) when i see a pretty girl in public by chance and I didn’t approach her end up regretting it for a week, so like me i suggest, just say fuck it lol
[–]Monspeeto0 points 6 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Don't know how the atmosphere is in your town, but if it's as small as I'm imagining it to be, my advice is, "just say hi". You don't have to force to impress, and it would be good to keep the 'wanting to get laid' mentality on the down low for the first couple of meetings(unless of course she pushes for it). But the thing is, it can't get any worse. Just say hi bro! But I would like to know, are there girls your age in the town or just in your college?
[–]plutus69 -5 points-4 points-3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Buy an escort or Dating apps. What choice do you have being in isolation and awful logistics?
If still can't get laid. The last resort will be sex dolls for your situation.
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